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    Showering with the masseurs

    in Spas & Masseurs

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    There was a guy in LA a few years back that did the hour massage then took a shower with you to get all the oil off. First time he said “stay here while I turn the shower on”. He came back in and put his hand out to help me up. I followed him into the bathroom. He got in first and I followed. Very fun surprise. Saw him many times, same routine.

     

    Are you able to share which masseur in LA joined you in the shower? Sounds fun!

    Parent having a stroke

    in The Lounge

    Posted

    My condolences for your brother. A skilled nursing facility/nursing home probably isn't a good long-term solution for a number of reasons. After several weeks, physical therapy isn't needed or really beneficial. Any benefit will be noted in the first 6-8 weeks or so. Also, staying in a SNF is both less pleasant and more expensive than staying at home with custodial care. The absolute maximum time Medicare will pay for nursing care is 100 days per illness, so you have to decide what to do after that, unless your father has long-term care insurance or very deep pockets. You say your mother can't care for him, but you didn't say what it was about his care that she couldn't provide. Does he need full assistance to be transferred from bed to wheelchair, and to the shower, etc.? Home health care agencies have people who can do that sort of stuff. With two 8-hour shifts, the morning shift can get him out of bed, cleaned, etc., then the evening shift can help get him into bed. Home healthcare workers typically don't make much more than minimum wage. If you use an agency, you'll pay a bit more, but they'll handle insurance, background checks. etc. Assisted-living facilities are also much more pleasant and less expensive than SNF's. Medicare or insurance will often pay for equipment needed to get people in bed, transferred to wheelchairs, shower seats, etc. If we know more about the help your father needs, we can probably give more specific suggestions.

     

    Thank you for sharing this feedback. He has been in a SNF now for 5 days so it's still hard to determine his needs. Especially with the lockdown, I can't physically go in and assess his condition or progress other than a phone conversation or FaceTime. His speech is impaired so I chat have a conversation with him. As of now, it seems like they are trying to control his blood pressure, appetite and the cause of a fever he had a few days ago. The right side of his body has been affected as well as his ability to control his bowels/bladder which means he will need full home assistance with feeding and changing. We have good and rough days. Some days he can say words - other days he doesn't. I can't figure out if he's frustrated or just fidgety I'm new to this and trying to focus on the improvements as a guiding light. Thank you for listening. I'm trying to be the calm and collected

    Parent having a stroke

    in The Lounge

    Posted

    Thank you all for the overwhelming and outpouring of advice, suggestions and support. It's truly appreciated ? Due to hospital and SNF lockdown, I still have not seen my dad but have multi- daily updates.

     

    We got him into an SNF on Wednesday afternoon and thought All was well since the hospital had told us that all vitals were good, his brain bleed was improving. He also tested negative for Covid before leaving the hospital. Got information this morning that dad might have pneumonia and on light oxygen. I'm shocked. Less than 24 hours from hospital to SNF.

     

    Again, not sure why I'm posting other than to find an outlet since I remain fairly private with those around me (work). I haven't been very spiritual in the past, but I've been praying a lot lately and looking for any glimpse of positivity.

    Parent having a stroke

    in The Lounge

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    Hi, I'm not sure why I'm posting other than to look for some comfort and positive thoughts on the subject of stroke

     

    I've had a tough 4 months. My younger brother passed away in November at the age of 47. Last week, my dad suffered a Hemorrhagic (?) stroke according to the attending physician. He is 79 years old and used to an active and involved parent and grandparent.

     

    I'm currently looking for a skilled nursing facility that can provide 24 hr care for him and hope he recovers enough to bring him home. He needs 75% assistance with feeding and changing. His speech is slurred and challenging. I'm told by the doctor that a SNF is best because they a,so provide physical therapy 3-4 days a week.

     

    Again, I don't really know why I'm posting this other than to get this off my mind. My mother isn't capable of providing home care for him at this time although we all really want him to be home. My 19yo nephew is extremely close to his grandfather and I'm worried about how much sorrow he can handle (his dad passed in November)

     

    I'm new to this and realize my parents are getting old and this is my new reality. I'm known to internalize my worries/feelings and keep moving forward. I've gotten some encouraging and amazing advice from forum members on other topics in the past and it helped me so much.

     

    Any insight on how to handle the sorrow, hope and faith for a better outcome would be greatly appreciated. He has been a fighter all his life.

    401k advice

    in The Lounge

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    So I just found out today that my company will not be able to matching employee contributions to our 401k retirement plan for the 2020 fiscal year.

     

    Should I take a year off making contributions to my account? With no company match and the volatile stock market, is it safer (or wise) to put my contribution for the year into a savings account? My 401k has dropped $150k in just 2 short months! I'm trying to stop the bleeding as best I can even though I understand that markets go thru cycles - especially with this pandemic that is wreaking havoc on our economy.

     

    I am 56 and have another decade before retirement is an option. I appreciate any advice that is shared.

    Worst Ever Massage

    in Spas & Masseurs

    Posted

    Guy near Nashville - kept zoning out like Bran from Game Of Thrones. Hands would stop moving but the clock wouldn’t. Seriously creepy. Could not wait to get out of there. Wasn’t sure if he was having seizures? It was odd as hell.

     

    Next, a guy in San Jose who has a huge piece of meat. I showed up for a massage and he basically stripped down and plopped it in my face, like - “aren’t you lucky a am huge. And you can pay to suck it?”

     

    I called it and left. Arrogant jerk.

     

    I think I've been to the guy in San Jose? He was huge and uncut, had a good body - I think he was a personal trainer, but clearly baiting guys to blow him.

    Chris Strokes - Straight Pornstar

    in The Lounge

    Posted

    Please everyone do not in any way follow Chris, at this moment in time he promises certain things like custom vids but he is only scamming followers into sending him money to one of several payment apps. DO NOT SEND HIM MONEY you won’t get anything in return

     

    I've seen his posts - hustling for money and people to join his OF account. He keeps referring to himself as Baby Daddy? I'm guessing his girlfriend is pregnant? I think his IG said his account was hacked, but it looks like a girl might be posting on it - his tattoo' ed girlfriend maybe?

    Worst Ever Massage

    in Spas & Masseurs

    Posted

    I enjoy reading these, because some are downright hysterical, and others seem like the start to a really tragic Lifetime movie.

     

    I posted this in a different thread about my worst massage.

     

    My experience with xxxxx was likely one of the worst massage experiences I have ever had. I will stay short of giving a review, but will provide these highlights:

    • the house is at the end of a sketchy street, was pretty dark, a total mess and stunk of weed
    • he took photos of my feet and legs (and who knows what else?) with his phone while I was face down and unaware (allegedly for "comparison to show how great his technique is")
    • he told me it was $50 extra for him to work nude, but he was a sweaty, chubby mess with zero ability to get an erection
    • he would not stop talking the entire time, mostly about how awesome he was, and sort of making digs about my body "if you want to lose weight you could..." but I am thinner and more muscular than him. He was like a stereotype of someone flying high on cocaine.

    In the follow-up to me posting that I started getting creepy voicemails from the provider on the google voice number I use to contact masseurs. Eventually I received a final call where the provider sounded very sorrowful, a little sniffly, and begged me to forgive and book another session for 25% off.

     

     

    Was this someone who lived in north hollywood?

    Ft. lauderdale

    in The Travel Desk

    Posted

    I am planning my first trip to Florida - Ft. Lauderdale. Would appreciate any hotel or resort recommendations, clubs, restaurants, etc.

     

    Ideally planning for a 5 day stay and interested in a clean, updated (upscale) gay resort. Clothing optional resort is ideal.

     

    Very unfamiliar with Florida, so any ideas on what to do would be appreciated.

    Palm Springs Gay Resorts

    in The Travel Desk

    Posted · Edited by Antonio1981

    So it looks like All Worlds is now at the old Inn Exile location which they purchased a few years ago. The original All Worlds is now called Exotic Dreams hotel. There is a big sign that says pool parties and day passes. Not quite sure if it's a gay or straight establishment as the massive parking lot was empty except for 2 cars. That old All Worlds location was a dump.

    Palm Springs Gay Resorts

    in The Travel Desk

    Posted

    Hi all - curious to know if anyone has stayed at the Hacienda or La Dolce Vita resorts in PS and can share feedback? I see they have a men's spa at La Dolce Vita as well? Has anyone gotten massage there?

     

    Also open to other resort suggestions - looking for clean, updated and comfort. Also a plus if the resort attracts eye candy guests ?

    LA recommendations

    in Spas & Masseurs

    Posted

     

    Can you share Manny's massage session? Feel free to send a PM. Definitely interested. Thanks

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