DrownedBoy

My advice. Keep this anonymous. It doesn't make either of you look good.

My advice. Keep this anonymous. It doesn't make either of you look good.

I would have turned around and walked away at the end of the sentence "I got the impression I was inconveniencing him" (4th sentence, 2nd paragraph), having exchanged no money.

I can't imagine any intelligent escort thinking this way.  That entirely too much trust in someone you likely don't know well.
Bottom line, you protect YOURSELF first and then make judgement calls from there.
We always have to think about consequence:  It's weighing how much risk you're willing to put yourself in with how easy/accessible it is to treat what issue might crop up.

I met my first masseur this weekend. I knew from doing research here that he had a partner at the same address. No sign of the partner when I arrived. Midway though the "massage," the masseur mentions he has a partner who also does massage.  At the end, I asked if I would get to meet him.  The provider called him in, and I got to say hello.  We enjoyed a threeway kiss. It was very nice. 
Oddly enough,  in one of my stories, the narrator discovered his sex partner's husband is home. My experience definitely had a couple moments that mirrored my story. It is very hot in real life.  

I plan to hire as least one, maybe 2, escorts for June 14 U.S. Flag Day 🇺🇲

Oh don’t worry. I don’t agree.
You push my buttons but you’re fun. 

I’ll remember you fondly as I’m admonishing my next masseur to not grimace quite so obviously while tending to me. 🤣

Don't you folks have jobs? How can you spend so much time on such minutiae?

Block him. You life will be improved. I don't believe a word he's saying. I think he's a sad, closeted guy who takes his anger out on people. 

@Jamie21, if I were you, I’d move on. It’s like playing chess with a pigeon. The pigeon struts all over the board, knocking over the pieces without any concern or a shred of understanding, and shits all over everything in the end. What do you have? Nothing but a shitty chessboard and neither of you had a chance at “winning” – yet the pigeon thinks he had a good time! 

most New Yorkers are not 100% tone-deaf & completely lacking self-awareness 
Im sure you’re charming at cocktail parties - doubtful that ever happens tho

‘Are selfish’ - an extreme.
’only a hookup’ - an extreme.
You’re misrepresenting comments by making them extreme and binary so that you can argue the opposite and cause conflict. I see what you’re doing and I feel foolish for falling for it. So let me say this - actually I totally agree with you. You’re 100% right in everything you say. 

Just curious, but how many of those young men were repeat providers for you or even stayed in the business long enough to be? You’re telling an experienced, successful provider you don’t agree with them when their business model works and has provided them longevity.
You don’t seem to value providers beyond their ability to impress you physically and ragdoll under you for a steamy session. Which is fine, but not what everyone is looking for and not what every provider provides. Go ahead and pay for your Grindr hookup if you must but I’ll reserve my bouillon for masters of the craft

Don’t feed the troll. 🧌 

You’ve just given me an idea. Thanks. 

much better that way - a full block/ignore makes them invisible  
there are lots of guys here full of self-hatred and working out their issues….or not.  the tone is telling.
and then there are those living vicariously through others who never post anything about their own actual experiences - yet, live to pick apart details posted by others. typically, they populate this forum & similar forums 24/7.  
of course, the Karens are here too - feverishly working to control the narrative w frequent reports to the mods to censor & cancel people they don’t like. easily identified by their passive/aggressive tendencies and “ownership” of the space
it takes a village 

It doesn't help that certain clients constantly insinuate that everyone who hires except them is ancient, obese and disfigured. 

Well.....considering that the police just busted a couple of guys in a hotel a few blocks from my home (one that is used by many of the escorts who come through town), I'm not sure it's accurate to say police don't care.  If I remember correctly, it's happened quite a few times in Texas recently as well.  I'll stick to the anonymous route.  

^YES. This. 

It’s really helpful to post info to your profile. It shows you are serious. You don’t need to post a photo or stats but those are nice and do give a sense that you are more serious. The basics of what you’re looking for are the most helpful. You may want different things at different times, with different providers, so that only goes so far. Be clear about what you want when you contact your provider.
Post your “intos” if you tend to have the same or similar range of interests in most of your encounters. For example, your kinks or fetishes, or kissing is really important to you, you like longer sessions with a dinner date, or you want to be dominated, or you are a strict bareback top, or what have you. The more you share, the more we get a sense of what you want, and we use that info to better serve you.

Same here.  I provide a description but would never provide a photo.   I completely agree with Simon above.   I'm paying $300+ for a service and in my opinion, that includes anonymity to some degree.   I'm kind of surprised to read that so many other guys send their pics to an escort for what is still (unfortunately) an illegal activity.  I've met enough crazy providers to know it is likely not in my best interest for them to have my photo and attached message asking about their rate and sexual interests.   In all my years of hiring, I think I've been asked to send a photo twice.  Both times I refused and they still saw me.  

That’s because you don’t understand sociology or the impact of mass media on sexual culture. Nor do you appreciate that most counties that lack capitalist media are sex segregated, marriages are arranged, etc. In fact, what constitutes attractiveness in those cultures is vastly different. 
Rather than putting your ignorance on display you could educate yourself. 

I’m 53 and typically see guys in their mid 20’s.   I’m not looking to discuss middle eastern politics…

Or, if you have a chat beforehand, a strong hand around someone's neck.

I and my regulars use that technique too in my condo building, passing them off as Grindr hookups. Gay or straight, they just nod and leave me alone.
Some of them actually are Grindr hookups; luckily, nobody has grilled me on the differences in appearance and age between the hookups and the hires.

It's my policy to never send personal pics. If there's fakes on RM, there are also blackmailers.
I keep my RM client stats accurate and available, and often send a link.
The only time this was a problem was when a new hire came to my floor. I went into the condo hall to greet him, and at the same time, one of my neighbors came into the hall too. The neighbor was fat and old, and the escort greeted him, thinking that he was the client. When I called to him, he seemed relieved