I haven't read all of the comments in this thread in their entirety but get the major points and counterpoints and find them fascinating as maybe we're fishing in some different waters, haha (just an observation, not trying to boast or anything like that) because over the past 20 months or so, when i started exploring and hanging with escorts, out of the 10 i've met, when i politely introduced myself and then paused and gave them a friendly inquisitive look of "... and what should i call you? , 8 of them without hesitation gave me their real names.
One claimed that the Ad was actually his real name, (which i have no basis to verify or refute) and one i actually don't recall what he said because i wasn't gonna ever see him again and didn't care.
The others i know are their real names because after the fact i did do some "diligence" and found lots of corrobation but more importantly, i'm friendly (repeats, semi-regulars) with all of them in some sort of varying capacities but i stick to things that they have told me that relates to their "personal, private" life.
I will say though, i would hold off of any comments alluding to anything in their "real or personal life" until it flows naturally in conversation potentially. Like someone mentioned above i also did tell one gentlemen how i knew about him and how i find out his info but again it came naturally and he "freaked out" about it a bit as to how easy it was, but was incredible appreciative of not only that i told him but how and when i told him.