Cyd_StVincent

Lol well I take comfort in knowing that trans guy sex robots will probably still be a ways down the track

I would agree with @Kurtis Wolfe that a lot of people in the porn industry are operating off information that doesn't have a lot of scientific backing for it - which makes sense when your job is one where the specter of HIV infection looms as a life, community and employment changing prospect, especially for the straight side. The part that is frustrating about that all is the protocols for testing are extremely rigorous to the point that there have been really only a handful of cases of HIV transmitted on set since 2004, however thanks to the fearmongering of organizations like AIDS Healthcare Foundation, who is making it their personal mission from god to end the scourge of bareback porn, straight porn performers are still very freaked out.
 
I think its incredibly sad that Ames passed away, twitter fights are often people wanting to be right more than wanting to teach and a lot of unnecessary showboating took place. That doesn't mean there isn't a place for teaching though, the initial point that performers should challenge their "I won't have sex with crossover performers/black guys/trans women/etc" framework is important, because it doesn't just effect them - it also effects other peoples ability to get work or be out based on parts of themselves that don't actually impinge on someone else's risk. You don't get HIV because you have gay sex or are a trans woman or are black, you get HIV because you have unprotected sex with someone who is HIV positive with transmissible viral load. Inability to understand that basic fact is what puts people at risk because they don't have the right information, and it enforces stigma

I assume most clients cancel because they jerk off and then the mood is gone. If it was something that I did that is addressable, rather than a trait of mine that is innate, I'd like to know so I can be sure I'm presenting myself well.

I assume most clients cancel because they jerk off and then the mood is gone. If it was something that I did that is addressable, rather than a trait of mine that is innate, I'd like to know so I can be sure I'm presenting myself well.

Having good communication about whats going on with you will make all the difference. When I've had clients tell me straight out the gate that they don't get hard or usually don't cum or whatever, we have some of the best sessions. To me - it doesn't matter if either of those things happen as long as I know you are having a good time and you give me some cues as to what makes you feel good, since the obvious indicator isn't present. Sex is a million things, and with a soft dick you still have at least 500,000

Having good communication about whats going on with you will make all the difference. When I've had clients tell me straight out the gate that they don't get hard or usually don't cum or whatever, we have some of the best sessions. To me - it doesn't matter if either of those things happen as long as I know you are having a good time and you give me some cues as to what makes you feel good, since the obvious indicator isn't present. Sex is a million things, and with a soft dick you still have at least 500,000

Having good communication about whats going on with you will make all the difference. When I've had clients tell me straight out the gate that they don't get hard or usually don't cum or whatever, we have some of the best sessions. To me - it doesn't matter if either of those things happen as long as I know you are having a good time and you give me some cues as to what makes you feel good, since the obvious indicator isn't present. Sex is a million things, and with a soft dick you still have at least 500,000

Having good communication about whats going on with you will make all the difference. When I've had clients tell me straight out the gate that they don't get hard or usually don't cum or whatever, we have some of the best sessions. To me - it doesn't matter if either of those things happen as long as I know you are having a good time and you give me some cues as to what makes you feel good, since the obvious indicator isn't present. Sex is a million things, and with a soft dick you still have at least 500,000

Having good communication about whats going on with you will make all the difference. When I've had clients tell me straight out the gate that they don't get hard or usually don't cum or whatever, we have some of the best sessions. To me - it doesn't matter if either of those things happen as long as I know you are having a good time and you give me some cues as to what makes you feel good, since the obvious indicator isn't present. Sex is a million things, and with a soft dick you still have at least 500,000

Having good communication about whats going on with you will make all the difference. When I've had clients tell me straight out the gate that they don't get hard or usually don't cum or whatever, we have some of the best sessions. To me - it doesn't matter if either of those things happen as long as I know you are having a good time and you give me some cues as to what makes you feel good, since the obvious indicator isn't present. Sex is a million things, and with a soft dick you still have at least 500,000

Lots of things! Typically: Deep kissing, gentle neck nibbling, nipple teasing, armpit licking, cock licking, ball sucking, butt munching, asshole teasing, tongue fucking, anal teasing, prostate stroking, cock teasing & cum swallowing! Also, occasionally: toe sucking, spit play, watersports, topping w/ strap-on, anal fisting, spanking. Also lunch, dinner, sleeping, cuddling, mutual massages, porn-watching, and talking!
 
What I DON’T do when a client (or any sex partner) can’t get it up: Take it personally.

Awwww! Wow thats the cutest thing to pop back in for. So ya'll gonna get me a twink in a box for real? Thank you so much <3

9 years

I've been escorting 16 years now. It's always been sole support. I think that's the Crisco anniversary, btw.
 
Kevin Slater

Being a sex worker I feel like I get pushed to go on PrEP weekly by internet ads or a doctor derailing our completely unrelated session into trying to propose I start. I don't tolerate PrEP well, and I prefer not to need it. I have found that although playing safe limits my clientelle it provides me with clients I get along with better. Also, having lots of different interactions with different bodies, there are so many things you can pick up and pass on - having worked as a sexual health counselor for 8 years - for me sexual health does not start and end at HIV. Antibiotic resistant gonnorrhea, or really any type of gonnorrhea is also something I would rather not spend time dealing with or telling sexual partners I may have infected them. So I use condoms with all but a main partner and very, very occasionally for porn.
 
To the OP I would suggest telling escorts outright you prefer to use condoms before sex. Body language communication is not very clear during the hot and heavy moments, setting up an expectation will enable you to relax and even tease each other with the idea of it without you having to have the shitty feelings after. I think if you don't feel comfortable with bareback sex then why not listen to and respect that, just because the cultural is changing doesn't mean you have to drop your own boundaries.

I'm often called on to be someones first introduction to FTM genital configurations, what feels good and what doesn't, as an opportunity to be with someone who is patient and understanding before they seek out a non-paid experience. I love it. I love hearing from guys how happy their trans men partners are, and how I'm partly to thank - whether or not they will ever know it. It's part of what make sex work sustainable and enjoyable for me.

I feel like I get hired for my ability to teach all the time! But not to improve “performance”. I teach men how to receive penetration and connect with their prostates in a smooth, seductive, pleasureful and pain-free manner. How to relax into the absolute earthquake that is one’s first prostate orgasm. How to take a fist for the first time. Etc. I dunno if any of those are considered “performance upgrades”, but guys sure are thrilled with me for being able to teach them! My ability to teach these things is probably my strongest asset as an escort, along with my ability to make people feel comfortable very quickly.

A bit of a spin on your question but years ago I hired an escort to teach me the etiquette and finesse of a certain fetish... the mechanics were obvious.

Lance Navarro is a trained sexual surrogate - he might be the guy to call for that sort of thing. Some escorts are also credentialed as Sacred Intimates. They might be good for helping a client become a more proficient lover.
A very experienced escort would probably be a good teacher. I think Jake Walker would be a great teacher. He's very easy to be with.

Being a sex worker I feel like I get pushed to go on PrEP weekly by internet ads or a doctor derailing our completely unrelated session into trying to propose I start. I don't tolerate PrEP well, and I prefer not to need it. I have found that although playing safe limits my clientelle it provides me with clients I get along with better. Also, having lots of different interactions with different bodies, there are so many things you can pick up and pass on - having worked as a sexual health counselor for 8 years - for me sexual health does not start and end at HIV. Antibiotic resistant gonnorrhea, or really any type of gonnorrhea is also something I would rather not spend time dealing with or telling sexual partners I may have infected them. So I use condoms with all but a main partner and very, very occasionally for porn.
 
To the OP I would suggest telling escorts outright you prefer to use condoms before sex. Body language communication is not very clear during the hot and heavy moments, setting up an expectation will enable you to relax and even tease each other with the idea of it without you having to have the shitty feelings after. I think if you don't feel comfortable with bareback sex then why not listen to and respect that, just because the cultural is changing doesn't mean you have to drop your own boundaries.

Being a sex worker I feel like I get pushed to go on PrEP weekly by internet ads or a doctor derailing our completely unrelated session into trying to propose I start. I don't tolerate PrEP well, and I prefer not to need it. I have found that although playing safe limits my clientelle it provides me with clients I get along with better. Also, having lots of different interactions with different bodies, there are so many things you can pick up and pass on - having worked as a sexual health counselor for 8 years - for me sexual health does not start and end at HIV. Antibiotic resistant gonnorrhea, or really any type of gonnorrhea is also something I would rather not spend time dealing with or telling sexual partners I may have infected them. So I use condoms with all but a main partner and very, very occasionally for porn.
 
To the OP I would suggest telling escorts outright you prefer to use condoms before sex. Body language communication is not very clear during the hot and heavy moments, setting up an expectation will enable you to relax and even tease each other with the idea of it without you having to have the shitty feelings after. I think if you don't feel comfortable with bareback sex then why not listen to and respect that, just because the cultural is changing doesn't mean you have to drop your own boundaries.

Being a sex worker I feel like I get pushed to go on PrEP weekly by internet ads or a doctor derailing our completely unrelated session into trying to propose I start. I don't tolerate PrEP well, and I prefer not to need it. I have found that although playing safe limits my clientelle it provides me with clients I get along with better. Also, having lots of different interactions with different bodies, there are so many things you can pick up and pass on - having worked as a sexual health counselor for 8 years - for me sexual health does not start and end at HIV. Antibiotic resistant gonnorrhea, or really any type of gonnorrhea is also something I would rather not spend time dealing with or telling sexual partners I may have infected them. So I use condoms with all but a main partner and very, very occasionally for porn.
 
To the OP I would suggest telling escorts outright you prefer to use condoms before sex. Body language communication is not very clear during the hot and heavy moments, setting up an expectation will enable you to relax and even tease each other with the idea of it without you having to have the shitty feelings after. I think if you don't feel comfortable with bareback sex then why not listen to and respect that, just because the cultural is changing doesn't mean you have to drop your own boundaries.

Being a sex worker I feel like I get pushed to go on PrEP weekly by internet ads or a doctor derailing our completely unrelated session into trying to propose I start. I don't tolerate PrEP well, and I prefer not to need it. I have found that although playing safe limits my clientelle it provides me with clients I get along with better. Also, having lots of different interactions with different bodies, there are so many things you can pick up and pass on - having worked as a sexual health counselor for 8 years - for me sexual health does not start and end at HIV. Antibiotic resistant gonnorrhea, or really any type of gonnorrhea is also something I would rather not spend time dealing with or telling sexual partners I may have infected them. So I use condoms with all but a main partner and very, very occasionally for porn.
 
To the OP I would suggest telling escorts outright you prefer to use condoms before sex. Body language communication is not very clear during the hot and heavy moments, setting up an expectation will enable you to relax and even tease each other with the idea of it without you having to have the shitty feelings after. I think if you don't feel comfortable with bareback sex then why not listen to and respect that, just because the cultural is changing doesn't mean you have to drop your own boundaries.

Being a sex worker I feel like I get pushed to go on PrEP weekly by internet ads or a doctor derailing our completely unrelated session into trying to propose I start. I don't tolerate PrEP well, and I prefer not to need it. I have found that although playing safe limits my clientelle it provides me with clients I get along with better. Also, having lots of different interactions with different bodies, there are so many things you can pick up and pass on - having worked as a sexual health counselor for 8 years - for me sexual health does not start and end at HIV. Antibiotic resistant gonnorrhea, or really any type of gonnorrhea is also something I would rather not spend time dealing with or telling sexual partners I may have infected them. So I use condoms with all but a main partner and very, very occasionally for porn.
 
To the OP I would suggest telling escorts outright you prefer to use condoms before sex. Body language communication is not very clear during the hot and heavy moments, setting up an expectation will enable you to relax and even tease each other with the idea of it without you having to have the shitty feelings after. I think if you don't feel comfortable with bareback sex then why not listen to and respect that, just because the cultural is changing doesn't mean you have to drop your own boundaries.

Being a sex worker I feel like I get pushed to go on PrEP weekly by internet ads or a doctor derailing our completely unrelated session into trying to propose I start. I don't tolerate PrEP well, and I prefer not to need it. I have found that although playing safe limits my clientelle it provides me with clients I get along with better. Also, having lots of different interactions with different bodies, there are so many things you can pick up and pass on - having worked as a sexual health counselor for 8 years - for me sexual health does not start and end at HIV. Antibiotic resistant gonnorrhea, or really any type of gonnorrhea is also something I would rather not spend time dealing with or telling sexual partners I may have infected them. So I use condoms with all but a main partner and very, very occasionally for porn.
 
To the OP I would suggest telling escorts outright you prefer to use condoms before sex. Body language communication is not very clear during the hot and heavy moments, setting up an expectation will enable you to relax and even tease each other with the idea of it without you having to have the shitty feelings after. I think if you don't feel comfortable with bareback sex then why not listen to and respect that, just because the cultural is changing doesn't mean you have to drop your own boundaries.