Antonio1981

Curious to know if anyone has attended the Blatino Oasis weekend event held annually in Palm Springs (except for 20/21 due to Covid)? I know this event caters to men who are black or brown, but curious to know how the vibe would be for someone not black or brown attending. I understand all are welcome in the spirit of inclusivity, but don’t want to feel super uncomfortable if I choose to attend. 
 

if anyone who is not a POC and has attended, I would be interested to hear your experience. The event is coming up in May 2022.

20 hours ago, alrajee said:

I got a free 7-day subscription to his OF a couple of years ago, when he was still in NYC. Content is a good mix of nude solos and him having sex (there were also some fisting vids but I am not into that).

Not sure if he shifted to PPV now, as many accounts have done to really get as much cash from their subscribers, or if the content's all available after paying the monthly fee.

Thanks for the feedback. I would love to see his sex videos but his overview summarizes his fan page as tasteful but not “porn”. 

Curious to know if anyone subscribes to this guys Only Fans account? He is a model who has had some NSFW photos leaked a few times over the years. Would love to know if his OnlyFans is worth subscribing?  Interested to see if there are any updated NSFW photos or videos that he shares. 
 

https://onlyfans.com/laurentxiv

3 hours ago, BuzzLiteQueer said:

I contacted him when his ad was first up in mid summer.  He was responsive and sweet.  He agreed to an erotic encounter but for $600 an hour!  I found his Instagram (his finance is also hot, IMHO) and then subscribed to his OF account for a month.  The photos in his ad are accurate.  The OF account was a waste of time and $ because no sensual or erotic content; only very short solo vids of him.  I have moved on.

Can you share his Instagram link?

4 hours ago, nate_sf said:

Nothing in SF, nothing, nada. Some gogo dancers in a few of the bars, but that's it.

I haven’t been to SF in 10 years. I’m definitely planning a trip back very soon. There were a couple of places that had sleazy type dancers and a raunchy environment. I think they were in SOMA. Or was it the Castro? Folsom Gulch - did they have a space in a basement or lower level? There was an Asian bar on Polk/Sacramento (?)   What bars/clubs have dancers now?

As much as this topic is heart wrenching and difficult, it’s enlightening to know that it seems common to share these struggles with aging parents and finding appropriate living assistance. I’ve already got one parent in a private caring home due to his stroke. That was very difficult because he wanted to “go home” for the first 6 months (it’s been 18 months now and I don’t foresee him going home). My mother is 81yo, living at home but relies on us kids for assistance. She went from living with dad for 55 years to now living alone. Because of covid, they don’t see each other more than 5-6 times a year. I wonder how lonely she is with the sudden life change. She’s also hearing impaired so we worry about emergencies, etc.  She’s extremely stubborn and getting her to an assisted living facility is out of the question (as far as she is concerned). 

19 minutes ago, jrhoutex said:

 

Assisting living facilities are ever changing based on the demographics they serve.  I’m starting to see more facilities opening up with upscale accommodations and rooftop restaurants and lounges.  

I placed my mother in an assisting living facility for a few years before she had a stroke and need nursing home care.  She had become a prison in her own home as she could no longer drive herself and most all of her friends had passed.  She finally agreed to move and the first 3 years she really flourished.  She met new people and became more social.  The facility had all sorts of daily activities and social time just to meet and mingle with others.  They took residents out on weekly adventures for those who were mobile.  It was much better than staying home with no social contact.  One has to be prepared for folks leaving the facility for more advanced care.  I don’t recall residents with dementia at her facility.  Years later when my aunt moved to a nursing home, they had a separate wing for the dementia patients.  Once my mother went to a nursing home, the stroke left her bed ridden and a memory of living in the past.  I remember having conversations with her and what she remembered was all true, it just happened 20 years in the past.  It wasn’t long until she stopped talking all together.

 

This is heartbreaking. I’m sorry. 

1 hour ago, nycman said:

Where’s the option for "yes"?

While I don’t love the idea, I realize that at a certain point it’s a reality.
Watching older people cling to their imagined "independence" of living at home alone is a sad, sad, joke.
They end up being a huge burden to everyone one around them and to distant great nieces who barley know them as well. 

I had to shop around for my mother not too long ago. One place was so nice that I seriously wanted to move in (too young).
It was 100 times nicer than any place my mother had ever lived. She thankfully had enough resources to live there for decades.
She lasted less than 3 days and miraculous got her "bed bound" ass back to her house 45 miles away without me finding out.
She also fired her "24/7 at home help" that she had used to hoodwink the care center, in less than 8 hours. The results were 
predictable but those were her wishes. So be it. 

I often think people who can afford care and refuse it, are selfish assholes or just plain stupid. 

I believe a lot of it has to do with just being stubborn. At least that is the situation with my mother who is 81, hearing impaired but refuses to make any adjustments to her life as long as her kids and grandkids are available to assist. It has caused a lot of friction with my siblings and even some sort of resentment at times from us and the grandkids. We are just taking things day by day. I do my best to channel my frustrations elsewhere, but there are days I come across as the parent and my mother acting like a child. 

47 minutes ago, Luv2play said:

As one gets older, one becomes familiar with situations where family or friends end up in senior living facilities. I have had some experience with this. On the other hand I have seen people I know stay to the end of their lives in their homes.

For myself, I fervently hope I can stay in my home until the end. Moving to a residence means giving up most of one's possessions and familiar surroundings, like neighborhood and people one sees every week.

When my father moved into a residence at the age of 85 after his second wife had died, he told me the worst thing was that people around him, table mates and others, were constantly  disappearing. Everything else was fine, nice surroundings, good food, and pleasant staff. It got depressing. He was there for more than three years and was ready to go at the end.

 

This is sad, but truthful. My dad is in an assisted living home at age 80 due to a stroke. I get to see him weekly and take him to physical therapy, etc.   He told me that the service and accommodations are great, but it’s the residents that make the place depressing. He spoke about some residents having dementia, some passing away, etc.  I wish there was alternative. 

On 8/24/2021 at 10:02 PM, JayMR07 said:

Anyone know of any guys that offer waxing services? Bonus if they enjoy a little play time before or after 

https://losangeles.craigslist.org/lac/bts/d/los-angeles-best-m4male-waxing-body/7379990370.html
 

ive been to Victor from this CL ad, as well as Gregg who was recommended from another member. Both do a good job 

3 hours ago, 7829V said:

Yeah. The thumbtack guy is not in Los Angeles. He lives in San Diego. 

Correct. Dylan Nerd w/ Big Hands is the guy in LA who gives and amazing massage and “works” the legs and glute area with enthusiasm. 

On 9/15/2021 at 9:46 AM, Rod Hagen said:

I use a graston on myself, but wouldn't be comfortable using it on someone else, requires specific training.  My graston is very simple:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00H1NDIGW/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1

actually, it's a scraping device in the "graston" toolkit.

 

Good luck!

 

 

Curious to know if it’s painful when you’re scraping over a muscle group or area? I have a high tolerance for pain, but the red marks makes me wonder if it feels as bad as it looks?

Does anyone know a masseur who offers the Graston Technique or Guasha in the LA/Weho area? I’m looking for a legit session and someone trained on how to scrape and break up some challenging muscle adhesions/knots. I’m not interested in going to a physical therapist if possible. Prefer an independent masseur or body worker. 

I’ve seen them around in the Thousand Oaks area. She seems happy and comfortable with him. He also appears to treat her well. Maybe it’s just the skeptic in me. I agree that it would be hard to be around her 24/7. 

The timing of this engagement is suspect. I truly hope he isn’t after her money now that she was able to end the conservatorship. I hope she has him sign a prenup. Kevin Federline was a freeloader who received alimony. 

On 9/12/2021 at 8:36 AM, Pensant said:

I was a member of Kappa Sigma at a liberal arts college that had just recently gone coed after 181 years. Since the drinking age was 21 at the time, frats were the main outlets for drinking and partying in a competitive academic environment. I enjoyed it for a few years, but grew bored with it my junior year and went inactive. Unfortunately, the college’s census of hot boys was pretty limited, so my gay interactions were with the “townies” who found a preppy twink hot. We used to have bus loads of girls from private women’s colleges come up for parties. I was still into girls at the time and dated a few of them. I’d rate the whole experience as a “meh”. I can’t imagine any of the brothers were gay, but who knew at the time?

AEKDB

13 hours ago, Cash4Trash said:

Kappa Sig - came out with the fraternity president. 

AEKDB

3 hours ago, Lucky said:

Happy Birthday, @Antonio1981!!!

Thanks for the birthday wishes! 

55 minutes ago, Just Sayin said:

mine has an annual summer gathering for guys who were in the house during the years I was there; I went a few years ago and it was great fun; we all interacted in the same manner as 50 years ago except the topics tended to be our own surgeries and deciding when to put our parents in assisted living!

Oh gosh, those topics are the story of my current life! Just today, I was trying to map out when it will be time to move my parents into assisted living. 

That’s awesome! 45 pledges is a large class. I still get my fraternity’s quarterly magazine and I follow our national fraternity on Twitter. And I also get the “Alumni Dues” monthly email requests. Lol. It’s surprising how large some of the pledge classes are. Especially in the south,  Some of the class sizes are between 50-70 strong. 
 

in my school here in SCal, fraternity size averaged 60-80 actives, 10-20 pledges each semester. 
 

the Greek system has evolved so much. Being an alumni, it is clearly run as a business nationally. There are so many guidelines that the chapters need to follow to be compliant with both the university and national headquarters. My nephew is planning to rush at my alma mater and I’m super excited for him. 

43 minutes ago, Pensant said:

I was a member of Kappa Sigma at a liberal arts college that had just recently gone coed after 181 years. Since the drinking age was 21 at the time, frats were the main outlets for drinking and partying in a competitive academic environment. I enjoyed it for a few years, but grew bored with it my junior year and went inactive. Unfortunately, the college’s census of hot boys was pretty limited, so my gay interactions were with the “townies” who found a preppy twink hot. We used to have bus loads of girls from private women’s colleges come up for parties. I was still into girls at the time and dated a few of them. I’d rate the whole experience as a “meh”. I can’t imagine any of the brothers were gay, but who knew at the time?

What school did you attend?

It’s funny how I was 100% involved with my fraternity for 4 years and had the best experience. I thought I would be connected to my friends for a lifetime, but once I graduated, my social group changed and I haven’t been in contact with anyone. I had a desire to reconnect with a few, especially those from my pledge class so I did some searches on LinkedIn, social media and thru other search engines. I found quite a few, but haven’t pursued much since. Not sure why I haven’t followed thru. Seems kind of awkward to reappear after 30+ years? I wish I would have stayed connected to those I was close to 

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/35829/
 

this guy wore a mask during our session. 

Has anyone stayed at the vista Grande resort? Hoping to find accommodations that mirror the Hacienda or Santiago, but they book very quickly. I’m a bit fussy with hotel rooms and appreciate comfort and cleanliness. 

With the school year underway for Fall 2021, I was just wondering if any members were in a college fraternity? For me, it was over 30 years ago but really enjoyed the experience.