Which shows that relationships, even platonic ones, are challenging and that intimacy needs to be allowed to develop. Somebody may be open to friendship, but not on your timetable. In the meantime, you may have to settle for being friendly. Also, I have noticed that people have different ideas as to who is a friend. I remember being in some support group with guys who were talking about the challenges of sex, dating, romance, intimacy, etc. while the epidemic was raging. There was a guy who said he had lost so many friends that he had lost count. He said that when somebody new died, he removed their card from his rolodex and placed it in a stack. And he said he had a stack a couple of inches high. I didn't say anything, but my thought was that nobody has that many friends - acquaintances, business associates, etc., yes. But friends? I think he had a very loose definition of who is a friend.