pubic_assistance

What can I say. But your career as a photo editor at Playgirl is doomed.

Jeezus man. When I was younger (and single) I rarely left the gym alone. That was better hunting grounds than a gay bar. Of course thst was pre-Grindr. Now they all have their head buried in their phone. Chris Evans could be at their gym and they wouldn't notice.

Do they ? Look again. He starts out looking 40ish and by the last photo he's clearly in his 60s. Nothing "negative" about it. We all get older. I just found it bizarre that he included a year book array of photos from 1999 till 2023

I get a lot of young Latino twinks.with daddy issues. Apparently I am the hottest thing on the planet for 30-something Asian chicks.My friends find it hysterical, because every time I am out at a bar with my them and my wife doesn't join us, I end up with some drunk and horny Asian chick telling me I have the most beautiful eyes, and why don't I take her home tonight.

I enjoy a bit of naughty drama sex. I remember being on a job site years ago where a young hunky contractor hit on me and we started hooking up. After a few meets he confessed he was also hooking up with my client's wife. He later told her that I had fucked him and she was so turned on by this confession, that she suggested a three way. We all got together and had a good time. We continued our naughty adventures over multiple meets until the contractor confessed he was in love with the client's wife. It all fell apart because that confession made it so much less "dirty" and she completely lost interest in the whole thing. So it seemed the whole naughtiness of the encounter was the focus of the fun. I know it was for me.

Joe just keeps getting older and older as you flip through his pictures. I can't decide whether that's funny or sad.

Truly. How could you NOT find a thread about this ? There must be 100 of them. I agree with what @Michael PhDstated above. Sensual = titillating and the possibility of you leaving happy. Erotic = titillating and the expectation of you leaving happy. Not advertising as an escort means you shouldn't be expecting them to be providing escort services. I've found it most productive (if you're looking to get a truly erotic experience from a masseur) If you book an erotic session. Let them do their thing. Tip them generously and then engage in a man2man conversation afterwards about the possibility of adding other features to your next session. Doesn't hurt to ask. And a good tipper will always be given the opportunity to get to the very limits of what a provider is comfortable with, sexually.

How many have you seen ? One ? Two ? Because 90% of the escorts on the planet do NOT ask for deposits. Either you've been terribly unlucky in your picks or you just signed on the C.o.M. to defend this (ridiculous) narrative that deposits are a reasonable business practice and clients should just trust that the stranger on the other side of the transaction is 100% trustworthy.

My inner monologue heard it differently when I wrote it and hears it the same way when I read it. Probably a cultural difference, as you stated. Sorry if you were offended. It wasn't my intention. Now let's get to the important business...WHAT "kinds of people" are you attracting as a middle aged, slightly overweight, bald, gay man ? I am early 50s, fit and not balding and the mere inclusion of "over 50" takes me out of the formula for many younger gay guys and sadly MOST of the gay guys who I, personally am attracted to. Once in a while I get a 🦄 unicorn popping up in my Grindr who's young, fit and genuinely interested in the "dominant daddy" scene. But most of the real beauties who hit me up on Grindr are definitely trying to scam me for some cash.

Looks like before and after pictures. I wonder if the photo of him totally out-of-shape is the before or is it the NOW and after ?

If the son is an adult he doesn't need to do what his father says nor does @Michael PhD since they are.no longer speaking. So I see no reason to dump the son if the father is already being an asshole.about the whole thing. (This is all assuming any of this actually happened, because the whole story seems a bit off to me ).

Thanks for the cheap psychoanalysis @Marc in Calif I recommend you stick to your day job. @Pd1_jap No..I meant WHAT..as in what kinds of people. Not a list of "who". Ignore the bizarre interpretation above.

I am very well aware. I don't understand your ranting about "my insecurities" I simply asked what kind of people are hitting you up. Inquiring minds want to know. As I got older, the types of people who would hit me up changed. I can't get just anything I want anymore. That's why I hire from time to time. Mostly I get Latino twink.boys and 30ish Asian chicks. Neither are interesting to me.

I would say pursuit of a long term relationship might be disappointing unless one of you is open to changing geography. As far as the profession. That's on YOU. There is no reason that you can't have a relationship with a masseur as long as your jealousies don't take over your brain. What you can certainly maintain is a nice romance and ride it out as long as it sustains a mutually enjoyable experience for both. I think we all do better finding the love of our life by trying out as many mini-meets as possible.

I agree, the young actor is a handsome young fellow...but Americans find physical attraction to men under 20 to be cringey. Most young men are sexually mature by 16, but Americans consistently consider anyone under 19 to 20 to be "children". So we are not to see them as sexually attractive. Let's say the young actor WILL make a handsome man SOME DAY. 😉

Mismatching statements. If he were a restaurant, then we'd expect to pay more for a "fantastic experience". In fact most every fantastic experience is going to cost more than a mediocre or average experience. So, I hardly think $500+ is a "high rate" compared to the number of mediocre providers charging $400.

@pubic_assistance, I don’t have influence anymore… Strange behavior.

Forgive my misunderstanding. I was under the impression you had more of an influential relationship with this person.

Then maybe you didn't understand my point. Because it was very much, directed toward the narrative that you shared. A bisexual man raising a homosexual son should know better than to direct his son's sexual partner to "dump him". If my son took up with a buddy of mine, then I'd be comforted in knowing he was enjoying the company of a good person and happy knowing he was being offered mature mentorship in his sexual explorations. I would be the one to step away. Not deny my child access to a positive role model.

OK. But maybe a little research will change your mind, because it is an often referenced psychological analysis of homosexual behavior. "Born-this-way" is political/ not scientific

Yes. I appreciate hearing other people's experiences as mine is, of course, anecdotal. I would, however say I find the subject fascinating so I have had more than a few conversations on the topic..and I know a LOT of bisexual men with children. When I have the opportunity to chat with gay men I always try to wind the conversation in a direction to inquire about their relationship with their father. So my opinion is not based on a gigantic research project but it is based on 30 years of observations within my own social circles. Which in NYC are somewhat multicultural and economically varied. I suppose it is possible to be bisexual and make the same mistakes your own father made. I know my boys had all the love and affection a child could get because I suffered a distant father myself.

"Proposotioned" by WHAT ?

Blowbuddies is a little TOO "diverse" for MY tastes. I'm not into bears or daddies and the venue tends to start there and descend quickly to just old and fat. I spent the hour pushing people away because I was the only fit man I'm attendance the night I visited. Tried again years later and left quickly, having suffered the same result. If you LIKE hairy bears then it's probably fun for you. There is a lot of activity as people seem to get down to business pretty quickly.

Yes @Lucky. As much as you think people with differences in philosophical viewpoints are stupid, there ARE people who can respect that people are just different. Different viewpoints borne from different life experiences. In this case, I grew up middle class with aspirations to be able to enjoy the services that I observed were afforded the upper middle class. As I grew older, the world has changed and even the "uppers" are subjected to help-yourself attitude in retail. But i didn't work this hard to do self service, so I don't. I won't bully anyone to get it but I do admit to acting confused that I should be expected to do so. 😜

It's rare for a homosexual to have a bisexual father. If this story is true (if)...then you've uncovered a sexual unicorn. 99% of the gay men I've met in my life have fathers who are emotionally unavailable either through extreme layers of machismo or cultural norms that distance the father from parental roles. I would expect a bisexual man to NOT make that mistake with his children, since that bisexuality is often a remnant of his own earning for a male intimacy he was denied in childhood.