Aaron_Bauder

And for the love of gawd, if you're bottoming, douche.

It all boils down to respect. Disrespectful clients are the absolute worst. I'm sure clients feel the same about disrespectful escorts.
 
1) Follow instructions. If he asks you to give an ETA when you leave your place to head over, give an ETA when you leave to head over. Not 30 minutes after you leave, not when you're 5 min away. If he says to call when you park, don't just show up at his door, do what he asked you to do. If he asks you to text not call, text, don't call. If he asks to call not text, call, don't text. Not following instructions is my #1 client pet peeve.
 
Besides that, 2) being respectful of time is key. Flaking is terrible. Assuming he has unlimited time for endless small talk, or to text or chat with you while you make up your mind is also very bad. Ghosting after exchanging a ton of messages is rude. Hitting up an escort to meet with the expectation that he doesn't need any prep time is something the worst clients do. This assumption that some have that providers have no life outside of escorting and no resaponsibilities besides catering to one guy's needs is very off-putting.
 
3) And lastly, a related to all of the above, please don't treat providers like they're stupid or unworthy of respect. That's a big no-no. If he's giving you instructions, there's a smart reason for them, show respect by following them. Respect his time. Don't talk down to him. Use complete sentences -- he's not an idiot. Don't order him around (unless that's part of the scene). Don't force him to drink alcohol if he doesn't want, don't push/pull him around etc.
 
4) Be clear, concise, and direct about your needs and expectations. That solves a lot of problems. Do not force him to probe and drag it out of you what you're looking for, when, where, concerns, needs, expectations, etc. Just spit out. Tell him. It's so much easier for all involved than a neverending series of hellos, his, how/where are yous, wyd, and i like your pictures/reviews.
 
Kindness and respect go a long way. Unfortunately, the clients and escorts who need to hear this aren't on this forum.

It all boils down to respect. Disrespectful clients are the absolute worst. I'm sure clients feel the same about disrespectful escorts.
 
1) Follow instructions. If he asks you to give an ETA when you leave your place to head over, give an ETA when you leave to head over. Not 30 minutes after you leave, not when you're 5 min away. If he says to call when you park, don't just show up at his door, do what he asked you to do. If he asks you to text not call, text, don't call. If he asks to call not text, call, don't text. Not following instructions is my #1 client pet peeve.
 
Besides that, 2) being respectful of time is key. Flaking is terrible. Assuming he has unlimited time for endless small talk, or to text or chat with you while you make up your mind is also very bad. Ghosting after exchanging a ton of messages is rude. Hitting up an escort to meet with the expectation that he doesn't need any prep time is something the worst clients do. This assumption that some have that providers have no life outside of escorting and no resaponsibilities besides catering to one guy's needs is very off-putting.
 
3) And lastly, a related to all of the above, please don't treat providers like they're stupid or unworthy of respect. That's a big no-no. If he's giving you instructions, there's a smart reason for them, show respect by following them. Respect his time. Don't talk down to him. Use complete sentences -- he's not an idiot. Don't order him around (unless that's part of the scene). Don't force him to drink alcohol if he doesn't want, don't push/pull him around etc.
 
4) Be clear, concise, and direct about your needs and expectations. That solves a lot of problems. Do not force him to probe and drag it out of you what you're looking for, when, where, concerns, needs, expectations, etc. Just spit out. Tell him. It's so much easier for all involved than a neverending series of hellos, his, how/where are yous, wyd, and i like your pictures/reviews.
 
Kindness and respect go a long way. Unfortunately, the clients and escorts who need to hear this aren't on this forum.

And for the love of gawd, if you're bottoming, douche.

It all boils down to respect. Disrespectful clients are the absolute worst. I'm sure clients feel the same about disrespectful escorts.
 
1) Follow instructions. If he asks you to give an ETA when you leave your place to head over, give an ETA when you leave to head over. Not 30 minutes after you leave, not when you're 5 min away. If he says to call when you park, don't just show up at his door, do what he asked you to do. If he asks you to text not call, text, don't call. If he asks to call not text, call, don't text. Not following instructions is my #1 client pet peeve.
 
Besides that, 2) being respectful of time is key. Flaking is terrible. Assuming he has unlimited time for endless small talk, or to text or chat with you while you make up your mind is also very bad. Ghosting after exchanging a ton of messages is rude. Hitting up an escort to meet with the expectation that he doesn't need any prep time is something the worst clients do. This assumption that some have that providers have no life outside of escorting and no resaponsibilities besides catering to one guy's needs is very off-putting.
 
3) And lastly, a related to all of the above, please don't treat providers like they're stupid or unworthy of respect. That's a big no-no. If he's giving you instructions, there's a smart reason for them, show respect by following them. Respect his time. Don't talk down to him. Use complete sentences -- he's not an idiot. Don't order him around (unless that's part of the scene). Don't force him to drink alcohol if he doesn't want, don't push/pull him around etc.
 
4) Be clear, concise, and direct about your needs and expectations. That solves a lot of problems. Do not force him to probe and drag it out of you what you're looking for, when, where, concerns, needs, expectations, etc. Just spit out. Tell him. It's so much easier for all involved than a neverending series of hellos, his, how/where are yous, wyd, and i like your pictures/reviews.
 
Kindness and respect go a long way. Unfortunately, the clients and escorts who need to hear this aren't on this forum.

And for the love of gawd, if you're bottoming, douche.

It all boils down to respect. Disrespectful clients are the absolute worst. I'm sure clients feel the same about disrespectful escorts.
 
1) Follow instructions. If he asks you to give an ETA when you leave your place to head over, give an ETA when you leave to head over. Not 30 minutes after you leave, not when you're 5 min away. If he says to call when you park, don't just show up at his door, do what he asked you to do. If he asks you to text not call, text, don't call. If he asks to call not text, call, don't text. Not following instructions is my #1 client pet peeve.
 
Besides that, 2) being respectful of time is key. Flaking is terrible. Assuming he has unlimited time for endless small talk, or to text or chat with you while you make up your mind is also very bad. Ghosting after exchanging a ton of messages is rude. Hitting up an escort to meet with the expectation that he doesn't need any prep time is something the worst clients do. This assumption that some have that providers have no life outside of escorting and no resaponsibilities besides catering to one guy's needs is very off-putting.
 
3) And lastly, a related to all of the above, please don't treat providers like they're stupid or unworthy of respect. That's a big no-no. If he's giving you instructions, there's a smart reason for them, show respect by following them. Respect his time. Don't talk down to him. Use complete sentences -- he's not an idiot. Don't order him around (unless that's part of the scene). Don't force him to drink alcohol if he doesn't want, don't push/pull him around etc.
 
4) Be clear, concise, and direct about your needs and expectations. That solves a lot of problems. Do not force him to probe and drag it out of you what you're looking for, when, where, concerns, needs, expectations, etc. Just spit out. Tell him. It's so much easier for all involved than a neverending series of hellos, his, how/where are yous, wyd, and i like your pictures/reviews.
 
Kindness and respect go a long way. Unfortunately, the clients and escorts who need to hear this aren't on this forum.

And for the love of gawd, if you're bottoming, douche.

It all boils down to respect. Disrespectful clients are the absolute worst. I'm sure clients feel the same about disrespectful escorts.
 
1) Follow instructions. If he asks you to give an ETA when you leave your place to head over, give an ETA when you leave to head over. Not 30 minutes after you leave, not when you're 5 min away. If he says to call when you park, don't just show up at his door, do what he asked you to do. If he asks you to text not call, text, don't call. If he asks to call not text, call, don't text. Not following instructions is my #1 client pet peeve.
 
Besides that, 2) being respectful of time is key. Flaking is terrible. Assuming he has unlimited time for endless small talk, or to text or chat with you while you make up your mind is also very bad. Ghosting after exchanging a ton of messages is rude. Hitting up an escort to meet with the expectation that he doesn't need any prep time is something the worst clients do. This assumption that some have that providers have no life outside of escorting and no resaponsibilities besides catering to one guy's needs is very off-putting.
 
3) And lastly, a related to all of the above, please don't treat providers like they're stupid or unworthy of respect. That's a big no-no. If he's giving you instructions, there's a smart reason for them, show respect by following them. Respect his time. Don't talk down to him. Use complete sentences -- he's not an idiot. Don't order him around (unless that's part of the scene). Don't force him to drink alcohol if he doesn't want, don't push/pull him around etc.
 
4) Be clear, concise, and direct about your needs and expectations. That solves a lot of problems. Do not force him to probe and drag it out of you what you're looking for, when, where, concerns, needs, expectations, etc. Just spit out. Tell him. It's so much easier for all involved than a neverending series of hellos, his, how/where are yous, wyd, and i like your pictures/reviews.
 
Kindness and respect go a long way. Unfortunately, the clients and escorts who need to hear this aren't on this forum.

It all boils down to respect. Disrespectful clients are the absolute worst. I'm sure clients feel the same about disrespectful escorts.
 
1) Follow instructions. If he asks you to give an ETA when you leave your place to head over, give an ETA when you leave to head over. Not 30 minutes after you leave, not when you're 5 min away. If he says to call when you park, don't just show up at his door, do what he asked you to do. If he asks you to text not call, text, don't call. If he asks to call not text, call, don't text. Not following instructions is my #1 client pet peeve.
 
Besides that, 2) being respectful of time is key. Flaking is terrible. Assuming he has unlimited time for endless small talk, or to text or chat with you while you make up your mind is also very bad. Ghosting after exchanging a ton of messages is rude. Hitting up an escort to meet with the expectation that he doesn't need any prep time is something the worst clients do. This assumption that some have that providers have no life outside of escorting and no resaponsibilities besides catering to one guy's needs is very off-putting.
 
3) And lastly, a related to all of the above, please don't treat providers like they're stupid or unworthy of respect. That's a big no-no. If he's giving you instructions, there's a smart reason for them, show respect by following them. Respect his time. Don't talk down to him. Use complete sentences -- he's not an idiot. Don't order him around (unless that's part of the scene). Don't force him to drink alcohol if he doesn't want, don't push/pull him around etc.
 
4) Be clear, concise, and direct about your needs and expectations. That solves a lot of problems. Do not force him to probe and drag it out of you what you're looking for, when, where, concerns, needs, expectations, etc. Just spit out. Tell him. It's so much easier for all involved than a neverending series of hellos, his, how/where are yous, wyd, and i like your pictures/reviews.
 
Kindness and respect go a long way. Unfortunately, the clients and escorts who need to hear this aren't on this forum.

It all boils down to respect. Disrespectful clients are the absolute worst. I'm sure clients feel the same about disrespectful escorts.
 
1) Follow instructions. If he asks you to give an ETA when you leave your place to head over, give an ETA when you leave to head over. Not 30 minutes after you leave, not when you're 5 min away. If he says to call when you park, don't just show up at his door, do what he asked you to do. If he asks you to text not call, text, don't call. If he asks to call not text, call, don't text. Not following instructions is my #1 client pet peeve.
 
Besides that, 2) being respectful of time is key. Flaking is terrible. Assuming he has unlimited time for endless small talk, or to text or chat with you while you make up your mind is also very bad. Ghosting after exchanging a ton of messages is rude. Hitting up an escort to meet with the expectation that he doesn't need any prep time is something the worst clients do. This assumption that some have that providers have no life outside of escorting and no resaponsibilities besides catering to one guy's needs is very off-putting.
 
3) And lastly, a related to all of the above, please don't treat providers like they're stupid or unworthy of respect. That's a big no-no. If he's giving you instructions, there's a smart reason for them, show respect by following them. Respect his time. Don't talk down to him. Use complete sentences -- he's not an idiot. Don't order him around (unless that's part of the scene). Don't force him to drink alcohol if he doesn't want, don't push/pull him around etc.
 
4) Be clear, concise, and direct about your needs and expectations. That solves a lot of problems. Do not force him to probe and drag it out of you what you're looking for, when, where, concerns, needs, expectations, etc. Just spit out. Tell him. It's so much easier for all involved than a neverending series of hellos, his, how/where are yous, wyd, and i like your pictures/reviews.
 
Kindness and respect go a long way. Unfortunately, the clients and escorts who need to hear this aren't on this forum.

It all boils down to respect. Disrespectful clients are the absolute worst. I'm sure clients feel the same about disrespectful escorts.
 
1) Follow instructions. If he asks you to give an ETA when you leave your place to head over, give an ETA when you leave to head over. Not 30 minutes after you leave, not when you're 5 min away. If he says to call when you park, don't just show up at his door, do what he asked you to do. If he asks you to text not call, text, don't call. If he asks to call not text, call, don't text. Not following instructions is my #1 client pet peeve.
 
Besides that, 2) being respectful of time is key. Flaking is terrible. Assuming he has unlimited time for endless small talk, or to text or chat with you while you make up your mind is also very bad. Ghosting after exchanging a ton of messages is rude. Hitting up an escort to meet with the expectation that he doesn't need any prep time is something the worst clients do. This assumption that some have that providers have no life outside of escorting and no resaponsibilities besides catering to one guy's needs is very off-putting.
 
3) And lastly, a related to all of the above, please don't treat providers like they're stupid or unworthy of respect. That's a big no-no. If he's giving you instructions, there's a smart reason for them, show respect by following them. Respect his time. Don't talk down to him. Use complete sentences -- he's not an idiot. Don't order him around (unless that's part of the scene). Don't force him to drink alcohol if he doesn't want, don't push/pull him around etc.
 
4) Be clear, concise, and direct about your needs and expectations. That solves a lot of problems. Do not force him to probe and drag it out of you what you're looking for, when, where, concerns, needs, expectations, etc. Just spit out. Tell him. It's so much easier for all involved than a neverending series of hellos, his, how/where are yous, wyd, and i like your pictures/reviews.
 
Kindness and respect go a long way. Unfortunately, the clients and escorts who need to hear this aren't on this forum.

It all boils down to respect. Disrespectful clients are the absolute worst. I'm sure clients feel the same about disrespectful escorts.
 
1) Follow instructions. If he asks you to give an ETA when you leave your place to head over, give an ETA when you leave to head over. Not 30 minutes after you leave, not when you're 5 min away. If he says to call when you park, don't just show up at his door, do what he asked you to do. If he asks you to text not call, text, don't call. If he asks to call not text, call, don't text. Not following instructions is my #1 client pet peeve.
 
Besides that, 2) being respectful of time is key. Flaking is terrible. Assuming he has unlimited time for endless small talk, or to text or chat with you while you make up your mind is also very bad. Ghosting after exchanging a ton of messages is rude. Hitting up an escort to meet with the expectation that he doesn't need any prep time is something the worst clients do. This assumption that some have that providers have no life outside of escorting and no resaponsibilities besides catering to one guy's needs is very off-putting.
 
3) And lastly, a related to all of the above, please don't treat providers like they're stupid or unworthy of respect. That's a big no-no. If he's giving you instructions, there's a smart reason for them, show respect by following them. Respect his time. Don't talk down to him. Use complete sentences -- he's not an idiot. Don't order him around (unless that's part of the scene). Don't force him to drink alcohol if he doesn't want, don't push/pull him around etc.
 
4) Be clear, concise, and direct about your needs and expectations. That solves a lot of problems. Do not force him to probe and drag it out of you what you're looking for, when, where, concerns, needs, expectations, etc. Just spit out. Tell him. It's so much easier for all involved than a neverending series of hellos, his, how/where are yous, wyd, and i like your pictures/reviews.
 
Kindness and respect go a long way. Unfortunately, the clients and escorts who need to hear this aren't on this forum.

It all boils down to respect. Disrespectful clients are the absolute worst. I'm sure clients feel the same about disrespectful escorts.
 
1) Follow instructions. If he asks you to give an ETA when you leave your place to head over, give an ETA when you leave to head over. Not 30 minutes after you leave, not when you're 5 min away. If he says to call when you park, don't just show up at his door, do what he asked you to do. If he asks you to text not call, text, don't call. If he asks to call not text, call, don't text. Not following instructions is my #1 client pet peeve.
 
Besides that, 2) being respectful of time is key. Flaking is terrible. Assuming he has unlimited time for endless small talk, or to text or chat with you while you make up your mind is also very bad. Ghosting after exchanging a ton of messages is rude. Hitting up an escort to meet with the expectation that he doesn't need any prep time is something the worst clients do. This assumption that some have that providers have no life outside of escorting and no resaponsibilities besides catering to one guy's needs is very off-putting.
 
3) And lastly, a related to all of the above, please don't treat providers like they're stupid or unworthy of respect. That's a big no-no. If he's giving you instructions, there's a smart reason for them, show respect by following them. Respect his time. Don't talk down to him. Use complete sentences -- he's not an idiot. Don't order him around (unless that's part of the scene). Don't force him to drink alcohol if he doesn't want, don't push/pull him around etc.
 
4) Be clear, concise, and direct about your needs and expectations. That solves a lot of problems. Do not force him to probe and drag it out of you what you're looking for, when, where, concerns, needs, expectations, etc. Just spit out. Tell him. It's so much easier for all involved than a neverending series of hellos, his, how/where are yous, wyd, and i like your pictures/reviews.
 
Kindness and respect go a long way. Unfortunately, the clients and escorts who need to hear this aren't on this forum.

And for the love of gawd, if you're bottoming, douche.

It all boils down to respect. Disrespectful clients are the absolute worst. I'm sure clients feel the same about disrespectful escorts.
 
1) Follow instructions. If he asks you to give an ETA when you leave your place to head over, give an ETA when you leave to head over. Not 30 minutes after you leave, not when you're 5 min away. If he says to call when you park, don't just show up at his door, do what he asked you to do. If he asks you to text not call, text, don't call. If he asks to call not text, call, don't text. Not following instructions is my #1 client pet peeve.
 
Besides that, 2) being respectful of time is key. Flaking is terrible. Assuming he has unlimited time for endless small talk, or to text or chat with you while you make up your mind is also very bad. Ghosting after exchanging a ton of messages is rude. Hitting up an escort to meet with the expectation that he doesn't need any prep time is something the worst clients do. This assumption that some have that providers have no life outside of escorting and no resaponsibilities besides catering to one guy's needs is very off-putting.
 
3) And lastly, a related to all of the above, please don't treat providers like they're stupid or unworthy of respect. That's a big no-no. If he's giving you instructions, there's a smart reason for them, show respect by following them. Respect his time. Don't talk down to him. Use complete sentences -- he's not an idiot. Don't order him around (unless that's part of the scene). Don't force him to drink alcohol if he doesn't want, don't push/pull him around etc.
 
4) Be clear, concise, and direct about your needs and expectations. That solves a lot of problems. Do not force him to probe and drag it out of you what you're looking for, when, where, concerns, needs, expectations, etc. Just spit out. Tell him. It's so much easier for all involved than a neverending series of hellos, his, how/where are yous, wyd, and i like your pictures/reviews.
 
Kindness and respect go a long way. Unfortunately, the clients and escorts who need to hear this aren't on this forum.

I don't mind charging clients less for sessions that require less work. Everyone is different. I don't mind negotiation. Haggling has such a negative context.

I don't mind charging clients less for sessions that require less work. Everyone is different. I don't mind negotiation. Haggling has such a negative context.

Yeah, I just don't get the gay guys' bizarre and bigoted bias against vers guys at all. It makes no sense. I don't understand why people cannot be accepted for who they say they are, especially in a community that should know better.
 
What exactly is wrong with being a vers top?

Whiteness is at the top of the totem pole in American beauty standards: doll experiments with kids 3-5 prove American culture conditions us from childhood to find whites more attractive and desirable than nonwhites. This byproduct of American racism is well known from long ago.
 
That means few black escorts will ever reap the financial success of white escorts of equal attractiveness from escorting alone. A 10/10 white escort may be flown worldwide in private jets often and kept in unbelievable New York & Hollywood Hills apartments and the like. Unless he's also a top porn star, a 10/10 black escort won't ever live like that in this country.
 
Unfair, yes. I was shocked when I found out how well your average white escort does compared to nonwhites. But at this point, my reaction is *shrug.* We are working to build a more inclusive, integrated society where nonwhites won't be devalued. In the meantime, black guys have to be twice as good and work twice as hard to get a fraction of the recognition that a thoroughly average white guy gets. With the possible exception of professional sports, it's true across American culture. In gay culture that means black escorts, black fashion models, black go-go dancers, etc are going to have a tougher time.
 
Until the better future we are fighting for is here, no use in me whining about it.
 
We are at a cultural inflection point on this issue. The success of Black Panther has proven false the industry's standard go-to excuse: "There just isn't a MARKET for blacks, so my representation has to be 99.99% white....I can't have more than one black guy on my model agency's roster because of the MARKET...I *have* to relegate black guys to fetished separate but equal ghetto porn beause the MARKET won't accept black guys as a boy next door type" etc. It's never been about the market. There's a market for anything with enough industry support. It's always been about segregation, who gets support and resources, and who is denied support and resources.
 
There will be a better market for black escorts once American society is more integrated and less insane about race. But we are still three or four decades from the day when a truly hot black guy gets as much attention as a certain horsefaced white twink already can around these parts.
 
And don't even get me started on what Asian boys deal with, good grief.

Yeah but 24/7 availability does not mean: give me 5 minutes notice. It just means the person is available throughout the day/night.
 
24/7 sounds great, but like I said...I’m not a store with 10 guys ready to serve. I’m 1 person, trying to answer messages and be here, there and everywhere else. That can’t happen if the person doesn’t have common sense to just give some notice

I stopped listing travel plans for the reasons outlined above: it gets annoying responding again and again to messages from guys who think I'm already at the destination, even though it could be a week to weeks away. No sure whether the glitch is on Rentmen's end or whether clients are just not paying attention to the travel dates, but it's easier to advertise once I'm already there, in terms of not having to say "Thanks, but I'm not in town till..." over and over and over again.

Whiteness is at the top of the totem pole in American beauty standards: doll experiments with kids 3-5 prove American culture conditions us from childhood to find whites more attractive and desirable than nonwhites. This byproduct of American racism is well known from long ago.
 
That means few black escorts will ever reap the financial success of white escorts of equal attractiveness from escorting alone. A 10/10 white escort may be flown worldwide in private jets often and kept in unbelievable New York & Hollywood Hills apartments and the like. Unless he's also a top porn star, a 10/10 black escort won't ever live like that in this country.
 
Unfair, yes. I was shocked when I found out how well your average white escort does compared to nonwhites. But at this point, my reaction is *shrug.* We are working to build a more inclusive, integrated society where nonwhites won't be devalued. In the meantime, black guys have to be twice as good and work twice as hard to get a fraction of the recognition that a thoroughly average white guy gets. With the possible exception of professional sports, it's true across American culture. In gay culture that means black escorts, black fashion models, black go-go dancers, etc are going to have a tougher time.
 
Until the better future we are fighting for is here, no use in me whining about it.
 
We are at a cultural inflection point on this issue. The success of Black Panther has proven false the industry's standard go-to excuse: "There just isn't a MARKET for blacks, so my representation has to be 99.99% white....I can't have more than one black guy on my model agency's roster because of the MARKET...I *have* to relegate black guys to fetished separate but equal ghetto porn beause the MARKET won't accept black guys as a boy next door type" etc. It's never been about the market. There's a market for anything with enough industry support. It's always been about segregation, who gets support and resources, and who is denied support and resources.
 
There will be a better market for black escorts once American society is more integrated and less insane about race. But we are still three or four decades from the day when a truly hot black guy gets as much attention as a certain horsefaced white twink already can around these parts.
 
And don't even get me started on what Asian boys deal with, good grief.

I should mention too...based on previous years of going to PS (can either mean Palm Springs or piece of shit), you don’t have to spend a fortune on hotels. But don’t go too cheap either. I won’t blast any names, but some of the hotels in PS can be scary.
 
You just have to know what’s reasonable. I’ve stayed in very decent hotels there for $50, $60/70. But, there’s others in that range that may not be so. I would say look before you book if you can. For the most part, the good hotels that are inexpensive are off strip. The cheaper hotels around downtown may or may not be reasonable.