Another thought that just occurred to me is that people don't necessarily become wiser as they age. Client #1, at least in the area of sexual prowess, may not have been getting any wiser than the 20-somethings he was emulating, while client #2 had come to terms with his limitations. This conversation reminds me a bit of my mother. As a young adult, I came to realize she was extremely status-conscious - always concerned with knowing the right people, having the right job, living in the right part of town, having the right silverware, etc. and she was extremely dissatisfied because there was so much about our life that wasn't "right." I assumed that as she got older she would become wiser, stop pressuring herself and achieve some peace of mind. She never did - just craved status and its trappings more and more the older she got.