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It was never about how you look or how you are in the bedroom. We are hiring these guys to do work for us. They're doing this as their job, and they only have one job: that is to "provide" sexual services. They are "sex providers". This guy sadly chose not to do the job properly when he was with you.

Oh, I did not mean photos from the event. I was talking about general SFW pics from IG or the like. I'm assuming they're pretty well known and have a good following in the gay community. But it sounds like they don't want to share photos, like you said.

Pics of JD for us who are not in the know?

Just like anything else in business, it's supply vs demand.

If his profile ever comes back I wouldn’t mind giving him a go. But I totally agree with the “if you have to ask how much, you can’t afford it” mindset. To me, immediately asking a provider’s rate is tacky and classless behavior. You’re pretty much introducing yourself as “I’m a cheap bargain shopper, is this the discount escort section?” I could obviously see why that would be a turn off to top-dollar escorts and result in a hopeful client getting ignored or blocked. Serious clients with serious funds would NEVER begin a conversation with a rate inquiry.

You're missing the point. OP has no problem whether giving or lending. He's paying escorts for recreational fun, which means he can easily recoup lost money. OP has feelings for the other guy, and the guy has now ghosted him. The attention, devotion, and time that OP gave to the provider and was never returned is what hurts the most.

You should still post about him, but the promotion will no longer be beneficial to him.

The guy obviously has feelings for the other guy. This is not about money. If you hire escorts recreationally, suffice to say you can easily recoup lost money. This is about being ghosted by someone you devoted attention and energy on—and that shit stings.

The guy obviously has feelings for the other guy. This is not about money. If you hire escorts recreationally, suffice to say you can easily recoup lost money. This is about being ghosted by someone you devoted attention and energy on—and that shit stings.

some Thermas tips 
1. go early - before it gets crowded.  Thermas is big and spread across 3 floors - it can be disorienting to arrive when filed with providers & clients. Plus - it’s competitive & the locals/regulars will always go for their favorites who are usually the most in-demand. Arriving when it’s crowded puts you at a disadvantage. I like to arrive at opening about 3p and watch as providers/ clients arrive. 
2. get familiar with the layout - because it is confusing.  I’d recommend a complete walk-through of the entire place at least once to take note of spa facilities & bar (first floor), all showers (first & second floors).  And the one private bathroom on first floor with a douche - the key to that bathroom is at reception and depending on the attendant, they may require you buy an attachment or if you have your own, then a tip to get the key.  Return the key asap as there may be others waiting.
3. there will always be guys hanging around the reception area & watching the clients locker room.  the game is to snag clients in that area & before they can see the other providers.  don’t fall for it.
4. like anywhere else - be cautious if anyone offers you anything to ingest. last time I was there, a provider offered candy between sessions - upon inspection it was potent edible marijuana. there are a couple guys there routinely selling things - I’d avoid them & whatever they have.  they are obvious & likely will make an approach at some point. 
5. the free cabins are fine for 30 minutes & the staff cleans continuously- but that doesn’t mean you’ll always get a fresh cabin.  If you want to make sure it’s clean - then private rooms. Again - getting there early ensures access to private rooms - when it’s crowded you may wait and sometimes they don’t open up at all. 
6. you dont need ID to get in - leave passports & valuables in your hotel safe.  I carry a set amount of cash, one credit card & phone.  I don’t leave those items in the locker - I carry them with me in a small pack at all times.  you need cash for the guys - everything else can be on credit card.
7. bring your own condoms & lube.  the condoms provided are the most basic & the lube is almost nonexistent.  the guys appreciate good quality condoms & it makes a big difference.  I like to bring my own antibacterial soap along too - just to be extra careful between sessions.  availability of soap in the showers is not a sure thing.
8. if smoking bothers you - avoid the area on the second floor where smokers congregate.  for people who smoke, it’s ideal place to engage the guys in a more relaxed environment.
9. don’t be afraid to say no.  you will be approached many times by guys who may not be your type.  there’s not pressure per se, but they are direct and don’t want to waste time.  they are used to no & it’s just part of the environment.  polite & firm gets the message across.  

10. you will pay for everything at the end & check your final bill carefully.  if buying drinks for providers, make sure you are clear at that time what you’re offering. an offer for a drink can easily turn into a full meal - and that’s fine if that is what you’re offering.  if spending a few hours there, the charges can add up quickly. 
11. don’t be afraid to tell the provider exactly what you want - they’re professionals and have seen it all, several times.  no reason to be embarrassed.  If there is a language barrier - use google translate or show them a video of the type of scene you want. a video is easiest way to get the clear message across & I’ve seen several clients do it.

 
 
 

Hard pill to swallow. Aint' that the truth.
That other side of the coin is: Nobody's gonna give a shit to a provider if they're not young and hot.

Are we that interested.  

Just one of the recent year's freshman crop. We just get older, they stay the same age. Just wait another year, we'll have another crop coming in. Alright, alright, alright.
 

So deep.... I appreciate poetry, and yours is something I haven't ran into. Had to ask technology to breakdown its eloquentness:
"This quote seems to suggest that when the metaphorical "rain" or difficulties in life pass, the protection or support offered by something, like an umbrella, may no longer be needed and could even feel burdensome. It could be about letting go of unnecessary safeguards or dependencies once the situation improves."
Bravo. 🌨️☂️🌞

Fine and well. I could keep writing a book about it 🤷🏻‍♂️

So deep.... I appreciate poetry, and yours is something I haven't ran into. Had to ask technology to breakdown its eloquentness:
"This quote seems to suggest that when the metaphorical "rain" or difficulties in life pass, the protection or support offered by something, like an umbrella, may no longer be needed and could even feel burdensome. It could be about letting go of unnecessary safeguards or dependencies once the situation improves."
Bravo. 🌨️☂️🌞

With the young and beautiful, once the rain is over, an umbrella, however nice, becomes a burden.  

While some providers are kind and good-hearted people, a majority are not. Many are "entrepreneurs" turned on only by the easy money. Others have figured a way to scam older, often mild-mannered, sensitive, and kind but vulnerable gay old men who are often lonely.
I have learned this lesson the hard way. 
Look out for yourselves out there, guys. Without money, nobody's gonna give a shit when you are old and frail.

As my father once said to me when I asked for a loan, "Son, if the bank doesn’t think you’re a good risk, why the fuck should I?"
He had a point and I learned a lesson.
Whenever someone asks me for a loan, I either say "no" or I give them the money and never expect it back. I will not ask nor hint to be repaid. I will however, never make another "loan" until the first one is repaid. 
So far that has worked for me. I’m not an ass about helping others. But I’m also not a sucker. And in general our friendships have remained intact. Whether or not they repaid me.

Like others have said, you've been scammed. This is more typical in the hetero world. One of my former friends started seeing a female stripper more often and they formed some rapport—am sure sex got exchanged at one point. One day, she opened the topic of financial difficulty. The rest pretty much ended up the same way in your story.
This is more common in the hetero-world because of the inherent "damsel in distress" and here's the "knight in shining armor" to save her day. In the LGBTQ world, similar can be said, but we fail to recognize it because we rarely hear such stories about a guy being the "damsel in distress" who's faking it just to steal from the knight.

Chalk it up as a lesson.
"Neither a borrower nor a lender be;
For loan oft loses both itself and friend,
And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry."
- Polonius, Hamlet Scene 1, Act 3

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Delusional
But you can’t fault him for not being upfront and direct!
His profile description translates to “looking for a human ATM!” For something like that he would probably have more luck with Seeking Arrangements. He wants a sugar daddy.
“I’m pretty. Pay me!”

I’ve been there, done that.  I think I’m better off for it financially.  As my guard is way way way up.