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Depends. Are they doing actual classical psychoanalysis with you (which is in many ways the epitome of non-directive therapy), or are they doing analytically-informed psychotherapy? If the former, you're unlikely to get homework no matter how you ask for it, and they definitely won't define goals for you. If the latter, you could probably just ask for it directly.
 
"Homework" as a term, and where you have a specific assignment to practice a specific skill, is pretty much a CBT thing. If you want it, ask for it; but I wouldn't expect most psychotherapists to automatically "assign" it every week and definitely wouldn't discount a therapist because they don't. Similarly, there may be a limit to how "smart" your goals can be on day one. Whether you and your therapist set very specific goals (and then update them as needed), or start with a more general, exploratory attitude before identifying what is truly at the heart of things for you, is a question of style and preference as much as anything.

Depends. Are they doing actual classical psychoanalysis with you (which is in many ways the epitome of non-directive therapy), or are they doing analytically-informed psychotherapy? If the former, you're unlikely to get homework no matter how you ask for it, and they definitely won't define goals for you. If the latter, you could probably just ask for it directly.
 
"Homework" as a term, and where you have a specific assignment to practice a specific skill, is pretty much a CBT thing. If you want it, ask for it; but I wouldn't expect most psychotherapists to automatically "assign" it every week and definitely wouldn't discount a therapist because they don't. Similarly, there may be a limit to how "smart" your goals can be on day one. Whether you and your therapist set very specific goals (and then update them as needed), or start with a more general, exploratory attitude before identifying what is truly at the heart of things for you, is a question of style and preference as much as anything.

You're right -- transference is definitely not reserved for client-therapist relationships, and does indeed happen frequently in most relationships.
 
The basic idea is just that we unconsciously "transfer" elements of our old, formative relationships, to interactions we have with people who are currently in our lives -- perhaps in the form of how we experience them, or assumptions we make without realizing it, or just the emotional cadence or expectations we bring to those interactions.
 
The reason transference is most often discussed in the context of therapy is because it is, again, a critical, on-the-table component of most psychotherapy. It is deliberately watched for in that context (which we don't usually do, elsewhere). A good therapy session thus plays a double role. On the one hand, it has a detached, reflective, analytical side to it, where you can sort out what's going on in your life with a third party who is external to it. At the side time, it is a hands-on laboratory experiment. Your interaction with the therapist is both the tool you use to shed light on your life, and a big part of what you use that tool on.

You're right -- transference is definitely not reserved for client-therapist relationships, and does indeed happen frequently in most relationships.
 
The basic idea is just that we unconsciously "transfer" elements of our old, formative relationships, to interactions we have with people who are currently in our lives -- perhaps in the form of how we experience them, or assumptions we make without realizing it, or just the emotional cadence or expectations we bring to those interactions.
 
The reason transference is most often discussed in the context of therapy is because it is, again, a critical, on-the-table component of most psychotherapy. It is deliberately watched for in that context (which we don't usually do, elsewhere). A good therapy session thus plays a double role. On the one hand, it has a detached, reflective, analytical side to it, where you can sort out what's going on in your life with a third party who is external to it. At the side time, it is a hands-on laboratory experiment. Your interaction with the therapist is both the tool you use to shed light on your life, and a big part of what you use that tool on.

This can't be emphasized enough.
 
It doesn't just mean liking your therapist, because this relationship is itself an actual, on-the-table component of almost any successful therapy. So you need someone who you find it easy to communicate with, and who you trust to be "on your team" even when providing tough feedback.
 
Re training background and particular therapeutic techniques: the majority of therapists identify as having an "eclectic" theoretical orientation, meaning that they draw from multiple schools of thought, including both directive therapies (like CBT) and evocative therapies (like psychodynamic approaches). I wouldn't, however, write anyone off based on their training. There are certainly some MDs (= psychiatrists) who focus solely on meds, but I've known multiple psychiatrists who have been incredibly insightful on a non-biological level and have emphasized talk and relationships.

He was great on "M*A*S*H".

https://rentmen.eu/HarryMorgan/
https://rent.men/HarryMorgan/
 
New on RM, no reviews, is visiting from the UK. Image and phone searches turn up nothing. Anyone seen him?
 
I did always like Colonel Potter.

Yikes.
 
I can imagine how a well-meaning (if somewhat naive) member could end up giving this info to an escort without thinking it through, due to pressure from the escort in the moment.
 
But what I have a harder time understanding is the step that comes before it: why any potential client would share with an escort they haven't met, that they are turning them down because they got negative feedback about them. Why in the world would you want to antagonize someone in that way? (Especially if the negative report involved behavior and not just talent.)

My impression is that pickings are slim for masseurs in Boston. For several years, I traveled to Boston almost monthly, always with time to kill in the evenings. I tried several masseurs and found the experience underwhelming. Most of them no longer have ads up on the major sites. For several others that looked interesting, I thought that the rate was too high or I didn't want to deal with Boston traffic to do the in-call in an outer neighborhood or the burbs. For old times' sake, I checked out the major sites and still had the same feeling that there is nobody that I would hire for a massage. But, boy, the escort scene sure has picked up on RM. Maybe that says something about the Boston marketplace.

Though he's not the "type" I'm inclined to hire, I maintain an everlasting torch for Kenny:
https://www.seancody.com/tour/model/138/kenny/

I had a similar encounter with this same provider, I we can say "he's a flake"

This is a difficult business to establish pricing for. Made a bit harder now that rent.men and m4rn.com aren't showing prices. You can look at the prices in reviews, but I take those with a grain of salt. As an escort, how do you determine how much other locals are charging? Do you call them up and ask? Do you ask clients who seem to hire around what they pay for others?
 
One of my old regulars told me a story of getting called to a session, for which he was billing $300-$400, and finding in the lobby the other escort, a new kid. This was my regular's first indication that it was a threesome deal. The kid said he was getting $100, and was excited he was getting so much. My regular talked to him a bit after the session about pricing.
 
The amount an escort can get depends on several factors: location, competition, services, attractiveness, etc. Even fame. It's a challenge to find what they can get out of the work they do, and keep enough business going to support themselves.
 
Gas stations (for example) display how much for a gallon of gas, the other stations can see if their prices are higher or lower and adjust as needed. Escorts seem to have a dark room and need to feel around to find what they can charge.
 
Or do the escorts have a secret webpage or union that tells them the rates of others?

I had almost the identical experience last week (wouldn't be surprised if it was the same provider), and I had the same reaction.
 
I kind of got the feeling that it was an innocent attempt at a selling technique: to make a high-end-of-average price seem like a really good deal. But it was hard to shake the feeling that the provider might not be as invested in it.

One more vote for the early days of Sean Cody. That link! Dylan, at the top of the page, really did it for me at the time... and I fondly remember the first "Gang Bang" video he, Zack and Luke were in (currently on page 152).
 
IIRC, there were a few months of stuff that's no longer listed, with lower production values. Wasn't the first video on the site a sort of weird orgy featuring Michael Brandon?

I'd hate to see forum members stop sharing their experiences via PM just because there's a few bad apples here. As others have already posted, I do not share anything that would link my real identity to my online identity. I don't care if someone tells an escort that "Sundayzip" shared some information. If the escort doesn't like that I've shared, I can block him from sending me a message. I'm just careful to not share anything that could be used to identify me unless it's a forum member that I've met and trust.

Five pages summarized: People do a lot of private grousing
 
If you don't wish to accidentally be pushed into the deep-end, I'd suggest not hanging out near the edge of the pool.

just for fun, here is the oldest page of models available on the Sean Cody website, from mid-2001!......what a change in vibe, eh??!!
 
https://www.seancody.com/tour/movies/all-models/all-categories/alltime/bydate/156/

One more vote for the early days of Sean Cody. That link! Dylan, at the top of the page, really did it for me at the time... and I fondly remember the first "Gang Bang" video he, Zack and Luke were in (currently on page 152).
 
IIRC, there were a few months of stuff that's no longer listed, with lower production values. Wasn't the first video on the site a sort of weird orgy featuring Michael Brandon?

From the early years of the studio my favs were... Luke, Rudy, Ricardo, Ethan, Garrett, and Martin.
 
There was a scene were Luke (who professed to be straight) was working out and Sean Cody himself pretty much seduces him and he really starts to get into to and kiss with wild abandon. That was one of my favorite scenes on the site ever. I have others and other fav guys, but that scene sealed my SC fandom.

I’ve followed SC for years. Those early days were really special. My all time early favorite was Zack!!! Wonder whatever happened to him? Thanks for the reminder and memories!

I'm inclined to believe anything after hearing the other OP (Jomo) talk about the escort divorcing him because he bragged about finding shit about him through online research. There are people that just don't understand boundries.

Yeah. Perhaps a tweaked analogy would be to compare it to, I don't know, renting a car, and the experience you have with that. Better cars do cost more to rent, and while admittedly those prices often turn on size (*cough*), the experience of driving them is probably more on most renter's minds than the prestige is.
 
Or as Shakespeare put it: "O happy horse, to bear the weight of Antony!"

I'm betting for most people, the handling, power, and feeling connected to a Porsche will get your heart beating faster than driving a Hyundai will.

I didn't say it was a god awful, totally illogical, invalid analogy, just a bad one. Cars are physical goods, things one can take possession of. Time with an escort is not. A better analogy would be to compare it to a vacation or something like that.
 
BTW - Love your profile pic. AbFab is my all time fave TV show.

Yes, and some people care more about one, some people more about the other, which sounds like the very point Mike was making with that analogy.