Eric Hassan

The world is full of people like that. The only remedy is a thick hide.

It’s been wonderful to read such supportive comments. One of the things that really bothered me was that your friend showed you the comments that people wrote about your age/picture. I think it would have been nicer for him to say that a group scene just doesn’t seem to be working out or something like that. Unless I am missing something, it seems like a rather cruel thing to do.

The OP seemed, to me, to be upset that, during the attempt to use the app to cruise, there were some nasty things said about him that the "kid" didn't address - either with the offending parties or the guy. I was addressing his upset, not the choice to use the app, which the OP seemed to say it was not only something they had done before, but that he was willing to do again. That doesn't mean that when it goes awry there is nothing to do about it, or that it's "his fault" - he was upset, the service provider didn't get it or address it, and it's my opinion that if you're hired for this kind of job, when something does goes awary, you don't sit on "it takes two to tango," but you step the fuck up and make it right.
 
And to your point, yes it was probably naive to think it was a good idea. It can work out great, but it can also spell disaster. And yes, it might have been better that the OP address this with the guy, but I imagine that would have been hard to do in the moment.

AMEN.
 
A good escort is focused on you and your experience and would have made sure you knew that. I understand you might have agreed to app cruising but when it got nasty, that was his chance to show you what you paid for. That's not on you, dude.

The OP seemed, to me, to be upset that, during the attempt to use the app to cruise, there were some nasty things said about him that the "kid" didn't address - either with the offending parties or the guy. I was addressing his upset, not the choice to use the app, which the OP seemed to say it was not only something they had done before, but that he was willing to do again. That doesn't mean that when it goes awry there is nothing to do about it, or that it's "his fault" - he was upset, the service provider didn't get it or address it, and it's my opinion that if you're hired for this kind of job, when something does goes awary, you don't sit on "it takes two to tango," but you step the fuck up and make it right.
 
And to your point, yes it was probably naive to think it was a good idea. It can work out great, but it can also spell disaster. And yes, it might have been better that the OP address this with the guy, but I imagine that would have been hard to do in the moment.

AMEN.
 
A good escort is focused on you and your experience and would have made sure you knew that. I understand you might have agreed to app cruising but when it got nasty, that was his chance to show you what you paid for. That's not on you, dude.

Thanks, you guys are great! I'm not looking for a relationship though. I'm fine with the sex and then you leave thing. I think Dallasclient was right, the sex was fine but then he left me feeling inadequate for not meeting his needs and I was so unhappy with what I was seeing from those Grindr guys. Just hit me really hard. Starting to feel better though.
 
I just need to do one hour visits, take care of my needs only and forget about trying to make them so happy and gratified. If I'm not enough, they need to book another appointment instead of using my place to bring in strangers for their own needs.
 
I needed a new attitude.

Strongly agree. I've dreamt of worshiping his dick for most of my adult life.

thank you! also, it's ok to have a man AND wine

as many have said, it would be wise to discuss this with the guy in question, and get clear on what the offer is and the expectations are
 
personally, i have done this with clients - visited them, stayed with them in a separate room, and had some paid time together - the nice thing was that i had a nice place to stay with folks i liked and was free to come and go and see clients outside of the house, i got paid by the clients for our defined time together, and we got to have some off the clock social time when i wasn't seeing other folks - it can certainly be a win-win, but it does take being very open and communicating clearly

thank you! also, it's ok to have a man AND wine

Ive had a guy finish a session with me and move into my guestroom overnight afterwards. I respected his privacy 100% after our time together. I literally didnt see him from 9pm until I showed him out at 630am.
 
Had seen him previously, and offered the guestroom previously, which he'd declined. But he got jammed up on the subsequent visit and asked to stay.
 
I think its important to expect a very broad and generous interpretation of the concept of paying for their time if considering these situations. Dont expect them to hang out, share meals, parade unclothed, etc. If they do, its at their discretion; not a lonely client trying to barter lodging for free companionship or eye candy. Once you know a guy, and demonstrate respect for the boundaries, you can have friendly time off the clock.

as many have said, it would be wise to discuss this with the guy in question, and get clear on what the offer is and the expectations are
 
personally, i have done this with clients - visited them, stayed with them in a separate room, and had some paid time together - the nice thing was that i had a nice place to stay with folks i liked and was free to come and go and see clients outside of the house, i got paid by the clients for our defined time together, and we got to have some off the clock social time when i wasn't seeing other folks - it can certainly be a win-win, but it does take being very open and communicating clearly

as many have said, it would be wise to discuss this with the guy in question, and get clear on what the offer is and the expectations are
 
personally, i have done this with clients - visited them, stayed with them in a separate room, and had some paid time together - the nice thing was that i had a nice place to stay with folks i liked and was free to come and go and see clients outside of the house, i got paid by the clients for our defined time together, and we got to have some off the clock social time when i wasn't seeing other folks - it can certainly be a win-win, but it does take being very open and communicating clearly

as many have said, it would be wise to discuss this with the guy in question, and get clear on what the offer is and the expectations are
 
personally, i have done this with clients - visited them, stayed with them in a separate room, and had some paid time together - the nice thing was that i had a nice place to stay with folks i liked and was free to come and go and see clients outside of the house, i got paid by the clients for our defined time together, and we got to have some off the clock social time when i wasn't seeing other folks - it can certainly be a win-win, but it does take being very open and communicating clearly

That’s what the escort told me the next day, which I perfectly understood. Lesson learned - I need to ask about cuddling and spooning when booking overnights.

I love to cuddle, but in small doses. When I'm ready to go to sleep, I want to spread out in a king-size bed by myself. For that reason, I don't see myself ever hiring for an overnight. I can almost imagine it in a hotel room with two queen-size beds. Or maybe in a suite where he sneaked into my bed early in the morning and surprised me with a big boner.

As André said, there shouldn't be an overnight charge if you are merely offering use of a guest room, but it's something that you have to discuss and agree on. If the escort wants to charge you, you don't have to agree for him to stay. That said, it's open to you and the escort to agree on any arrangement if he is staying at your house, from sharing a bed to using the guest room. I have shared a bed after a paid session, and NOTHING happened, he didn't need to find separate accommodation. I would have been happy to pay again if that sharing a bed became something else.

As André said, there shouldn't be an overnight charge if you are merely offering use of a guest room, but it's something that you have to discuss and agree on. If the escort wants to charge you, you don't have to agree for him to stay. That said, it's open to you and the escort to agree on any arrangement if he is staying at your house, from sharing a bed to using the guest room. I have shared a bed after a paid session, and NOTHING happened, he didn't need to find separate accommodation. I would have been happy to pay again if that sharing a bed became something else.

Also, understand that in most situations, if the staying is for his convenience and not an "overnight", then most would assume they are also free to see other clients, at least outcalls, during that stay.

Also, understand that in most situations, if the staying is for his convenience and not an "overnight", then most would assume they are also free to see other clients, at least outcalls, during that stay.

There are ready-made boundaries in the escort-client relationship - I think of it as a "self-limiting relationship." When both parties respect those boundaries, things can't help but go well. You ignore the boundaries at your risk.
 
This is a blurring of those boundaries. It may be fine, but there's plenty that could go wrong.

There are ready-made boundaries in the escort-client relationship - I think of it as a "self-limiting relationship." When both parties respect those boundaries, things can't help but go well. You ignore the boundaries at your risk.
 
This is a blurring of those boundaries. It may be fine, but there's plenty that could go wrong.

You really need to ask the escort in question. All else is just postulating.
 
Kevin Slater

Things have definitely shifted from when I began, and that seems to be the general consensus with friends in the business, whether porn actors, casual hustlers or those who do it full time. Rentmen is the go-to but the climate definitely isn’t what it use to be. I’ve only been able to keep my business afloat by being inventive in how I market myself, per @Benjamin_Nicholas comment.
 
The market in Europe is much better and Hunqz has warranted me a great deal of success per consistency in business. I would encourage you guys to travel when you can. Fresh talent in fresh places is always a win.