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I love nifty , but yes their search function is a bit lacking. I also like menonthenet the erotic stories section has a ton of erotic stories. Organized a little better than nifty.
 
http://eroticstories.menonthenet.com/index.cfm

When, as a bi-curious widower who knew very little about gay sex, I began exploring gay porn, nifty.org was an eye-opening resource. There's a lot of dreck there but also some very good stories, and descriptions of things men do that I had never dreamed of.

It's been a while, but for the latter, nifty.org.

Thank you for reading all of that, Keith. And for finding some meaning in it.
 
 
 
 
-t
 
 
 

After thumbing thru a bunch of Forum posts and RM profiles like my gum-popping mom sitting under a beauty shop hairdryer reading The Inquirer, I stumbled across a jolting, refreshing set of observations by Tylerthebadwolf. It’s something that really struck a nerve because it seems so obvious yet elusive:
 


"For all of the hardcore, bareback, fuck-me-in-the-ass porn that exists in all the mansex world, it seems that what men want (without realizing that they want it) is to be connected. Connected to another human; another man."
 
If your thing is ejaculating into a wet hole or being ejaculated into then more power to you and have at it with sweaty gusto. I’ll even hold the flashlight.
 
But the game seems lopsided.
I read RM profiles by "heavy shooters" with close-up, bareback videos that look like Soviet-era industrial safety films and read discussions here about who didn't get hard and who didn't cum and wonder if I'm missing something.
 
What I want to do is make a brief connection with someone... to freely give and receive affection, holding eye contact and happy simply for the moment of the shared experience. Most profiles & videos I see tell me something about someone's anatomy but what I really want to see is something about who they really are and how capable they are of making a connection with me.
 
I'm not trying to change anyone's mind about what they should enjoy - to each their own. Please enjoy.
 
What I would like to do is give a word of encouragement to the escorts who are genuinely interested in creating a connection with their clients. It's so rewarding to find a guy who understands and values this and, I think, it's more rewarding for those escort too.
 
 


"...what you’re sharing with that other man is intensely personal and very often private. Something about which they may have all sorts of conflicted feelings: shame, guilt, fear, sadness, elation. You can’t do anything about their feelings, but you can be open and receptive and those are the keys to connected sexual interaction. You can be excited and you can let their expressions of pleasure enhance your own...:"

Tyler gets the trophy for "Most Insightful Observation Of The Day".
(please don't sue me for copyright infringement)

So have had a couple of massage experience the past several weeks that I thought I would share:
 
Brad: https://www.masseurfinder.com/members/brad_007.shtml - easy to find on the north side right off Lake Shore Drive. Very clean apartment. Booked a 90 minute massage and it was a very, very good massage (one of the best I had in Chicago). Great hands and massage became more sensual. Pics are very accurate. HE was fantastic. You can PM me for details. I will definitely go back - seemed like a quiet and sweet guy.
 
Franz: https://www.masseurfinder.com/members/franz.shtml - Rogers Park location and, again, easy to get to and parking was not difficult. Spotless apartment with table set up in the living room. I will say that his table is not the most comfortable but it is extra wide. Massage was in the nude. MT was allowed and HE was really nice. It seemed for a second that it might become a bit more intense - which would have been fine by me. Pics are accurate - he's a solid guy for sure! Will most likely go back. He is a sweet and kind man.
 
Steve: https://www.masseurfinder.com/members/stevensmith.shtml - Buena Park location right off Lake Shore Drive. Easy to schedule, nice personality and sent over a few "artistic" pics pre-massage. Massage is in his studio apartment but the AC/Heat unit was a bit distracting. Also used some combination of oil and lotion that clumped up during the massage. Overall it was fine with a nude massage with torso/body contact and a playful HE - but not sure if I would rush right back. He has a great body (pics are accurate) - just not sure there was the same chemistry.
 
Jeff: https://www.masseurfinder.com/members/jeffsmassage.shtml - Wrigleyville location, easy to get to. Very responsive and timely texting the appointment. Description is off - ad claims 190's but he's a big guy so that's off by a few pounds. also. the pics don't show his whole torso so that was also a bit off. Started the 90 minute session with a "scrub" which really felt like I was getting into a carwash. Massage was done nude but it felt like limited MT. When it was HE time, it was really "meh". Thinking that there just was no connection and I was in between appointments for the day. This is probably a "won't go back" in my book.

Every time I watch one of those videos, I'm disappointed.
 
Not because the guys flunk the swimsuit competition, but because the scripts are dull.

Dan Savage had a riff at the start of this week's podcast on how refreshing the 'so what' reaction to this news was. He speculated that if it had been at a US university he would have been fired. Isn't it nice not to have an instant moral panic?

This argument was already posed to Victor. I would rather respect his decision and move on. This thread should be declared dead.
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Rate schedules often reveal companion preferences and proficiencies. Always take that into account when pondering a session with a provider.

I smoked a lot when I was young. Didn't touch it all for years and years. Started again as a means of coping with chronic pain. For a few years, I got high a few times a month. Recently, I've lost interest in it. Realized I prefer being clear-headed for the most part.

I don't need a celebrity endorsement to influence my vote.

Nope. I don't allow myself to be swayed by celeb endorsements.
 
Hugs,
Greg

Yeah...she told him to swallow our dicks, and he absolutely went for it....didn't hold back. He'd been fucked before, but never by a couple.

Ha...maybe so. He did seem to enjoy having a hard dick in his ass, that's for sure. But then he wanted permission to like it. Definitely an interesting dynamic.

We get lots of requests for interesting things, but so many of the straight inquiries end up going nowhere. Being a couple is a little overwhelming for some other couples. This one was different. The girlfriend demanded her man take a nice long session with us. We talked for awhile and got to know each other. Did the whole sex-is-just-sex conversation. Got nice and relaxed and started with a massage. He had a towel over his face most of the time but watched her getting off while he was taking both of us. She gave him instructions. We weren't sure if he finished because he was getting full service from us both, or if he found her excitement and direction that hot. We both actually loved it ourselves.
 
So, is this the new direction of the feminist movement? Guys getting fucked so their women can get off?

I have decided a No go for more scenes. Porn is like a tattoo. Always there. If I ever reconsider, I'll just read through this thread and go from there. Thank you all for the input.

I think the majority of straight guys who do gay male massage are doing it for the money. Who would not want to make $120-$150/hr? I also think a part of it is ego....whether it is a woman or a man thinking they are attractive, it strokes their ego....plus they get paid very well. From my "straight" masseurs.....and from my hook ups with guys who said they are "straight" I have heard it all. It has been all over the map. Some say they like having sex with men but are not gay. Some say they like having sex with men, but it is only physical and they could never fall in love with a guy. Some say things such as you mentioned...they find a cock fascinating and it stops there. There are SO many different flavors of these guys I stopped trying to figure them all out. All I know is that I respect whatever they tell me and don't argue or convince them they are really gay and don't know it. I just respect whatever their truth is for them, enjoy the massage and my time with them, and move on.

Maybe a crazy idea, but if they really wanted to verify identities and verify the level of service, why don't they look at what has worked in the service industry for years-secret shoppers?
Clients on staff who go through the motions of contacting an escort, having the session, PAYING FOR THE SESSION (reimbursed or covered in advance by the company), and then having them write a review after the fact. This review could then be labeled as "Staff Verified" or something along those lines. The mystery shopper client would of course not let it be known that a review will be forthcoming, so the performance of the escort shouldn't be altered by the promise of a review. I know there are some things that just depend on the client's perspective, but these reviews could cover the basics that most of us look for: ease of making appointment, communication, valid photos, etc. This just seems less creepy and less exploitative then "give us a freebie, and we'll give you the a-ok."
And if this were to come to fruition, I'm always looking for a side gig, and happen to have mystery shopping experience

I couldn't get past them needing a loan for something like $15,000. Grace was a CEO, both their exes were highly successful lawyers, they own a beach house that's got to be worth seven figures minimum, and they don't have $15k lying around the damn house?

If the brain is the body’s largest sex organ and humor a sign of intelligence, this guy is one of the sexiest fucks on RM.

that is definitely a man after my own heart (and fridge)

Most of my points are SPG, and I use the SPG Amex card whenever I can. Thanks for the tip for free drinks.

Where is the thumbs down button?