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My list is modest compared to others here. The only porn star I knowingly hired was Mitch Branson - thought he was the most beautiful man in porn at the time, and he couldn't have been nicer, but we had zero chemistry. In contrast, Max Grand -- GREAT chemistry, hired from a faceless ad in the Washington Blade, and recognized him only when he stepped out of the cab. Peak experience. Had a really nice time long ago with Jake Deckard, before he was a star. Pretty sure I was one of his first clients, based on our convo post-squirting. Same more recently with Colby Tucker (several times) and Alexander Latin, both before they were doing films, both into it, delivering terrific experiences. Had Adam Adonis too -- before he got into porn and before he decided he was a top. Wouldn't repeat. So some memorable times, though overall I've had better connections and hotter experiences with guys who weren't in the movies. The guy I missed and totally regret missing was D.O. Had a date, then had to reschedule and we just couldn't make alternate times work. Tragic, because I had a elegant old hotel room in London with a 4 poster bed in which he would have looked dreamy naked on all fours lol. Alas...

Perhaps I've spent too much time in my home office, but I actually laughed out loud when I saw this ad posted in Chicago RM. This guy is the opposite of anyone I'd ever consider hiring, https://rentmen.eu/FredScarf Just sharing amusement. And no offense -- or judgment -- intended for those who might find this hot. Everyone has their someone, yes?

I remember you mentioning Roselli on an earlier thread, and being so jealous that you'd met him. Still am! One of the most beautiful men I've ever seen on film. Alas , living vicariously is my new normal now...c'est la vie.

This thread made me smile. I usually ask as a prelim if there is something that is a turnoff for a service provider I'm meeting for the first time. There was a muscle boy who used to advertise in the DC/Baltimore area who let me know that he hated to have his hair touched, which I thought was odd but kind of a cute response. Turned out he was a hairdresser by day who spent a lot of time putting his do together and had recently done hair plugs. Two takeaways: 1) Always ask, you never know what matters to people; and 2) this guy turned out to be controlling about several specifics that he didn't mention during the prelims, so the hair thing was an early indicator of overall personality. Not a great meeting, though I did get advice on hair product! ?

Btw, another guy I can recommend in Chicago now is Mathianis: https://rentmen.eu/mathianis/#platinum Have seen him 3 times, two really strong performances, one not so much (think he'd been partying). He's built and beautiful. Have also noticed that we have regular visitors now, maybe because Covid is relatively under control. They include AlexVolkov (https://rentmen.eu/AlexVolkovXXX) and Max Berg (https://rentmen.eu/Maxbergx). I'd do Max in a minute too. So, more reasons to like Chicago!, amidst the chaos!

A few thoughts as a current Chicagoan. First, if I were hiring now LeoFireXL would be top of list. He's either new here or visiting. Great pics, and interesting comments in the reviews. I'm enjoying this hobby vicariously through the experiences of others now, so would love to hear more about him. Keep us posted. As for Chicago in general, yes we're going though a messy, scary time of change. But there are good things coming out of it, one of them being deepening camaraderie between activists for gay rights and the protestors against racism. Gay activists have been paving the way for social change here for 50+ years. Growing the Pride parade from a fringe group to a celebrated city holiday. Developing Boystown from a neighborhood where the Guardian Angels used to have to patrol to keep us from getting beat up on our way home from bars to a place where lots of people want to live now because its so interesting, prosperous and welcoming. The first black mayor, Harold Washington, who broke the political machine, wouldn't have gotten elected but for support from the gay community. And now our mayor is a tough as nails black lesbian & former prosecutor who, though she's made some mistakes, relentlessly stands up to the a**hole in the White House, has kept our Covid rate steadily down, and is uniquely able to navigate the tensions between police and protestors, both of whom she vocally supports. Plus a huge drag on this progress for gays in Chicago has been continued homophobia in the black community, so Mayor Lightfoot is just the right person for the messy times now IMHO. Finally, about the Boystown name change -- one of Chicago's deepest, most entrenched problems is the continued segregation of our neighborhoods. It affects quality of schools, access to healthcare and food, risk of getting shot in the streets, even average lifespan overall. Boystown isn't just a gay ghetto anymore, its an economic engine in the city. So maybe the name change is a sign of progress? I just wish they 'd have come up with something more clever than "Northhalsted," which sounds like the least common denominator of some committee process. But the tagline is going to be "Chicago's Proudest Neighborhood" -- that I like and captures the current spirit of the place and the history of gay influence in the city I think. Now, back to our regularly scheduled programming. Someone please hire LeoFireXL -- preferably as a bottom -- and let us know how it goes!!!

I stayed in the one in Atlanta too. Think there were suicides there as well. But no Gaiety around the corner lol!

You're not alone. The architectural inspiration for that hotel was being inside the body of a whale, which I l always thought was kind of cool. Unfortunately, it seems to have in some way fostered suicide, or maybe enabled it for people so inclined. You know that impulse some of us have when we're on the edge of a roof to jump off? Well, people did at the Marriott Marquis and others like the one that had the same design. More here: https://nymag.com/news/features/46811/ For me, the MM will always be linked to memories of the Gaiety, just a block or so away.

Another change: When I hired him he was a bottom, and he produced evidence each time that he enjoyed it. Now he seems to prefer to top.

Amen! I wonder if RS gives a medal or some kind of Certification of Expertise to his partners for taking all that and surviving...

More evidence of his preference to bottom, and skills in doing so: https://www.myvidster.com/video/224937089/SeXTape_Rhyheim_Bareback_Fucks_Alex_Xander

OMG, tons of stuff on Adam. Took a lot of heat for being an assertively vocal conservative Republican. Hired him twice, first time was just great. Second time he watched the clock, just went through the motions. All of this was years ago. More here from the Way Back Machine: https://m4m-forum.org/threads/adamadonis.107115/

Gymowner, thx for taking the time to further expound. Very thought provoking, and interesting to hear your POV on the psychodynamics of bisexuality, when as you picked up I was focused on the events. I actually called my friend, who I've known since college in the mid-70s, and talked to him about this last night. He's intellectually curious so this was not awkward, plus we're both at the stage where its fund to reminisce. When I asked him whether women made his heart race more or he found his relationships with them more emotionally rewarding, he didn't fully answer, so he's still processing this. But, basically he said that the thrill of sexual freedom was just as important, maybe more, than the fact that everything felt so good. He also said a big part of the turn on for him was being desired by both men and women. When we talked about why he stopped sleeping with men, he listed i) AIDS, ii) growing up and iii) falling in love with the woman he married. Interesting for me, because AIDS prompted me into a monogamous relationship with a man whereas it was a showstopper for man-sex for him, which leans into your point I think. The other interesting piece of this conversation is that my friend has an adult child who is adamantly non-binary in describing their own gender and has had long-term relationships alternating between men and women. We broke off with him curious about what his child's responses would be. So, I'm spreading discourse on your interesting ideas. Thx again.

Respectfully, I have to disagree. I have a good friend who I have known 50 years, who I believe truly is bi, I think smack in the middle of whatever that range is. He thinks of himself as a hedonist who just loves sex, and I witnessed him totally walking that talk as a young man. I was suspicious too about how he was wired, and have to say that I don't know anybody else like him, so it may be rare? But it made me more aware of how I was projecting -- that because my binary attraction to men seems fundamental to who I am, that must be true for others too. Interestingly he married a woman and settled into what seems like a monogamous relationship.

For what this dated information is worth, I had an appointment with him in early summer 2018. Hard to schedule because he said he had child care responsibilities. I changed my flight to fit his schedule, then he had to change again because of childcare. He gave me a fair amount of notice, so don't begrudge the cancellation at all -- in fact, I was impressed that he was dedicated to that priority and it made him more interesting to me. This conversation was all by text so not a lot of detail, and I'm not sure he ever even confirmed that the kids were his, though I assumed so. Anyway, he seemed like a very nice guy, and if he is a dad with parenting chores that might explain some of continued scheduling issues.

This thread prompted me to remember that I've been pursuing this hobby for almost 20 years. First time for me was late 2000. I had to be in Philly for my birthday, and my partner set up a date through Premier for me as a birthday gift. Hunky, sweet "Guido" type -- no disrespect intended -- hot, fun, naughty experience, but also a mindfuck. I remember performing poorly professionally the next day because I was so thrown out of my comfort zone and/or sense of reality by the experience the night before.

Crap, I should have caught that reference! Too fun!

No, but that's an interesting question! Maybe an interesting story behind it, lol?

Nice! My first experience with an escort was a birthday present, probably the most unique one I ever received!!

I saw him too. Very good experience. Previous discussion here: https://m4m-forum.org/threads/411-on-a-super-hott-latinon-in-dc.149693/#post-1822004

Very timely thread for me, here's why: I share only here and with my husband, who gave me permission and encouragement to play when away in the olden days, i.e. until March 2020 when I traveled a lot for work. He's a wonderful man, whose attitude about this was basically, don't cheat on me where we live (Chicago), but go have fun when you're away, be safe, learn something new, bring it home and show me! Now I'm stranded at home, and really miss the thrill of new partners, or as my husband teasingly calls them, "brief sharing experiences." Lol, he's a wit. Anyway, don't want to cheat but am pondering renegotiating the terms of engagement. Yet there's Covid, and my husband and I both work in healthcare, which means we're at enhanced risk for catching and spreading, and really shouldn't play with others now. And just to add spice to the stew, a former employee, who infiltrated my email 15 years ago when she realized I was going to fire her, found things there about this hobby of mine, and tried to use it as leverage in an employment discrimination case, which failed because, duh, I'm gay and never hit on her or, more precisely, never responded when she hit on me. She just raised her ugly head -- and by ugly, I mean chronically unhappy, probably alcoholic and arguably sociopathic -- and again threatened to expose my interest in this hobby! Not worried much about that because I work for myself, but all in all wondering if the universe is trying to tell me to retire, move with my husband to a country that's actually managing Covid risk, and have a lot of sex there while we still can get it up!!! Bottom line, I could use some perspective from others, and maybe will get some here, lol?

Love this dashboard! Can you update daily, lol?

Really enjoying this thread, and MidwestCoastal's post in particular. As a hardwired top, my pleasure as a client also is optimized "physically and mentally" when I can see that the provider is enjoying the experience. It can be tricky setting expectations with someone new over text. I totally agree that one should try, but there's variation in communication styles and comfort among providers about discussing specifics. I try to set the tone by texting the potential date to tell me what he really enjoys and what he really doesn't, because my goal is to make sure we both enjoy ourselves, and then see what he says. Another approach that has worked well for me, even though its old school, is to suggest an actual pre-meeting phone conversation. Another basic approach is just to reserve time at the beginning of a session to break the ice and get to know somebody a bit, exploring again what they like and what they don't. I usually text about an hour before the appt that I'm going to have a glass of wine when we meet and ask if I can order them something. And then you just have to be resilient and play it by ear. One person who ended up being a great (and repeat) hire for me became worried by the specifics I was teeing up in our texts that I was law enforcement. Also, he didn't want to do a phone call, I think because his English language skills were very basic. For our first date, he asked that I meet him outside my hotel to check me out in person because of that concern. I did that, passed that test, and we chatted a bit upstairs too, but language was still a challenge. This guy is almost always hired as a top, and we just had to try things to figure out our own win/win. All that took time, and when we started to go over the planned time I reminded him of that. He grinned and said "yes, but we were much time talking, besides I'm not ready to go." Ding ding ding, mental payoff as well as physical lol! When I look back, I honestly can say that I've learned a lot from these conversations about what my partner enjoys that has made me a better top. Plus, I'm with Midwest Coastal again in saying that I love talking about sex, and its totally interesting to me how what someone likes varies so much from man to man.

Now in Chicago, with another new variation on his handle... https://rentmen.eu/SexxySteven/#platinum

oops, sorry about the personal information. Didn't even think about privacy when posting. Covid brain maybe -- too many months working from my 9x12 windowless home offices make me lose perspective, lol.