Cyd_StVincent

My god...is it possible to be in love with someone you’ve never met?

NYC is a difficult market to crack and a rewarding market to succeed in. Anyone who wants to move here to establish themselves as an escort should expect to struggle.
 
I think you have two realistic options unless you’re sitting on a bunch of savings you can use to fund your life until business picks up:
 
1) Minimise your expenses in NYC. This means don’t get your own apartment in Manhattan. Rent a cheap bedroom or a friend’s couch and establish some regular clients before you stick yourself with a huge monthly rent. NYC is expensive as hell and the market is oversaturated. Looks do not guarantee quick success... it takes lots of time and consistency to build a solid client base. You can use apps like Recharge or websites like DayUse to book hotel rooms to host Incalls. Having your own Incall apartment in NYC is living the gay hooker dream, and it’s definitely not amateur territory unless you have a lot of money to invest while your business builds.
 
2) Get a day job. Use the income from your day job to get that dreamy HK studio that’s perfect for Incall. Escort on the side until you have a good amount of clients. Then quit your day job when the time is right. Ta-da! You’re now a full-time escort in NYC...

All that has already been said definitely. Also a great client is someone who shows me their investment in our relationship by being friendly and affirming - a simple 'I'm so happy you are here' at the beginning of a session will really set us in the right direction. By being dependable as a regular and letting me know when I can expect to see them again, or letting me know if our regular schedule has changed whats up. By offering me a glass of water or a shower - which shows that they are considering me and my needs. Also clients who don't take increasing intimacy as an opportunity to undercut or barter with me, realizing that while we like each other more and more my bank account still needs the same amount of money in it.

I had the opposite occur. After a very satisfying encounter, I paid my escort, including a tip for which he thanked me. 15 minutes later I get a text that there were 2 $100 bills stuck together and I overpaid him. I thanked him profusely, and since I had really tipped him generously already, asked if I could run a tab and mark this down as credit. We both got a laugh and I had a $100 credit which did not last thru a month!

I totally wish you could do that, I'd be one of your boys! A long long time ago I worked as a stripper (in a different life) and always enjoyed the atmosphere of working with others. That is the one thing about escorting, it can be lonely - I imagine thats why many of us spend so much time on here. I wish I could work at a brothel or with an agency.

All that has already been said definitely. Also a great client is someone who shows me their investment in our relationship by being friendly and affirming - a simple 'I'm so happy you are here' at the beginning of a session will really set us in the right direction. By being dependable as a regular and letting me know when I can expect to see them again, or letting me know if our regular schedule has changed whats up. By offering me a glass of water or a shower - which shows that they are considering me and my needs. Also clients who don't take increasing intimacy as an opportunity to undercut or barter with me, realizing that while we like each other more and more my bank account still needs the same amount of money in it.

First of all, relax, and don’t put too much pressure on yourself. If youre having performance anxiety that is going to block your success. Second, try a good prostate massage session with someone who REALLY knows what they’re doing. Your ED will be completely irrelevant, and you can perhaps cum much more forcefully than you ever have in your LIFE! (Assuming you are new to prostate stimulation...) No hard-on required, and the prostate stimulation, if performed by someone talented, will really take control of the timing of your orgasm completely out of your hands...

I didn't fully convey my thoughts on this:
 
The use of SW as a synonym for prostitution is often at the exlcusion of acknowledging SW is a broad umbrella and descriptive of a host of other professions that are not prostitution (as was previously mentioned). At least, that's what I've come across.
 
With the example I gave, it would be like someone using "automobile" to talk about their car, but insisting a truck and bus are not automobiles. Admittedly, humor is often context and culture dependent, but I personally find that amusing.

Sex worker is a term coined by Carol Leigh - the Scarlet Harlot - in the 70's as a way to politically ground the growing prostitutes rights movement. Since then it has become widely used internationally in both advocacy and health contexts, and I think is the word that the AP is supposed to use. I like the word and use it to refer to myself in what I do, but I wouldn't expect it to be used within my interactions with clients necessarily. Since I have no qualms about what I do, I have no concerns with what I'm called as long as the tone it is said in is respectful.
 
As a side note I do wish perhaps that clients and sex workers did perhaps bring a little bit of the politics of prostitution into their meetings. We are both experiencing a huge wave of criminalization together, and we are natural partners in fighting it. However, it always feels like a taboo subject to bring up. I suppose it isn't the hottest thing when the clock is running, but I wonder when and where we develop the relationships necessary to build solidarity together. Otherwise its just going to be sex workers who are out advocating against their own criminalization and the criminalization of clients second.

All that has already been said definitely. Also a great client is someone who shows me their investment in our relationship by being friendly and affirming - a simple 'I'm so happy you are here' at the beginning of a session will really set us in the right direction. By being dependable as a regular and letting me know when I can expect to see them again, or letting me know if our regular schedule has changed whats up. By offering me a glass of water or a shower - which shows that they are considering me and my needs. Also clients who don't take increasing intimacy as an opportunity to undercut or barter with me, realizing that while we like each other more and more my bank account still needs the same amount of money in it.

It's a bit amusing to see people use "sex work" as a synonym for prostitution, since the latter is a subset of the former. It's also fascinating to see how other people understand and utilize terms (e.g., "escort" being distinctly not sex work or sexually related, as though "cars" can be distinct from and unrelated to "automobiles").
 
I'm fine with whatever terms are used, even if inacurate, so long as they're used respectfully. I often use "provider" and to a lesser extent "sex worker" and "escort" in a general and professional manner; among other providers and on Twitter, I'll use "hoe" as reclamation and in reference to myself, but admittedly be put off if a non SWer used it for me (unbalanced power dynamics being what they are).

Sex worker is a term coined by Carol Leigh - the Scarlet Harlot - in the 70's as a way to politically ground the growing prostitutes rights movement. Since then it has become widely used internationally in both advocacy and health contexts, and I think is the word that the AP is supposed to use. I like the word and use it to refer to myself in what I do, but I wouldn't expect it to be used within my interactions with clients necessarily. Since I have no qualms about what I do, I have no concerns with what I'm called as long as the tone it is said in is respectful.
 
As a side note I do wish perhaps that clients and sex workers did perhaps bring a little bit of the politics of prostitution into their meetings. We are both experiencing a huge wave of criminalization together, and we are natural partners in fighting it. However, it always feels like a taboo subject to bring up. I suppose it isn't the hottest thing when the clock is running, but I wonder when and where we develop the relationships necessary to build solidarity together. Otherwise its just going to be sex workers who are out advocating against their own criminalization and the criminalization of clients second.

All that has already been said definitely. Also a great client is someone who shows me their investment in our relationship by being friendly and affirming - a simple 'I'm so happy you are here' at the beginning of a session will really set us in the right direction. By being dependable as a regular and letting me know when I can expect to see them again, or letting me know if our regular schedule has changed whats up. By offering me a glass of water or a shower - which shows that they are considering me and my needs. Also clients who don't take increasing intimacy as an opportunity to undercut or barter with me, realizing that while we like each other more and more my bank account still needs the same amount of money in it.

All that has already been said definitely. Also a great client is someone who shows me their investment in our relationship by being friendly and affirming - a simple 'I'm so happy you are here' at the beginning of a session will really set us in the right direction. By being dependable as a regular and letting me know when I can expect to see them again, or letting me know if our regular schedule has changed whats up. By offering me a glass of water or a shower - which shows that they are considering me and my needs. Also clients who don't take increasing intimacy as an opportunity to undercut or barter with me, realizing that while we like each other more and more my bank account still needs the same amount of money in it.

Sex worker is a term coined by Carol Leigh - the Scarlet Harlot - in the 70's as a way to politically ground the growing prostitutes rights movement. Since then it has become widely used internationally in both advocacy and health contexts, and I think is the word that the AP is supposed to use. I like the word and use it to refer to myself in what I do, but I wouldn't expect it to be used within my interactions with clients necessarily. Since I have no qualms about what I do, I have no concerns with what I'm called as long as the tone it is said in is respectful.
 
As a side note I do wish perhaps that clients and sex workers did perhaps bring a little bit of the politics of prostitution into their meetings. We are both experiencing a huge wave of criminalization together, and we are natural partners in fighting it. However, it always feels like a taboo subject to bring up. I suppose it isn't the hottest thing when the clock is running, but I wonder when and where we develop the relationships necessary to build solidarity together. Otherwise its just going to be sex workers who are out advocating against their own criminalization and the criminalization of clients second.

I like your blog - especially the item on transgenderism

I do not think we are a quiet group. I am pretty loud in my blog, and I am not the only one. I just cannot get publicly out of the closet. Yet.

I am waiting for my retirement to become a public advocate for sex work in all its wonderful diversity.

All that has already been said definitely. Also a great client is someone who shows me their investment in our relationship by being friendly and affirming - a simple 'I'm so happy you are here' at the beginning of a session will really set us in the right direction. By being dependable as a regular and letting me know when I can expect to see them again, or letting me know if our regular schedule has changed whats up. By offering me a glass of water or a shower - which shows that they are considering me and my needs. Also clients who don't take increasing intimacy as an opportunity to undercut or barter with me, realizing that while we like each other more and more my bank account still needs the same amount of money in it.

Sex worker is a term coined by Carol Leigh - the Scarlet Harlot - in the 70's as a way to politically ground the growing prostitutes rights movement. Since then it has become widely used internationally in both advocacy and health contexts, and I think is the word that the AP is supposed to use. I like the word and use it to refer to myself in what I do, but I wouldn't expect it to be used within my interactions with clients necessarily. Since I have no qualms about what I do, I have no concerns with what I'm called as long as the tone it is said in is respectful.
 
As a side note I do wish perhaps that clients and sex workers did perhaps bring a little bit of the politics of prostitution into their meetings. We are both experiencing a huge wave of criminalization together, and we are natural partners in fighting it. However, it always feels like a taboo subject to bring up. I suppose it isn't the hottest thing when the clock is running, but I wonder when and where we develop the relationships necessary to build solidarity together. Otherwise its just going to be sex workers who are out advocating against their own criminalization and the criminalization of clients second.

You do realise a lots of escorts are foreigners with poor command of English? Yes, they should probably get a friend to help them with their wording, but am guessing that most people looking for an escort are not looking to employ them for secretarial work........ I agree that an intelligently written smart ad will always be a little more enticing, but try to cut them some slack as some of them are still struggling with English. Maybe if they are attractive enough to hire, you might offer to help them with their ad copy? There's a thought. (sorry, this was a reply to the OP)

I like 'trick'. Or 'turning tricks'. I don't hear it often anymore, maybe it was a 1990s thing ...

My favorite clients to do business with are respectful clients. Clients who are on time. Clients who do not ask for bareback repeatedly, because one ‘no’ should be enough. Clients who do not try to take the condom off when they think you’re not looking. Clients who do not open closed doors in my home without permission. Clients who use proper greeting/introduction when contacting me. Clients who do not make racist or other ignorant uneducated comments based on opinion. Clients who genuinely care about me. Clients who ask me what they can provide for our time together (I.e, drinks, snacks, etc.) and most importantly, clients who are just simply good energy to be around!

OMG lol Craigslist is truly the land of the ghost. Four times a year I'll decide I want sex or furniture from there but in 8 years I've come away with one chest of draws, one pretty odd threesome and a guy who showed up and was so unlike his picture that I couldn't figure out what he was doing at my house.

I have a dad fetish and so anyone I can enact that particular fantasy set - kindly but I have to work hard for his favor, older, mutually emotionally giving - is my ideal client. This is reflected by the fact that my primary group of clients - guys I've seen regularly for 2-8 years - are all 55+.