I think being with other naked men (in a non sexual way) is a validating ritual. I rode to CA AIDS Lifecycle ride in June, the ride ended in LA and I stayed a few days after (which included gay pride in LA). I went to a Russian bath - non sexual, but a place which celebrated men being together. There was steam, sauna, swimming, massage, showers etc. The old time Russian guys did Platza a ritual of drumming someone with oak branches w/leaves which have been soaked in water. It’s an ancient, beautiful non sexual ritual of healing. I was happy to watch the ritual while also enjoying a steam sauna whirlpool and massage.