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That's literally like saying calling someone "freak" is liberating. Makes ZERO sense.

Obviously making a joke. I dislike being talked down to as if I'm an idiot so I pretend to be one in response.

I don't need to cite sources to be sure of my acurracy .This is a conversation, not a debate. I am discussing from memory, not a research paper with a bibliography. The N word is a tangent, and I therfore risk pissing off the monitors.

Well, we clearly don't share the same sense of humor. I was obviously making a joke of your correcting me.

"You can't just piggy-back"... I meant "you" as in someone. British formal: One can't just piggy back... American casual: You can't just piggy back.

No. Because we'd be getting off topic.

So you agree ? Can't tell if it's male or female.

So is that one, or not ? Looks like it has tits.

*wow* That's about as good as it gets.

You reminded me of the "backroom" at Limelight, which was always incredibly sauna-like from the sheer number of men trying to squeeze in there to get a piece of the action

Always suspicious of the single random torso pic. Why hide every other photo ?

I think there's also a high degree of perception in this interaction. I would relate this to how New Yorkers are often called "rude" simply because we tend to mind our own business and not get chatty with strangers unless they ask first for help. Caleb is a quiet guy. True. If you're looking for bubbly, look elsewhere.

Because that's how life works.

No. You haven't. "Queer" means strange. Calling yourself strange or having someone else call you strange still isolates you from the majority. There is nothing "strange" about homosexuality and bisexuality. By this point in life we know it's all fairly common when society stops referring to it as strange. The "N word" differs in that it doesn't mean black it mean "lesser than". Tossing that around as banter between friends of the same color evokes a challenge to the antiquated idea of being lesser because of your skin color ..but two gay men calling each other "qu**r" still evokes their inability to mix with "normal" people. Which is why you don't hear gay men saying "Oh you qu**r ! to one another. If it weren't still a pejorative, I wouldn't need to modify the spelling to post it here when I'm using it as a slur. So no. It's still an awful and powerful negative that hasn't been neutered. You can't just piggy-back how black Americans have challenged one of their historical slurs and end up with the same effect.

Is it ? Because if you're hiring a "straight guy" to have gay sex, I'm pretty sure there's some acting involved somewhere in that mix. I have been told many times that I am outwardly "straight" in my demeanor. I am also married with kids...so again...seemingly "straight". Just none of that's the case. Am I "acting" ? Am I deceiving ? No. People often see what they want to see. Doesn't mean your outward demeanor is deceitful. I see no reason to walk around like less of a man simply because I used to go to sex parties and let multiple men fuck me up the ass and cum down my throat. People are complex creatures. Not everything fits into easily defined categories. I've known plenty of men who are married with kids, love their wife/ play football/drink beer and drive a pick up truck, who occasionally like to pick up a teenage boy at a road side rest and fuck his little white ass and cum down his throat. Identity and biology don't always match up. That guy in the truck and the teenager cruising the parking lot would likely never set foot in a gay bar..but because they are both "acting" the part of normative macho straight men, the gay sex is no longer "gay". It's just sex. Bromosexuality is very exciting to some men.

As a person raised in the Lutheran Church, I second that opinion. Light on the guilt / heavy on the celebration. My family never once gave me a drop of guilt about anyone I was seeing. ( or at least those who I introduced to them ). From gay men to black women, there was never any judgement. Including the old grandmothers and aunties. I my mid twenties, I met an Italian guy and fell in love, I self identified as "gay" at that time. It never bothered me, and I was perfectly comfortable with people saying I was gay. Although, it's not exactly a clear definition of my sexuality, I was fine with wearing that badge. "Queer", however, is offensive I and I am saddened that young people who don't identify, sexually with mainstream people have embraced such a horrible term. There are enough people on this planet who aren't hetero-normative, that they should not feel the need to identify as strange, or bizarre.

Is this a trans ? Those look like small breasts.

Why would I pay a restaurant to serve myself ?

What a bizarre set list. Was that organized by someone with bi-polar disorder ? It goes from bouncy 80s to her depressing 90s Electronica with no interlude and then back again.

Black don't crack. Kravitz is sexy as a man could want to be.

Reminds me of the old "confirmed bachelor" moniker. Both matched with intention instead of failure.

That's normal with him. If I wanted conversation, I'd go to my hair stylist, not my masseur. He's a quiet sort. That's true. But I rather like the zen quality he projects.

Sorry you had that experience. I had many good experiences with Caleb over the years (when he finds himself in NYC). Sounds like he may be getting burnt out.

My impression was that they scooped up a bunch of addicts who would do anything for "a bump" of meth. I may be wrong, but that was the vibe I picked up.

I agree that young people often struggle to "fit in" and respond in their failure with rebellion. But calling yourself "queer" isn't a rebellion it's accepting your failure. Not as someone who doesn't WANT to fit in...but as someone who CAN'T.