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IMHO it's simplistic (and judgmental) to simply say that alcoholics and obese people simple can't control themselves. There are many factors that contribute to a persons weight: genetics, medical conditions, medications, and psychological makeup. It's much more complex than simply saying "eat better". Psychological makeup is the most complex of these. Each person grew up and lives with a different life experience, different physical abilities (to exercise for example), different interests, different parents, different training, education, other "social determinants of health" which may include trauma, abuse and resulting in low self-esteem, depression or other. Not everybody wants to work out or go to the gym, or is able to. Food addiction is a form of addiction, as is alcoholism. But not everyone who is obese is a food addict. So, why doesn't someone just put the heroin down, or the meth, or oxy? The fact that we still have these beliefs (and stigma) is why addiction is still so prevalent. It is a disease: part nature and part nurture. And one we still haven't figured out how to conquer. There is a lot of addiction in my family. I "get" that we don't want to be victimized by it, and it's uncomfortable to talk about it. We need to protect ourselves. But I hope we can have some compassion for people with this dreaded disease.

Interesting that Boston is a top search term, yet 11th in terms of members. I wonder if it has to do with the lack of talent here in Boston? 😲

"Alcoholism" means dependence / physical addiction, it's part of a broader spectrum of alcohol abuse called AUD: What is alcohol use disorder (AUD)? For most adults, moderate alcohol use is probably not harmful. However, about 18 million adult Americans have an alcohol use disorder (AUD). This means that their drinking causes distress and harm. AUD can range from mild to severe, depending on the symptoms. Severe AUD is sometimes called alcoholism or alcohol dependence. AUD is a disease that causes: Craving - a strong need to drink Loss of control - not being able to stop drinking once you've started Negative emotional state - feeling anxious and irritable when you are not drinking

@purplekow agree with this entirely. My luck was only this bad when I first started and got better as I got better with screening my hires. Now, I rarely get a "miss".

Will be helpful to know if you have any type(s) you are attracted (tall/short? fem/masc? muscular/slim?), are you looking for top/bottom/verse?

We also enjoyed Amaria. Mostly an older crowd but a few 40s and 30s when we were there. Def a chill friendly vibe, and the massage (w/he) made the day. They also sell THC infused cookies and Mezcal (liquor like tequila) there if you ask, which we enjoyed.

Several of my hires are also on OF, I haven't found a difference with guys with/without OF. If they have a successful OF page and still take clients, they must like to hook....they're making way more money on OF.

@Jarrod_Uncut the point is not to stay longer, it's to post your availability before you arrive in a new city. I'm generally looking to schedule 1-2 weeks out. When I see a provider "pop up" who I would like to see I can rarely meet that same day, or even next 48 hours.

I also find this frustrating. As someone who plays on the DL and having a very busy job & life I always have to schedule my visits in advance. Having a few days notice significantly increases the likelihood I can connect with someone. Jack

Consider Providence RI. It's one hour train ride to Boston and 2.5 to NYC. Much lower cost of living than both. Some guys live in Providence and list "Boston" as their market on RM.

Colby and his husband Micky have their own porn studio with an extensive repertoire. They are one of my favorite studios b/c (1) colby and mickey are both hot AF (2) the boys they film with are also hot AF (3) the shooting is authentic....it's just hot sex and there is real chemistry, no staged/directed crap. Colby is a hot top, who flips occasionally (which revs my engine); and Mickey is bottom with Colby but verse with other boys. Here's a hot scene with Colby Micky and Eli Lincoln: https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5ff647fbc0e47 PS pretty certain the Knox's do not escort, I suspect they are making plenty of money and having too much fun with their filmed content 😉

Riley Ward is another tall muscular bottom.....also a Ginger. He is mentioned elsewhere on the Forum (search for link), he also has some porn online if you want to check his vibe. Highly recommend 😉. He's based in NY but I believe travels as well.

Club 69 is the best strip club...look for/ask for Edgar, he's a very sweet (and hot) boy. Christian too, hot AF.

There is a Puerto Vallarta Gay Facebook page, suggest following it and searching the archives there are many many recommendations there. The bathhouse Spartacus burned the week we were there, they have opened another club in a temporary location called Papi Chulo. New Bar called The Corner Bar - not a club, a lounge really very nice. In addition to the Men's Event at Amaria, there is the naked Gay Pool Party Saturdays at Casa Cupula (Romantic Zone). The Botanical Garden is worth a trip - it's at least 1/2 day and a 30-45m bus ride. Get street tacos. The Market on Saturdays in the sqare has great artists and food vendors. Enjoy a show at The Palm. Good luck!

The stockyard The meatrack

MeetMarket.com dadzandladz.com (dadsandlads is already taken) Mensroom TheBoysRoom.com TheGuysRoom.com Guysroom Trade2Trade privateencounters BoyBazaar TheBackDoor classifiedconnections thesauna.com The Labyrinth Chance Encounters TheManHole TheBrotherhood TheMensStore MensDepartment MensMeetup MeatHook CheckMate TheFraternity TheCompanyOfMen TheBrotherhood

Great choices and enviable to be able to travel a month at a time. I too am hoping to travel more....we did go to Puerto Vallarta MX for Thanksgiving and it was great to feel alive again!

2022 Goals 1. Cycle the CA AIDS Lifecycle ride 2. Lose 10lbs, 15 if possible 3. Complete a few home projects 4. Start if not complete upstairs renovation (dormer) 5. Develop clear retirement goals/plan 6. Return to pre-pandemic monthly hiring 🐷

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I would like to THANK our moderators who give so much of themselves and so selflessly to keep this site and this community going! Wishing you all happy holidays and a 2022 full of all of your M4M wishes 🐷 ....Jack

I generally prefer visiting providers because: 1. Boston has a limited talent pool, the better talent tend to be visitors 2. I need the provider to host, and visiting travelers almost always stay in hotels and can host 3. I generally meet during the day, and traveling providers by definition are traveling and not working another job during the day (as many of our local providers do).

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