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None of the women on my Twitter TL think he's sexy or attractive either.

Then there's this: People who stumbled across this looking for Tokyo vlogs assumed they're a romantic couple, possibly based on the videographer's choice of background music and artist as well as the way Jimin is filmed. The song's romantic and Troye Sivan, who's featured, is gay. That's not to foreclose the possibility that they are a couple, but there's no way to know, and if they were they wouldn't be making any announcements, given that the majority of their countrymen believe gayness is unnatural. Which is why some fans of the group they're part of also think the choice of background music is meaningful. BTW, the group they're part of is in LA right now to perform at the American Music Awards Sunday night (8 PM on ABC) and appear on the Late Late Show with James Corden, Jimmy Kimmel (to be broadcast on the 29th) and the Ellen DeGeneres Show.

When I first heard "gay," in the 70s before the AIDS crisis, it was slang for "homosexual," which always meant men attracted to other men. In my experience, it was reporters, who needed a single shorthand term, and gay men who used it universally. All (two) lesbians I knew in college ID as lesbian, not gay. That's not to say that the uniting of the communities for Pride and to combat AIDS didn't occur under the rubric of "the gay community," but that was another instance of the group with the most social power assuming it was cool for their term to be applied universally. That's falling into the same trap as the society we're trying to change. "Queer" - which was chosen as the name for scholarship around same-sex attraction and gender nom-conformity precisely because of the concern about erasing the existence of other communities - is the universal term.

That's what I was referring to.

I joked on Twitter that People picked Shelton to appeal to Trump voters. Looks like I was right.

It's also attractive to hackers and today's version of boiler room operators. The ability to launder money and facilitate illegal transactions may well cause it to be outlawed eventually.

I defer to your superior expertise. A friend took her son to IKEA to shop for furniture and housewares for his college apartment. Her husband, who was committed to driving him back to school, was relieved and grateful to escape having to cope with IKEA.

But you're also reinforcing that only men can be gay. It's an exclusionary term. Since I'm tired of maleness being treated as the standard and femaleness as deviant, I identify as queer, though I realize the term triggering for some. For me, it's the reclamation of the slur "faggot" that I don't understand.

It's more work. Most people prefer the easier cons.

Because it's unregulated, it's more susceptible to fraud and manipulation.

From what I've heard, they have a layout not dissimilar to bathhouses, from what I've read about them. Labyrinthine.

I love Major Crimes. A lot of fans of The Closer, of which it is a spin-off, didn't like Rusty, but I do, largely for the reasons given. It took Rusty a long time to acknowledge he was gay. He always viewed hustling as his decision instead of something imposed upon him when he was abandoned. I've wondered if it took him longer to acknowledge his sexuality because sex work was the only option he had to survive.

There is at least one national Jewish fraternity. The question is how likely the fraternity system is to be abused., they're not all bad, but I'm not sure it's only a matter of bad apples and reform. Probably it depends on the campus and the extent to which a particular fraternity is primarily a healthy, mature community or a place to party. The vigilance @TylerandAce describes is a lot of work. I doubt every fraternity is willing to go that far.

I'm sorry, how is more abuse (rape) going to help? Or is rape no longer rape if the victim is not innocent? My perspective on fraternities is similar to yours, but your suggestion that he should be raped is morally inconsistent.

I had performance and reliability issues with Firefox and switched to Chrome years ago.

It's different when the services are more intimate.

I understand your objection, but this is one of those situations that the First Amendment exists for. Also, by that reasoning, we couldn't discuss the downfall of Milo Yiannopoulos. Adequate sex education and changes in gendered expectations are necessary before changes to consent laws. Most violations of them go undetected or unpunished anyway.

From the point of view of the person involved, not his/her family and friends, which is worse: death or continued suffering? What if society doesn't even perceive the suffering as suffering, tells you it's your own fault or that it's not so bad because life is unfair and other people have it bad too? I don't think the answer is as easy or cut and dried as has been suggested. Also, everyone should read Octavia Butler's book Kindred, which I just finished, or the recent graphic novel version, about a Black woman who travels back in time (involuntarily and more than once) to save a white slave-owning ancestor of hers.

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Cats are so awesome. source

That does not belong on this shelf. https://twitter.com/EmrgencyKittens/status/921904477480812544?s=02 (video of a tuxedo cat sweeping a plastic bottle off a shelf)

Checkmate, nonbelievers. source

This week in dogs under tablecloths: source (there are some hilarious earlier photos too but none as bizarre as this one)