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I think one of my guys (the less-organized one) just hasn't sent in the required opt-in. I poke him occasionally, but I'm not his business manager. He also hasn't emailed in to get listed in the city he conducts most of his business in. Which would help customers find his reviews (I don't like this sites search by name function).

@Trent1500 believe it or not, this is fairly common for escorts (of which I am not one). @VictorPowers (who I have never met) is well reviewed, and if you tell him or any other such good escort, they will help you out and make it very easy for you. It will be vastly better for you to tell the escort before hand so they are prepared. Good escorts try to figure out what the client wants if they are not expressly told. Tell him it's your first time, that maybe starting slow will make it easier on you, and they will be prepared for just that. It will be a much better experience for you. I was not very experienced with my first escort, only having kissed and some (probably quite bad) sucking. He's a regular hire for me now, and his time has been invaluable to me. You are not alone. Lots of us were in the same boat. You have the sense to check what will make it work for you. Follow that sense, and I think you will be satisfied in more ways than one.

He seems to be very interested in time with you, and unless you were giving him signals that you wanted to start dating (which I doubt, you said you hadn't crossed lines), it's entirely possible something has come up, and I'd suggest giving him the benefit of a doubt for a bit. I know I've been swamped with things sometimes and left people I was close to because I had other things I _had_ to do and they would understand when I got to them. 48 hours isn't very long in the big scheme of things - much longer than his usual gaps, but I'd suggest leaving your mind open for when he does get back to you.

One thing to note is that giving a tip means to the recipient that the service was good to above average to extraordinary. Tipping him after the session says you were satisfied. This is especially true if you pay the person who makes the money from the service. Take the "Hair Salon" example. If you see the owner of a hair salon, you are not expected to tip since he or she sets the prices, generally gets a cut of all the work there. Someone who has to pay to work there (like non-owner hairdressers). There are some other points here: tips are generally considered part of the expected income for waiters/waitresses (so much in fact that at least at one point, the IRS expected them to receive a percentage over their wages in tips). Escorts set their own price, so a tip signals good service.

His ad starts out with what I can do for him before getting to what he would be willing to do for me. If he wants someone to quote: "give me a weekly or monthly allowance." I want it to be about me more than him. I'm not sure who he thinks will be enticed by such an offer. If you are one of the people who would be so enticed, PM me. I can be just as selfish, I'm sure. Not as attractive, but I'd be more attentive the man I'm sure.

A client willing to pay a full rate for just cuddling knows what he's doing. My sessions are pretty low-demand, so my escorts don't have to work hard. I could see (but not expect) a cuddle-only session being less expensive. I think I would expect nakedness and probably some erections, possibly some fondling, but not much else as my definition of a "cuddle-session".

A good escort's time is a gift as well.

If this is not a typo: I can't image what he would be able to offer for that kind of retainer. There are some really great guys you can spend time with, who post on this forum, and a number who have great reviews. If you want a great kisser, I have one in the Nashville area.

Yes. I recently had a session with a gentleman who asked me to pick up lube on the way: he was travelling and I doubt he had a car and would have had to find a place to get some in an unfamiliar city. He mentioned it was an oversight on his part, so no problem. I had previously had a gentleman ask me to bring condoms: again another traveler without an easy way to get to someplace to pick them up. He also mentioned it as an oversight. In both cases it was a simple mistake that the escort moved to rectify before the session started. That both happened to me within 6 months is just "luck" on my part. But I do expect an escort to be prepared, and PrEP or not, I want him to use condoms on me, and his other clients.

I have a couple of regulars, and I like the ease of set up (simple messages, they know what I want, so I don't have to explain). But I also like getting a chance to explore someone new. Regulars are my bread-and-butter, others are a special treat. You have to decide what you want. If it's a parade of new, hot men, go for it. But someone who already knows your buttons and how to push them (these are the good buttons, not the ones that make you angry), what a time you can have.

Woof indeed. He'd be well worth some time if we were in the same place.

Thank you! Makes me feel better - and much more likely to join a page or two. I do wish they would put in how long the videos are. I don't want to pay for a lot of 2 second videos. But for some of the models, it would be worth it.

If the escort only offers outcalls, that rate should include "reasonable" travel expenses, which I generally presume to be the "local area", which can be different depending on where it is. New York, LA, or Chicago could be like 10 miles, where St. Louis could be 40. If the escort has to travel outside of their advertised "local area", the client should pay for it. Many escorts cannot host - be it because they have roommates, or are private and don't want a number of men coming to their place for sessions, or whatever. My regular comes to me most of the time, and he comes from over an hour away. We generally schedule times when he's up here anyway (it's part of his business model, so it's just in the fee). An outcall requires additional expense for the escort. It is not only transportation expense: gas, train, bus whatever, but the additional time they are not doing something else. If an escort takes 30 minutes going to and from you for an incall of 1 hour, that's half his hourly rate all told. He probably can't do anything else. And that's above any prep time he takes (which he would do for any call).

My bet is that if an escort wanted to practice or get some training, there would be a good number of clients posting here who would volunteer to donate their time - no fees necessary

His ad is back https://rent.men/Masculinehung/ he may have just taken a break. New pictures as well.

@Kurtis Wolfe Thank you. I had seen that. I was wondering if it actually works that easily. As I noted (and I should have mentioned I had read the subscription FAQ, you are perfectly correct in pointing it out), I have had some trouble with sites that offer easy cancellation and it doesn't actually work easily. PS: I am always hoping you visit Nashville at some point

When I consider possibly joining a page or two (I've recently fallen in serious lust with Griffin Barrows, who has an Only Fans page at https://onlyfans.com/griffinbarrows), but I wonder how their cancellation process goes - does it work well, or is it something where there are a lot of hoops to cancel? I'm a bit nervous if I decide to join a page where I don't like the model/types/frequency of uploads. I have had in the past a site or two that I got a monthly bill for and the only way to fix it was cancelling that card. I don't get single or monthly subscriptions to a lot of porn sites as a result now.

As a client, I'd want to know about something like this if there are external parts (I have no idea if there are or not). Viagra isn't externally visible (it's effects _are_, but once the pill is taken, it's gone). It's a bit like hiring someone who is well know for having a very hairy chest, has years of pictures with the hairy chest, markets on their hairy chest and when they show up they are shaved down. Not what the client was expecting. It's a bit of an extension of the beard thing - if an escort goes back and forth with a beard a client may want the beard present or not depending on what they are looking for.

Regardless of the neighborhood or structural condition of the building, an inhabitant can make their area appear kept. Even a small space would allow a person to have things put in place. You can make a place look cared for, even if the building if falling down. And it's that care that gives a visitor the ease a person deserves when they come in. Just as you say, it's caring for the place. The same is true of people: you can tell if someone has been working/working out and is sweaty versus not having bathed in several days. If they take care of themselves and their place, you can tell. A few things around proving they are not an OCD cleaner is OK, but if there are underwear and food wrappers all over the place, it's no where to entertain.

This is an escort's work environment, and when a client arrives it's the same as a customer going into a restaurant that could use a cleaning. The food may be good and the work services and items clean, but a dirty dining area will make a customer weary. So even if it is not the case, a messy home/bedroom makes a bad impression and would sub-consciously make him wonder. Check out how the hospitality industry talks about presentation of rooms - things should be clean and neat. They (like our escorts) make their money by having people trust in their cleanliness. I see it like how an escort dresses when we meet. All of mine have looked put together - clean neat clothes. If I had one appear in a dirty shirt or whatever, it would be a turn off. All of this excludes the clients desire for something special. I'm talking about what a default would be, not a specific request. I think I'd like to have a fratboy escort in a messy dorm room setting, for example.

This is a difficult business to establish pricing for. Made a bit harder now that rent.men and m4rn.com aren't showing prices. You can look at the prices in reviews, but I take those with a grain of salt. As an escort, how do you determine how much other locals are charging? Do you call them up and ask? Do you ask clients who seem to hire around what they pay for others? One of my old regulars told me a story of getting called to a session, for which he was billing $300-$400, and finding in the lobby the other escort, a new kid. This was my regular's first indication that it was a threesome deal. The kid said he was getting $100, and was excited he was getting so much. My regular talked to him a bit after the session about pricing. The amount an escort can get depends on several factors: location, competition, services, attractiveness, etc. Even fame. It's a challenge to find what they can get out of the work they do, and keep enough business going to support themselves. Gas stations (for example) display how much for a gallon of gas, the other stations can see if their prices are higher or lower and adjust as needed. Escorts seem to have a dark room and need to feel around to find what they can charge. Or do the escorts have a secret webpage or union that tells them the rates of others?

It's also possible he's testing to see if he can pull in more than the local rate. From a business perspective it makes sense to make more for the same work. You may have gotten caught in him trying to raise his rates and realizing it may have been too much, and so he's changing his prices to see what he can get. As a client, I'd rather have lower rates, but I can see an escort wanting to make the most he can. And you didn't negotiate prices, he did.

A bit after the horse has bolted, but in this case, to help him best might have been arranging a session so he could earn some cash. You wouldn't need to tell him (and it would be better if you didn't) that you knew he had trouble. If it was outside of your schedule you could tell him "I just decided I wanted an extra". He would have been overjoyed at the windfall, you would have helped, and he would never have known you knew he was facing court.

You do have an idea why It's often considered an invasion of privacy to check into the life of an escort - anything he doesn't tell you himself. Just like better escorts don't go digging into who their clients are. And what you found is a bit embarrassing for him, and he seems to be in over his head, so his life seems a mess just now. Since you've been a good client for a while, apologizing to him and promising to leave that boundary up from now on may bring him back. We all make mistakes, hopefully he'll understand. In those rare cases I've found out something private about an escort, always by accident, I've keep it to myself. I'm sure my regular knows things about me I didn't intend, again just by accident, but he keeps it close as well, and I prefer it.

I've hired him, and he looks like his pictures (I wanted that furry chest). And he delivered, so I was quite happy. He travels for work, so (and you will have to check with him on details) you may need to provide a hotel room in addition to his rate or have a place he can visit as I don't think he usually has a car.