Rudynate

Its always nice to hear of good outcomes like this.

It might be different for aging gay men because we've faced the reality that there may not be friends or family in a position to care for us, so it's more of a deliberate choice. Nobody "put" us there.

Aka "independent living community" The thing I've noticed about elder housing is that, no matter how nice it is, none of the residents want to be there. My husband and his sibs found a beautiful place for their mom-it was like a luxury hotel. They literally had to sell the family farm in order to finance it. Yet she never stopped saying that she just wanted to go home. We found an excellent place for my mom, affiliated with Emory University. She managed to tolerate it by spending her time plotting her escape.

I think it is Fountain Grove. There was a hotel of the same name close by that burned to the ground.

Toronto is one of my favorite cities. I've been visiting there since I was in high school and just keep going back. Just about my favorite gay bar of all time was in Toronto, the St. Charles Bar.

My father's cousin was Mayor of Emporia many years ago.

I have a lot of relatives in Emporia KS-very pretty town. Pretty conservative, I suspect.

My husband and I are pretty content in the SF Bay area. But we also toy with the idea of leaving the state. If we did leave, we would probably go to New Mexico-Albuquerque most likely.

In Phoenix, they actually have a "monsoon season" with high temps AND high humidity. High 90s and humidity so high that there's condensation on the windows is no fun.

One needs some relief from the 110-degree summer days in PHX.

I LIKE it.

Some years ago, I had a peculiar skin disturbance where my skin got intolerably dry and itchy. Even a brief shower with cool water felt horrible. I started taking sponge baths in the bathroom sink every morning - face, armpits, crotch, feet and hands. Once a week, I took a shower. I thought I stayed nearly as clean bathing this way as I did showering every day. Fortunately, the skin problem resolved and I can take daily showers again. Having done this, though, I wouldn't have any problem doing it again if necessary.

Changing three times in a day . . . so "Downton Abbey."

I have spent my career in Silicon Valley, a very diverse, international place. Even at the C-level, it is common to encounter highly-educated, highly qualified people whose English isn't quite perfect. One learns to look at the whole person and to overlook the occasional grammatical error or misspelling.

I don't even think about an escort's education. I notice a large number of profiles say "college-educated," but if I was thinking about hiring a guy, the absence of that in a profile wouldn't make a difference. I will say that I have never hired a guy who wasn't bright and at least a decent conversationalist. The one time I wished a guy would keep his mouth shut was when I saw a well known masseur in LA some years ago. I cringed every time he said something, he was so dim.

It's all part of this game. I have always assumed that I am not a guys only partner for the day. You just have to do the math in order to realize that this is probably so. I always book in the early afternoon, mostly because I like day sex, but also hoping that my guy is fresher at that time. It's isn't important to me that he cum. There is an easy solution to the problem-money. If you want to be his only client for the day, pay accordingly. Or hire somebody with a higher rate who doesn't need to do as much volume.

blowing smoke at them as they inhale it? I thought everyone had done that.

That's right. I forgot about him.

Im also concerned about bleeding to death out of my ass. I have never had a major bleed, but that doesn't mean I won't.

I take a prescription blood thinner and I'm very susceptible to bleeding. I let the provider know in advance and ask him to let me know if he sees any blood. If yes, I look to see how much. If im not comfortable with the amount, we take a break or maybe stop altogether.

The world is full of people like that. The only remedy is a thick hide.

Timewaster. Timewasters are often nice people who mean well but they're still timewasters. I get an amazing number of calls from timewasters and I have become ruthless in dealing with them. Some have sad stories indeed, but the bottom line is if they can't pay my fee, I don't want to talk with them. Sometimes they are so determined to be heard that the only way to get rid of them is to hang up on them. I tell them that I have to get back to work and that I'm going to hang up and then I do.

Stephen Summers is great - it makes me think of Isherwood and Auden hanging out and having fun in pre-war Europe. Stephen Summers might have been their buddy.

You're paying them - they're supposed to be pleasing you.