Why some straight men enjoy M4M massage...

[fratphysicals]

I think we can all agree that sexuality is on a spectrum and not black and white. That said, I’m always intrigued to meet a straight guy who enjoys giving men sensual massages. I’ve had a few massages from guys that claim to be straight but are likely on the curious side but I’ve also had one or two massages from guys who I’m convinced are undoubtedly straight and not sexually attracted to men, BUT really enjoy working on other guys.

 

While getting a massage from one of these guys based in Boston we wound up talking and I started asking questions about why he does what he does. His explanation intrigued me...

 

He mentioned that it’s not totally for the money but the fact that he’s attracted to the male sexual organ, but nothing beyond that. In other words, no thought of intimacy with another man and no attraction to men in general, but rather the mans goods and only the mans goods. Almost as if being in a position of power (clothed masseur) touching a vulnerable client who is letting it all out is what gives him a rise (pun intended). He went on to mention that he had male to male experiences as a child and attributes the attraction to those experiences.

 

I’m genuinely interested in this type of stuff and wondering if anyone has similar experiences/stories. What are your thoughts on this?

[niceandthick]

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He mentioned that it’s not totally for the money but the fact that he’s attracted to the male sexual organ, but nothing beyond that. In other words, no thought of intimacy with another man and no attraction to men in general, but rather the mans goods and only the mans goods. Almost as if being in a position of power (clothed masseur) touching a vulnerable client who is letting it all out is what gives him a rise (pun intended). He went on to mention that he had male to male experiences as a child and attributes the attraction to those experiences.

 

I’m genuinely interested in this type of stuff and wondering if anyone has similar experiences/stories. What are your thoughts on this?

 

Makes sense to me. I have had sexual experiences with guys of the same "orientation". Super hot married guys that have no attraction to men other than their cock. Great for me because they didn't care what I looked like (I don't think I could have got a guy of that caliber on my looks alone). They were only interested my NiceandThick. Sometimes there was a racial slant to it as well. Thanks to porn, some want to get their hands on a BBC/Eggplant.

[Dmitri]

I think the majority of straight guys who do gay male massage are doing it for the money. Who would not want to make $120-$150/hr? I also think a part of it is ego....whether it is a woman or a man thinking they are attractive, it strokes their ego....plus they get paid very well. From my "straight" masseurs.....and from my hook ups with guys who said they are "straight" I have heard it all. It has been all over the map. Some say they like having sex with men but are not gay. Some say they like having sex with men, but it is only physical and they could never fall in love with a guy. Some say things such as you mentioned...they find a cock fascinating and it stops there. There are SO many different flavors of these guys I stopped trying to figure them all out. All I know is that I respect whatever they tell me and don't argue or convince them they are really gay and don't know it. I just respect whatever their truth is for them, enjoy the massage and my time with them, and move on.

Edited November 1, 2017 by Dmitri

[maverick64]

How about the other way around? Straight guy that enjoys m4m massages

[+ sniper]

How about the other way around? Straight guy that enjoys m4m massages

I think both sides of this are, at least in part, a result of American society kind of frowning upon male-male signs of affection in general. A lot of people are essentially touch-deprived and this fills that need. How many guys do you know who only shake hands with their own fathers?

I think contact sports actually fill this need for a lot of guys, but once that phase of life is over they start needing something. I found when I played rugby that my libido plummeted - like the contact from that was meeting my physical needs.

[fratphysicals]

Makes sense. I also think there’s a curiosity factor in a lot of straight guys, regardless of sexual attraction. I think the idea of working on a guy and seeing them nude while the masseur is clothed is pleasureable to them in a sense.

[+ sniper]

I also think there are a lot of straight guys who find the male body sort of aesthetically pleasing but not sexually, if that makes sense. I have a couple of friends who seem to be like this - nearly all their male friends are really really good looking, but I really don't think they mess around.

And if they go into massage they can rationalize away giving another guy a handjob as "not really sex."

[dcman]

Makes sense to me. I have had sexual experiences with guys of the same "orientation". Super hot married guys that have no attraction to men other than their cock. Great for me because they didn't care what I looked like (I don't think I could have got a guy of that caliber on my looks alone). They were only interested my NiceandThick. Sometimes there was a racial slant to it as well. Thanks to porn, some want to get their hands on a BBC/Eggplant.

I'm sorry. I just have to ask. What is a BBC/Eggplant ?

[+ José Soplanucas]

Why not?

[+ sniper]

I'm sorry. I just have to ask. What is a BBC/Eggplant ?

 

BBC=Big Black Cock. As for eggplant, that is the emoji the whippersnappers are using on the Grindr to indicate a large penis.

[niceandthick]

I'm sorry. I just have to ask. What is a BBC/Eggplant ?

 

BBC = Big Black Cock

 

Eggplant= from Urban Dictionary:

Eggplant Friday: A popular social media hashtag where men with large penis' take pictures of their bulges through their sweatpants which resemble an

eggplant

.

Eggplant Emoji: An emoji that is used as a vegetable by mature people. Immature people use it as a dick emoji.

[+ EVdude]

Confession: I have played the st8-curious guy seeking a massage. This really turns some masseurs on... str8 and gay.

[+ sniper]

Confession: I have played the st8-curious guy seeking a massage. This really turns some masseurs on... str8 and gay.

Yeah sometimes I've debated whether I should say that. I tend to "read" as straight* so I get asked that sometimes, and it seems like they're hoping I am.

 

*FTR I do not consider that some sort of positive, I'm just a stocky Irish guy who looks like a beer-swilling couch potato - my hag called me "a gay man trapped in a straight man's body." It's actually sort of frustrating because I am shy and unlikely to make the first move.

[NavyChief]

Really enjoyin this thread. I'm a mwm, and fit @sniper description too. Lol. I'm probably a 60 40 on the McKenzie (sic) scale. I especially enjoy seeing how far I can get with a str8 masseur, but I guess I also really like the aesthetic and sensual, intimacy/vulnerability of it all. Someone mentioned touch deprived, especially the male bonding, I was never into sports, go figure, right? And well, let's face facts, women come with way too many strings and emotions. Sometime, a nut is a nut, and it is good to have some guy time.

Edited November 25, 2017 by NavyChief

[samK]

I think the majority of straight guys who do gay male massage are doing it for the money. Who would not want to make $120-$150/hr? I also think a part of it is ego....whether it is a woman or a man thinking they are attractive, it strokes their ego....plus they get paid very well. From my "straight" masseurs.....and from my hook ups with guys who said they are "straight" I have heard it all. It has been all over the map. Some say they like having sex with men but are not gay. Some say they like having sex with men, but it is only physical and they could never fall in love with a guy. Some say things such as you mentioned...they find a cock fascinating and it stops there. There are SO many different flavors of these guys I stopped trying to figure them all out. All I know is that I respect whatever they tell me and don't argue or convince them they are really gay and don't know it. I just respect whatever their truth is for them, enjoy the massage and my time with them, and move on.

Oh the straight boys stories from my past life. I just love them and the fun playful/ up for anything mind set... just to explore sex.

My favorite one would kiss, fuck and get fucked... but would not suck dick. He said that was too gay (haha) but he would jerk me hard and sit on dick riding me saying stuff like "you cum first and then I will fuck you until I cum". We did it everywhere in my house, outside my house, the movies, the car and once at work. We stopped finally, as we both found our ways into relationships. He is engaged and I am married... but we still chat about the good old days. So dam hot.

My favorite local masseurs are all straight and one is married, but it doesn't stop them from testing the waters and getting playful ... even though we have never discussed or planned on it to happen. One of them was using a new body massager to start the massage and later confused to using to get off when his wife was pregnant. He told me he got off in 60 secs. I started to laugh and as I flipped over I was a little aroused (which sometimes just happens) then we offered to show me.... and he was right!! it took like 60 sec!!! Then I ordered one online the next day - haha!!!

Forgot why I started this share... but I need to go pull that massager out of the closet after all this sharing!! ((:

[dcman]

Oh the straight boys stories from my past life. I just love them and the fun playful/ up for anything mind set... just to explore sex.

My favorite one would kiss, fuck and get fucked... but would not suck dick. He said that was too gay (haha) but he would jerk me hard and sit on dick riding me saying stuff like "you cum first and then I will fuck you until I cum". We did it everywhere in my house, outside my house, the movies, the car and once at work. We stopped finally, as we both found our ways into relationships. He is engaged and I am married... but we still chat about the good old days. So dam hot.

My favorite local masseurs are all straight and one is married, but it doesn't stop them from testing the waters and getting playful ... even though we have never discussed or planned on it to happen. One of them was using a new body massager to start the massage and later confused to using to get off when his wife was pregnant. He told me he got off in 60 secs. I started to laugh and as I flipped over I was a little aroused (which sometimes just happens) then we offered to show me.... and he was right!! it took like 60 sec!!! Then I ordered one online the next day - haha!!!

Forgot why I started this share... but I need to go pull that massager out of the closet after all this sharing!! (

Got a link to where one of those massagers could be purchased??

[dcman]

Oh the straight boys stories from my past life. I just love them and the fun playful/ up for anything mind set... just to explore sex.

My favorite one would kiss, fuck and get fucked... but would not suck dick. He said that was too gay (haha) but he would jerk me hard and sit on dick riding me saying stuff like "you cum first and then I will fuck you until I cum". We did it everywhere in my house, outside my house, the movies, the car and once at work. We stopped finally, as we both found our ways into relationships. He is engaged and I am married... but we still chat about the good old days. So dam hot.

My favorite local masseurs are all straight and one is married, but it doesn't stop them from testing the waters and getting playful ... even though we have never discussed or planned on it to happen. One of them was using a new body massager to start the massage and later confused to using to get off when his wife was pregnant. He told me he got off in 60 secs. I started to laugh and as I flipped over I was a little aroused (which sometimes just happens) then we offered to show me.... and he was right!! it took like 60 sec!!! Then I ordered one online the next day - haha!!!

Forgot why I started this share... but I need to go pull that massager out of the closet after all this sharing!! (

Dude, where do you buy this massager? Happen to have a link or photo? Thanks.

[dreamboy13]

Makes sense to me. I have had sexual experiences with guys of the same "orientation". Super hot married guys that have no attraction to men other than their cock. Great for me because they didn't care what I looked like (I don't think I could have got a guy of that caliber on my looks alone). They were only interested my NiceandThick. Sometimes there was a racial slant to it as well. Thanks to porn, some want to get their hands on a BBC/Eggplant.

Ok now

I need picslol

[Gadfly22]

from my hook ups with guys who said they are "straight" I have heard it all. Some say they like having sex with men but are not gay.

 

Ha Ha!! Cleopatra isn't the only queen of DE-NILE!!!

[LookingAround]

I'm probably a 60 40 on the McKenzie scale

 

I’ve never heard of the McKenzie scale but you probably mean the Kinsey scale. It’s not a percent (like 60/40) but rather an ordinal scale of 0 to 6.

 

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

[FrequentMassageGetter]

Dude, where do you buy this massager? Happen to have a link or photo? Thanks.

I’m guessing it’s the Magic Wand. I highly recommend it.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000K8ALI8/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1511588339&sr=8-1&keywords=magic+wand&dpPl=1&dpID=21DBWP8OU1L&ref=plSrch

[NavyChief]

I’ve never heard of the McKenzie scale but you probably mean the Kinsey scale. It’s not a percent (like 60/40) but rather an ordinal scale of 0 to 6.

 

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

Type o on my part.

[+ sniper]

Ha Ha!! Cleopatra isn't the only queen of DE-NILE!!!

 

Well I do think many men compartmentalize sex and "relationships" and that's what they are talking about when they say they like sex with men but aren't "gay."

I don't find it hard to believe there are guys who enjoy sex with men but have no desire to share a life with one. There seem to be many guys who feel that way about women....they just want to fuck them and otherwise seem to want nothing to do with them. I have one perpetually single guy friend who hasn't yet grasped that that's the reason he's single. He fundamentally doesn't respect women but he loves their bodies.

[NavyChief]

Well I do think many men compartmentalize sex and "relationships" and that's what they are talking about when they say they like sex with men but aren't "gay."

I don't find it hard to believe there are guys who enjoy sex with men but have no desire to share a life with one. There seem to be many guys who feel that way about women....they just want to fuck them and otherwise seem to want nothing to do with them. I have one perpetually single guy friend who hasn't yet grasped that that's the reason he's single. He fundamentally doesn't respect women but he loves their bodies.

That in itself is long philosophical discussion on societal norms, etc. Honestly, I think that it has only been in modern era that the whole relationship between men and women became so important. Guys some have relationship's with other men, not just for sport or other things. Sex is sex. Procreation is procreation. Lol. Anyway... again I disgress.

[NavyChief]

I also think there are a lot of straight guys who find the male body sort of aesthetically pleasing but not sexually, if that makes sense. I have a couple of friends who seem to be like this - nearly all their male friends are really really good looking, but I really don't think they mess around.

And if they go into massage they can rationalize away giving another guy a handjob as "not really sex."

That is definitely the Bill Clinton effect. A lot of girls will give a 1000 BJ, love it, but still technically be virgins. Lol.