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Is there a personal connection, @OliverSaks, or was your homage based strictly on admiration? Just curious

Is there a personal connection, @OliverSaks, or was your homage based strictly on admiration? Just curious

Good to know that one can still depend upon the kindness of strangers, @alkan.

Hi @wbtravis, would you mind posting a general outline of your experience so you don't have to PM all of us who live in the area? I actually think I met this guy 5-6 years ago in SJ, but decided against engaging his services after our meet and greet.

As I tell every young employee that works for me.....
 
“There are 7 1/2 Billion people in this world.......find one that doesn’t work in this building to fuck”

Dating people at work makes work and dating complicated. So I recommend "no."
 
I do recommend getting to know him, letting him get to know you, and becoming friends, so that.......
 
1) you can connect to the community (a good idea you had), and
 
2) Once one of you quits the job (if you're both young-ish, it totally will happen), YOU'RE READY TO POUNCE ON HIS GAY BUTT.

While always good to be on the side of privacy, using this forum and Daddy Reviews is a good resource to know which escorts are going to be legit professionals before contacting them. That actually is my number one rule, especially as I was starting this hobby. I know that Mike Gaite, James Stevens, and Benjamin Nicholas, etc. are great guys who keep their clients privacy a top priority. In general, these guys travel quite a lot and host in their own hotel rooms, which is a great way to see any escort especially when you are starting out. There are likely 3-4 (or often more in larger cities) in most cities with several stellar Daddy Reviews that provide a good place to start looking.
 
Though of course once you get into it a bit and you see a hot guy that doesn't have as many reviews, go ahead and contact him. Just maybe be a bit more cautious with your privacy and use things like Google Voice, What's App, etc. If you decide you want to start to host, just be a bit careful and put away your computer and phone (or put up a strong password), hide you bills in your name, etc.
 
Now I have several "regulars" who I know their real names and they know mine. We can keep it pretty casual and in some ways have become friends beyond the client-escort relationship. Though of course remember that even when get to that point with an escort, you must keep it professional. Never do anything to invade their privacy and don't ask or expect any discounts or extra perks, though sometimes they may be offered. It's also actually with my regulars that I often do tip, especially those that allow longer times at lower cost or give me special scheduling considerations.
 
Just have fun with it. It's a great hobby and as long as you're smart, it's fairly low risk as well.

Thanks for posting this @510guy. I caught this ad and had the same concerns. There's been at least one name change, as well. Previously discussed in this thread: Realman_Erotic in New York and another, but without any real info.
 
Surprising that no forum member has tried this guy.

Thank you for sharing such a lovingly written remembrance of your friend, @Charlie. It caused me to slow down for a few minutes and think about how I connect with the people in my life (and how I might improve that). I appreciate that.

Thank you for sharing such a lovingly written remembrance of your friend, @Charlie. It caused me to slow down for a few minutes and think about how I connect with the people in my life (and how I might improve that). I appreciate that.

Thank you for sharing such a lovingly written remembrance of your friend, @Charlie. It caused me to slow down for a few minutes and think about how I connect with the people in my life (and how I might improve that). I appreciate that.

Thank you for sharing such a lovingly written remembrance of your friend, @Charlie. It caused me to slow down for a few minutes and think about how I connect with the people in my life (and how I might improve that). I appreciate that.

Thank you for sharing such a lovingly written remembrance of your friend, @Charlie. It caused me to slow down for a few minutes and think about how I connect with the people in my life (and how I might improve that). I appreciate that.

AMEN.
 
A good escort is focused on you and your experience and would have made sure you knew that. I understand you might have agreed to app cruising but when it got nasty, that was his chance to show you what you paid for. That's not on you, dude.

One of my favorite movie lines, @marylander1940. Thanks for the laugh!

Oh for fuck sake, snowflake. Was just trying to find out if there were many of the guys on here who are nearby. It’s about community not some elite narrative.

He shore is pretty, Ma.
 
Gman

As you may have guessed from my screen name, I live in SF.

As you may have guessed from my screen name, I live in SF.

You say you have a “chaotic schedule” that does not afford you the luxury of booking immediately but you have some inquiries as you are interested (and serious). And if the two of you are a match you’d like to set something up in the new future.
 
Your chaotic schedule isn’t an issue, but how you communicate it is important. Yes, an immediate booking or one within 48 hours is ideal for “most escorts,” but anything outside of those confines is definitely not a deal breaker, so don’t be discouraged.

You say you have a “chaotic schedule” that does not afford you the luxury of booking immediately but you have some inquiries as you are interested (and serious). And if the two of you are a match you’d like to set something up in the new future.
 
Your chaotic schedule isn’t an issue, but how you communicate it is important. Yes, an immediate booking or one within 48 hours is ideal for “most escorts,” but anything outside of those confines is definitely not a deal breaker, so don’t be discouraged.

I would suggest meeting in person in public first. If he is staying at a hotel then the hotel bar is perfect. Or if you're planning on hosting, a nearby bar or coffeeshop works great. Communication is key. Say that you're a nervous first timer and appreciate his patience with meeting in person first.
 
If he is being too hesitant or a jerk about it, that is a big red flag. Of course do remember that you are giving him a donation for his time only, so do expect that the public visit is part of the time that you're spending with him and expect to compensate him for it. In many cases, you can quite quickly suss out his character in person and most likely will be quickly ready to take it to the next level. If you do feel weird about how he's acting or if he maybe looks quite a bit different than his pictures, you can maybe cut it short and just give him the compensation for his time and leave.
 
Definitely do not pay any fees up front or give him any information that would be too personally identifiable. Often I will leave my wallet and ID in the car and just have the cash for the session on me and my password locked phone. If hosting, I put away my wallet, bills and computer. Once you build trust, it's fine.
 
Do remember there is a fine line between caution and paranoia. Most likely he is just getting into this business and may be as nervous as you are. Relax and have a good time. 99 percent of the time you'll be comfortable with each other once you meet in person.

I can enjoy sex in the dark when it's with someone I'm used to being intimate with - but normally I like a low light, so it can be somewhat dark but we can still see each other.
 
I remember this hookup encounter I had once, some years back - it was a very jock-ish young guy (the kind that I normally don't get, except when hiring -- it's the kind of guy I often go crazy for). I do remember that we both got naked but he really just wanted to jerk me off. He had a playful cockiness about him that really got me turned on. Problem was, that he kept coaxing me to look deep into his eyes as he stroked me. I tended to want to avoid that because frankly, it would get me too aroused too fast. I remember trying to pull away at one point when I was getting close, which made him chuckle (he was clearly enjoying his sensual power over me), but he didn't want to stop, and he wound up getting me off much sooner than I wanted to. And naturally, he wanted me looking into his eyes when I came. Which made the orgasm very intense. I may have forgotten those eyes specifically, or what his face looked like, but I'll never forget the feeling that looking in his eyes was the most vulnerable, naked, and arousing sensation.
 
So yeah, eye contact can be a powerful thing.

Personal phone with number provided by carrier

That is a bullet dodged @Lovecraft58. If the provider responds that way to your use of the RM system to request access to his pix, I can't imagine what the response would be to a more personal/intimate request.
 
His loss. You'll definitely find a person better suited to you.