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Thanks when you need to take matters in hand, either yours or someone else's .......

As Australians who holidayed in Bali a lot, we often thought that we would like to retire there. Medically the hospitals seemed great, but when you investigated - you would not want to be sick and in any Bali hospital - (even the international medical centres developed for the tourist trade). While an expat visa looked good, you had to prove income, AND hire one local on a full time wage. ($300 per month) they would drive for you, cook, clean and garden. Plus they would shop in the local market for you at local price not expat price. Then you looked at rental properties, most were on a 10 year lease, and it was expected that you paid the 10 year lease up front ( no refund if you did not stay the 10 years) . Bearing in mind that your expat visa lasts for 5 years and you can only hope it will be renewed so you can live out your lease .... Banjar fees. (local council). the local Banjar required taxes or fees to be paid monthly - this was to ensure that you got decent treatment and were not black listed, for services . Medical insurance, plus the need to fly to Singapore or Australia for any decent medical treatment. When you add all of this up- it was easier to stay in Australia and take long holidays ....

Turn ons are never naughty - whatever excites you is to be enjoyed

It is policies like this that have taken the USA off our destination lists. We did a world cruise in 2025, with calls at New York, Miami and then San Francisco. My husband worked in the USA for 13 years, held a green card during that time. He returned to his native Australia in 1988. Green cards expire 12 months after your last departure from the USA. As Australian passport holders we applied for an ETSA and got approved. On arrival in New York he was sent to secondary Immigration. Apparently the front screen shows a valid green card and a valid ETSA which causes a problem for the border agents. They do not have the authority to drill down in the system so its off to secondary. 15 mins later he was out - after a more senior agent was able to discover the green card history. Same Happened in San Francisco, the original agent in NYC had left notes but it still took a while. There is always the concern that something will go wrong. So we have decided to no longer visit the USA while this policy is current. it seems that many other travellers and tourists have made similar decision. Las Vegas is a Ghost town, arriving passenger numbers are down, flights are not full and some flights are cancelled. Ultimate outcome is less income, less people being employed, less money being spent, in all the associated industry. I totally get protecting your nation from hostile visitors xxxxx Edit: No politics

For some of us hiring is a special occasion - and sometimes to fit it into our life with our husbands / partners the timing has to be critical. So delays are annoying. My most recent hiring experience, he said up front that he was not going to be able to make the time, as I was on my own in a city hotel that was good. We settled on a time, he was operating out of a serviced apartment in a big block, I go there, messaged him and he said he was not quite ready but would message me when he was, there were places to sit where it was not obvious so that was fine. When he did message me to say he was ready, the session was amazing. He was not a clock watcher and we spent a long time snuggling on the bed as our cum dried, talking. This will be a repeat. As in everything in this hobby/ business it comes down to good communication

I have never haggled in price, I pay what is advertised or requested during our set up communications. Result is - I get what I ask for, the appointment is never rushed, quite often they go way overtime, and that time may be just be lying in bed cuddling and talking, after the action. If you show respect to a provider he will show respect back to you. Most of my hires are repeats, and I always say this is the reason why they are repeats and the enjoyment and comfort level just increases. I have had exceptionally good providers, haggle with me, I had one who turned a 3 hour session into an overnight, and his rational made total sense. Even after I paid a substantial amount for overnight, and rented a pool vila in Bali for the night, the night remains as one of my best hiring memories, standing naked on the terrace watching a full moon, smoking cigars and drinking single malt, under that full moon , and some amazing sex - at the end of the day, and this would be 10 years ago. I do not remember the $200 for the villa, the cigars and single malt, nor the $1400 for the night, but I remember his body, how it felt, what he made my body feel like, and the bf experience before during and after the fun, the few hours we slept and the fun in the morning. If you can find the $$ for a exceptional experience - do it - you are a long time too old or too poor to indulge or even after you stop breathing

Very different vibes in each place. What I would consider is Cambodia. Both Phenom Penh and Siem Reap have great gay scenes, lots of bars, clubs and massage places with very nice men.

I was on Ozempic for a couple of year for my diabetes, and while I lost some, it stopped working. A couple of years later my diabetes results went up a lot so new endocrinologist (after a sea change from Sydney) suggested Wegovy. Just done 3 months worth and gone from 124 kg to 109 kg, going up a level next week, so far I am happy about how it works. My only issue is now I have lose skin around my throat - so I guess I will start to look older as I thin down ......

Slightly off topic - but my husband and I were adopted by a 10 year old. who was living with his lesbian mother and her partner of the time. That was at least 30 years ago. the said 10 year old got his girlfriend pregnant at the end of high school, they married and had 2 more children, and have just become grandparents. His mother has had a few more relationships and maybe a few more casual encounters . When we are talking about his mother - the common comment is Mum has slept with more woman that I have Its always hilarious

I have seen these advertised on MrBnb, and think they are a great addition to the options for when we have a vacation or a staycation.

I think the most important take away is to be open in communication with your selected provider. My preferred method of contact is written , so I send a text message, email or RM message to the provider , state this is who I am, so there are no surprises , being 65 year old bear, and describe the sort of session I am interested in, give my limits, time frame and suggested date. I find this works really well as it gives the providers an opportunity to decline the booking if it is not going to work for them, and when it all comes together it results in a much more satisfying session with providers who earn their $$ and creates a win win situation

I find it greatly interesting why we are attracted to certain things particularly in the kink realm. I can remember reading a book as a young child that home some guys who rode motorbikes and wore leather jackets and being very aroused by the concept. My kinks are spanking,bondage, leather, underwear / speedos etc - I can understand the underwear and speedos but the other aspect are intriguing. I had this conversation with a hot master who I rented. He was a psychology lecturer at a leading university and he was unable to offer any answers . My take away is that we should just enjoy our kinks - play safe and have lots of memorable pleasurable moments

It has been reported in Australia that cinemas are showing this movie to totally empty cinema's. A reporter bought a ticket and reported that there were 2 people in the cinema including him - and he said he only bought the ticket and attended in a professional sense. I predict a total disaster at the box office - the only glimmer of hope will be in the USA heartland where people are still brainwashed that the current President is the answer to all the worlds problems. I live in Australia and all I have seen is alienating USA from the rest of the world

My husband and I call ourselves coffee snobs - as in we know how we like our coffee. (some people may disagree with the title coffee snobs). We have experimented with all types of coffee machines, we used to own a coffee shop so we know how to make good coffee, and in Australia drip coffee is not very popular. We had a full blown coffee machine from DeLonghi - which we paid $1899 for in about 2005. It was great when it worked, it ground the beans heated the water and made the coffee as requested. Then sometimes it would just grind the coffee and dump the fresh ground coffee beans into the waste container. After two trips back to the store for warranty work, the next time it played up it was replaced. Then the replacement did the same thing, so eventually we returned it and got a full refund. After that Aldi started having a pod machine, they are currently $89 and the pods are about 50 cents each. 14 different strengths, we go with 11 Torino. A nice big Starbucks mug. ( I say the only good thing at Starbucks in the mugs you can buy) so I like mind black, 2 pods in a mug with breakfast. Husband likes some milk and sugar. If the machine dies - you can return it and get a replacement, but if it's served us for a few years, we just buy a new one. We like it so much we have a carryon bag for the machine, and take it away with us, road trips and if we are going on beach resort trip we just take it. We travelled for 8 months last year and took a French press with us - stainless steel so it would not break, and that worked really well. Coffee is a little like good sex - we all like it a little but different..... but we all end up satisfied however we get there

I am in Australia

this is a very interesting situation. As a 65 year old man of size - I describe myself in my first communication with a provider - as such 65 yr old blonde bear 120KG clean shaven looking for ....... a 2 hour meeting on Tuesday night if you can host that would be great ..... First up it gives them to opportunity to say no - it won't work, or ghost me, or start a conversation along the lines of that works for me, I note your interest in bondage or ws etc and go from there. When I am hiring I don't care how they act as long as they get into it - satisfy my needs and its a cordial pleasant meeting. Equally if I am in an expensive restaurant I want the waiter to tell me what the side dishes are, his recommendations and share his knowledge about the French burgundy I am considering ordering - does it go with the fish etc (and we know red does not normally ). Its a service I am paying for and I expect the provider to be able to provide a good meeting based on ABC and D and do it with a smile on his face, some sexy sounds of appreciation and groans when he cums. The provider has chosen his line of work - the rest does not matter to me. Because of my approach and vetting I am rarely disappointed

Me too - anytime you want to - but I am guessing we are different continents ......... my nips are standing to attention and my balls are quivering just thinking of it ........

I guess you always have a belt with you. - so you could spank my ass in any situation...... not just when we are in the playroom ...... when you might use the belt and a flogger and a paddle - and alternate - my skin is tingling just thinking about it

I had a sensational massage with a happy ending, in Sydney many years ago. As I was undressing he sat down and put on some advanced running shoes, he said it wasn't a kink, he had been suffering from some back issues, and was advised by his medical team to wear shoes while massaging, his back issued went away. Apart from the occasional glimpse of his feet or footwear if your eyes are open when he passes by your head, the shoes make no difference to your enjoyment. Many masseurs start with shorts or underwear on which they remove at some stage during the massage, and suddenly you become aware of it ........ works for me

sounds great - I am sure this would be an amazing discussion -- what are your fantasies - and congrats on discovering men - I have never been with a woman - but men are amazing

Haha - he is such a wonderful husband - he's not for sale. - and no one could afford him ......

My husband and I started planning out retirement about 15 years before we made the change. I can remember asking the question - once when we were on vacation - "what do you see retirement being " ? the response was 'living like this" we then had a checklist of all the things we needed to be able to access in retirement. close to a beach close to An airport close to an alternative transport option great medical facilities some culture . I knew that we needed to move out of Sydney (big city) to make the most of the difference in property prices. I was on vacation when I found where we live now. I did lots of research. I sold my husband on what I had found. The pandemic stopped us discovering it for a year or two. Some things happened in my husband's workplace - and covid made us speed up the process. We found what we wanted off the plan, put a 1K refundable deposit down and went home to renovate and sell our Sydney home. So start with your wish list and work it out from there ..... Take your time - as the rest of your life has to be almost perfect

Booking.com has always been a go to for comparing nights. Recently I joined a travel club which can give me up to 82 % of the rate offered on Booking.com. Not every booking but I have seen some great rates. Life is always about finding the improvements

I live in Australia and travel - I find that RM works best, although some places do have a more local source. Australia has a site called Locanto - which you can find some male massages and maybe more - search male massage or male escorts for men a simple google search or chatgpt search should answer that for you

Well yes it maybe cruel, but its better to be rejected when you make the first enquiry rather than be rejected at the door (and that has happened). I like to find a solution to every problem. Problem is as a larger man - not everyone is attracted to you - but then everyone regardless of their physic is not attractive to everyone. When I hire I want bang for my buck - if its not a fit - its not a fit and I would prefer to not waste time on those who are not a fit. Is it cruel to go shopping for something you want - say a car - and finding the one that really suits you - are the other cars you reject suffering because the process of elimination is cruel. Jay-lucas I thank you for your empathy - but I do not see it as cruel, its part of the due diligence you should do when you hire someone. I have had escorts tell me that I am a great client as I am respectful, honest about what I want - show up on time and pay the agreed amount (here in Australia tipping is not part of our culture, but sometimes I tip) but the greatest compliment you can give an escort is hiring them again