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The thing that struck me is his going through your bags, opening your mail, etc. That signified a fundamental lack of communication that made him feel entitled to invade your privacy. My partner and I are married, we've been together for nearly 25 years. In spite of that, neither of us would ever look at the other's checkbook, cellphone, dresser drawers, closets, billfold, pockets, bags, etc. We are deeply respectful of each other's privacy. If either want's to know something, we just ask. I agree, some counseling is in order, with an eye to establishing a new level of communication between the two of you.

I used to go to occasional BDSM parties. Scenes like that weren't uncommon.

Once I traded massages with a professional. When giving me feedback on the massage I gave him, he said it "wasn't unpleasant." Definitely a case of damning with faint praise.

Escorts - in SF? Not really. If you search escorts in SF on RM and filter for ethnicity=Asian, you get 4 hits. If you filter additionally for body build=muscular, you get a single hit, for a masseur.

I don't know many Asians well, but most appear to be very into family. A lot of what whites take for granted in the way of personal autonomy doesn't even seem available to Asians because family obligations are felt so keenly. I know one young Asian guy pretty well from my gym - American-born Chinese. His parents are foreign-born and he lives with them. He's about 20 years old and we talk all the time mostly about working out, but really about anything. He asks me for advice all the time - on fitness and working out, about his career, etc. He could be gay, but I'm not sure. He's working at muscling out - doing lots of squats and deadlifts - it's giving him a nice perky bubble butt which I am fascinated by.

There just don't seem to be many. I go to a gym where the membership may be more than half Asian and the place is full of spectacularly muscled young Asian men, nearly all of them straight. One just doesn't see many muscled gay men who are Asian. And there just don't seem to be many Asian escorts, muscled or otherwise.

And students smoked in class, flicking their ashes and grinding their cigarettes out on the floor of the lecture hall. It's easy to forget how pervasive smoking was. Everybody smoked everywhere - work places, stores, movie theaters, restaurants, hospitals (yes, hospitals). They lit up without asking when they were guests in the home of others, assuming that it was OK. It wasn't really that long ago - it only changed in the 80s.

Mormons always dress for church. There's a Mormon church down the street from me. On Sunday, a bunch of families with the dads dressed in dark suits and white shirts and moms dressed in their best clothes invades the neighborhood. The women don't wear hats, though.

Maybe Dirk Jäger, a German porno star from early 2000s. I don't know whether he ever even escorted. He might not be that impossible. He has a BigMuscle profile and indicates he's open to hookups, but we're on opposite coasts.

He comes to SF fairly often. He was just here a few weeks ago. I considered booking with him but I had other priorities.

Not sure.

His reviews are mixed, most great, but some not so good. Even with the unfavorable reviews, I wouldn't hesitate to take a chance on him.

You're funny. As in "Objection, Your Honor, calls for speculation?" I only know this from watching courtroom dramas. My work doesn't require me to set foot in that world. A guy in my apartment building always used to address me as "Counselor." He was a meth freak who had been a paralegal.

Maybe it's time to take it outside.

Maybe it's better seen as a negotiating tactic. That way, it allows you not to take it personally.

Very sweet guy, yes.

I've seen him, but not recently. I thought he was terrific when I saw him, and he has added quite a bit of muscle since then.

I saw the two of them at the Curran Theatre in about 1992. Great show, especially Clooney.

Multiple pictures - at least four or five, at least a couple should be completely unclothed. The copy should convey a sense of who the escort is. The profile should provide express notice of things such as hard limits, tiered rate structures and any other information that would influence a hiring decision, without requiring the reader to parse the copy or scrutinize or interpret and wonder just what it means.

I enjoy the opera, but I enjoy the symphony a lot more - it's really transporting.

It shouldn't be that difficult to find a gay man that likes opera. I enjoy the opera, but I wouldn't call myself an opera lover. My partner and I usually go to the SF Opera at least once during the season. It is always thick with gay men. Maybe that's just here.

I have wanted to meet Kobe for a long time. I'm going to make it a priority now.

But they're always wearing toolbelts.

My personal favorite is Quentin Gainz....but there are several military style hotties, I'd love to sample. He looks like a real bad boy.

He makes me think of Ethan Hawke back when he was young and cute, for example in "Dead Poet's Society."