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He's married (hyphenated last name) is that's a hint

Somewhat Connected The main connections I feel are self-identification as gay a sense of affinity with others who self-identify as gay the experience of a decades-long fight for equal rights living through and surviving the AIDS crisis The "community" I knew as a young man I think no longer exists. Bars are much fewer in number and are not the center of gay culture as they were. The "ghettos" are shadows of their former selves - both in terms of quantity (of ppl) and uniqueness of the culture As society has become more accepting of gays (which is a good thing) we have also become more homogenous, more integrated with mainstream culture. The energy and exclusivity (that "secret society") that used to exist in gay culture is diminished. So much has moved online....where we are largely namess and faceless (like here!). Of course, age is a factor.....I no longer need the affirmation of being with gay people and immersed in gayness all day every day. I lived in the ghettos, and spent lots of time in the bars and clubs. I enjoyed every minute and would not change a thing.

This is so incredible! Life is short....live it! And sounds like you have planned perfectly, should go smoothly. A few things to have on hand: - a few packs of baby wipes - plenty of lube, both silicone and water based (ppl have preferences) - condoms - bottled water, ideally chilled (cooler/ice)? - bring plenty of towels if you don't want to alert hotel staff; and a few sheets if you want to put them on the furniture - alcohol if you want to serve drinks and some snacks (fruit?); 420 if that's your thing - massage oil ? - jar candles or low-wattage light bulbs if you want to set your own mood lighting (hotel lighting sucks) - bluetooth speaker if you want to stream your own music - viagra if you have some to share - Bring your own shower gel if you want to have fun in the shower, spend money here not cheap stuff - toys - cockrings, dildos, harness, handcuffs, cock sleeve, jockstraps, etc Bring a sheet or shower curtain (+ scissors) and put it over the closet or bathroom door (use pushpins) if you want to set up a glory hole 😲 Just ask Hazel, she thinks of everything

We have AT&T streaming TV and these 2 public service ads play constantly. It's so annoying. Sieze the awkward Dance like a Dad:

I am a huge fan. So glad she will experience this, she is in increasingly fragile health. And I can't wait to see who covers her songs! IMHO she is one of the most important musicians of our generation. Probably one of the most wacky too!

Gabe is the best. Tell him what you want, he will make it happen.

Sorry to hear this. While I'm sure this news is shocking, HIV is now a highly treatable and manageable disease. Esp if caught early which is sounds like it was (blood test vs symptomatic). A high % of HIV+ ppl live full lives with minimal problems by taking a daily pill. And, there is very promising research and treatments which may produce a cure within the next decade. In the meantime, if you are undetectable.....you are also untransmissible (U=U, based on relatively recent research). I don't think what's happened is a felony, and whether or not it is illegal varies by state. But, I am not a lawyer...some internet research will answer this for you in minutes. What would you want to accomplish by reporting it? Do you want him arrested and prosecuted? If you do, you will put yourself through the stress of testifying and likely public disclosure of your status. Even reporting to local health officials may open a Pandora's box you cannot control. As individuals it's on each of us to manage our own behavior as if the other person is carrying an STD. It is possible for someone to be carrying, and not aware (yet). It is also possible they aren't being honest about their status (as happened to you). Escorts by definition have frequent and numerous sexual contacts, the likelihood they are carrying one or more STDs is higher than the average joe. Managing our own behavior is the only way we can guarantee our own safety. Not intending to preach or lecture....but since you asked, I think best if you move on and focus on finding peace with your choices and becoming comfortable your new status. Sorry again this happened to you Jacque.

Hello gents, any 411 on this tasty treat: https://rentmen.eu/ChrisDanielNY New profile, though I feel like I have seen him/his name before Thanks 👌

There are listings on squirt.org, but they are not that actively maintained so its AYOR. There's also this Reddit site: https://www.reddit.com/r/GloryHoleLocations/ As someone who has some experience with gloryholes....like so many things I think they have largely been replaced by technology, Grindr is the new "quickie" and those connections are often anonymous.

I'd go higher end than La Quinta, I mean you're going to spend $5k on this event so splurge a little on the room, I'd get a suite somewhere with 1 or 2 king size beds. Doesn't have to be 5 star. I think a big impersonal hotel would be best, pref one without elevator keycard access. You can always call and ask for extra towels, also if there are housekeeping carts in the halls you can grab more. A few packages of baby wipes are always good to have at a party like this 😉.

I'm more of a Scotch person than Whiskey. On Scotch, I've been dabbling with single-malts lately. Any Laphroaig is good, I've found some as low as $45 us per litre (10-year or select). Laphroaig Triple Wood is excellent at $65-70. Talisker Storm is also good @ $45 Here is a review of single malt Scotch under $50: https://www.pastemagazine.com/drink/whiskey/best-scotch-whisky-under-50-values-single-malt/ You will find availability varies widely from liquor store-to-store

The closest I have cum is having 2 escorts (husbands Seth & Chris Knight) as guests at a group party with other non-escorts. The party was super hot and everyone had a good time. In part, I used the Knights as a marketing tool to attract other hot guys (it worked!). I think what's most important is that the providers all be good with the arrangement if you want good energy. Ideally, they have worked together before. So, maybe find someone who can recommend 2-3 others they have worked with before and have good energy together. If you plan this for NYC, or maybe LA, I suspect you would find plenty of guys who have worked together before. BTW, if you are "in" for this idea, consider cross-posting in the "ask an escort" thread to get the provider perspective. In terms of budget, I'd say $500-1000 per provider assuming you want them for a few hours. Can I come? 😝 Jack PS I saw Jay Dymel a few years ago in Boston. He told me that the night before a wealthy client hired 10 guys to come take turns on him while he watched. He said it cost the client $10k, or $1000/provider for a few hours each.

The Nordic Lodge in Rhode Island: https://www.onlyinyourstate.com/rhode-island/seafood-buffet-ri/

This is not a new book but one I think should be required reading for gay men. It's a critical look at gay culture, esp ghetto, drug, and hyper-masculinity subcultures. It's not all negative tho' also highlights plenty of alternative positive gay subcultures. Originally published in 1997, some of it's content will be dated, like many of us 😎. I read this book when we were living in the ghetto and fully immersed in ghetto culture and it helped us turn our lives in a new direction: https://www.amazon.com/Life-Outside-Signorile-Muscles-Passages/dp/0060187611/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2SHGZL5CC9MB0&dchild=1&keywords=michelangelo+signorile&qid=1625399177&sprefix=michalangelo+sign%2Caps%2C165&sr=8-3 Another suggestion, The Male Couple. Written by psychologists who interviewed 1000s of couples, and followed 100s for several years. Gives insights to how male relationships develop and how they are different from other relationships. Read this just before meeting my husband and it gave us real insights to some of the things we experienced along the way. Again, originally published 1985 so some context will be dated (like, this is before internet, iPhones and Grindr); but the basics I think still hold true: https://www.amazon.com/Male-Couple-How-Relationships-Develop/dp/0135476615/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=the+male+couple&qid=1625399450&sr=8-1

Is there a way to bookmark a thread, or a post, that you want to come back to later? Jack

With all due respect......from a fellow IT guy, thank you Rob!

Back when Idol had talent:

I don't think most Grindr guys are looking for lunch! Some truth to the stats above - lots of flakes, etc. But, I am pleasantly surprised that "Daddy Dick" is a thing and lots of younger guys are looking for it. Dom Top Daddy Dick is nirvana. I find if I work this vibe (Dom Top Daddy Dick) I get positive responses. Good luck

Didn't see that one coming 🙄 Love his voice, and he struck me as sweet, sincere and vulnerable Glad he's finding his truth, and hope to hear more of his song

As a dedicated top, I find other tops who occasionally bottom so hot. Like, it makes me want to be in the inner circle of guys who have made them flip. A few examples: Dato Foland Dillon Anderson Chris Damned FitnessPapi Anyone else find this hot 🔥? 🐷😈💪

Provincetown MA or Ogunquit ME are both good choices Provincetown is a huge gay scene (mostly in a good way) Ogunquit has a smaller, more subdued gay scene but still plenty of gay

Also interested 😎

Sadly, I don't see myself traveling to Mexico to see him, hope he visits NYC or Boston 😘

Adding to my previous list: Chris Damned Dillon Anderson Spencer Daley Bastian Karim Allen King Seth Knight Leander Steve Rickz (Hattrickz) Shawn Reeve IsaacX

True dayuse is not bargain rates. I generally like to meet up during the day anyway which can make normal check in/out times difficult, so Dayuse is a perfect solution.