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1. It's an internet forum. Except those that are heavily moderated, most online forums have posters who love to be nasty to other people. Whether they are just nasty people 24/7 or just get a kick out of ruffling others' feathers, I don't know. 2. If you just drop in on some threads here and don't know the history of the posters, you might wonder why people are responding to each other with a high level of sarcasm. If you stick around long enough, though, some of the overt hostility begins to make sense even though I personally think it makes sense to just ignore people one finds ridiculous.

I've never understood paying the going rate for an escort for a guy who is advertising on a massage website. It really isn't even clear what he's offering based on the text in his ad. It could be just a very expensive rub & tug.

There's a lot more to do in Vegas in terms of entertainment, so if one has the funds to go to shows regularly I'd choose Vegas. I like Palm Springs a lot more, though. I'm not interested in gambling. Seeing gambling everywhere is just a turn off to me. I also don't think that Vegas feels particularly gay, even though there are obviously a lot of gay men living there. Most significantly, however, are the views in Palm Springs versus Vegas. I really enjoy seeing the mountains in the near distance in Palm Springs.

I still remember a new coworker (who didn't last long, but I don't know why she left) several years ago who asked a lot of what I considered to be too personal of questions on the first day she met me: What's my religious background? Am I single? Why haven't I found a boyfriend? Etc. I learned relatively early in my adulthood to recognize people with poor boundaries and I keep them at bay.

After reading some of the replies, I went back to reread the original post. I think my issue is that the prospective client wanted an escort to pretend to be a boyfriend in a committed relationship with him. That's quite different than going to a gathering with a client and being introduced simply as a date, which could mean that the two only recently met. For those escorts who replied that they would do this, are you saying you would actually go along with the fantasy to the extent of talking about a fake life together with your client's friends/associates? I still think that sounds incredible awkward, to say the least.

I don't see how what the client suggested would even work unless the two of you already knew each other somewhat from repeated appointments. How can one pretend to be someone's boyfriend without knowing anything about him? I fully support your decision solely based on not wanting to attempt to deceive others.

After reading your various recent comments, I want to suggest that you try not to view this guy as a black-and-white situation. By that I mean his lack of response as to whether you'd see each other again was perhaps just an honest lack of having an answer, not an unspoken communication. His not continuing to see you at the moment doesn't necessary mean anything about all of the time you spent with each other in the past; it's just in the present he has other priorities. Yes, that does mean that you aren't his #1 priority but it doesn't sound like you ever let yourself get so far down the path of believing something that wasn't true that you are surprised that you aren't his first priority. Maybe he was just a good actor and his time spent with you was all about the money, but that doesn't sound true to me based on everything you wrote. Sometimes relationships/friendships come to a close, but that doesn't mean that everything that came before was a lie.

There is no set definition. Here's the most recent discussion here regarding what BFE means to different people: Maybe a moderator can move this to "Questions About Hiring" or merge it with the other thread since this isn't asking about a specific escort?

I also think he's very attractive, but I can only spend so much time watching a hot, naked man who's just a tease. Good on the guys who can make a living doing this (as long as the subscribers realize that's all they are going to get), but it isn't for me. I'd rather watch BritishTwunk (a similar sort of guy in terms of looks) who actually enjoys getting fucked on camera.

The site is definitely not ready for prime time. Two major issues I found within the first two minutes: 1. If I search my area and then filter by massage type, only a small number of listings shows. The list does not expand as I scroll down, even though there are more ads in my area that feature the type of massage I selected. Nor is there any navigation button or arrow to load more ads. If I remove the filter, the full list returns and I can continue scrolling down until I see every ad in my area. 2. Filtering my distance is a mess. I got a few listings in my city (not sorted in the correct order of distance because I've hired some of these guys and I know where they are), and then my list is is a hodge-podge of men as far away as Sacramento (I am in San Francisco). I didn't select "available now" or anything else, so I don't know why it's showing me so few men who are actually near me and then showing men in Oakland, Hayward and Sacramento. Filtering by distance also does not work on rentmasseur.com when I'm not logged in, but it works properly when I am logged in.

Here's an analogy (and I'm sure there are others): Does a psychotherapist only pretend to be interested in and care about his patients, just because that interest and caring has limits and occurs within a business transaction? I don't think so. Does that genuine caring and interest mean that the therapist would relax professional boundaries and start spending time with the client outside of paid sessions? No. I don't think that negates what happens during that patient's "hour," though. Just as with escorts, though, I think it's important that clients acknowledge the limitations of the relationships. With an escort, it's a "boyfriend experience while you are together" not a "boyfriend." Psychotherapists have legal and ethical standards to follow, so they risk disciplinary action if they befriend a client outside of their professional relationship. Escorts have no such external guidelines, so the way to know that you have developed an actual relationship (whether that be romantic/sexual or platonic/friendly) is that the two of you spend time together without any compensation exchanging hands. If that hasn't happened, then it is truly nothing more than a business relationship even if there are fond feelings during the appointments.

I know we've discussed age shaving a lot on this forum, but my rule is basically this: 5 years or so is acceptable for someone who can pull that off. Much more than that and it begins to get into fraud territory. A lot more than that and it's just downright silly. There is an escort near me who hasn't changed his age in over two decades. I don't care what kind of shape you're in or how youthful your face looks -- a man in his 60s is not going to pass for a man who is 39 years old except in his own deluded mind.

My answer is "it depends." If the "white lie" was provided in order to cover up the fact that the guy just isn't attentive to time, I could overlook it as long as the delay wasn't too large. In fact, hiring escorts was one of the things that caused me to become more relaxed in terms of arrival times since I had to admit that someone arriving right on time wasn't nearly as important to me as someone providing an excellent experience. If the "white lie" is given to hide significant issues that would cause me to not want to spend time with the guy, then it matters.

Well, I had a basic breakfast dish (maybe it was eggs, toast, breakfast meat or maybe it was an omelet -- I don't really recall) and I didn't think it was any better than Denny's. I just compared prices online and, for that kind of meal, the cost seems pretty similar so either Denny's raised their prices more or I was just under a mistaken notion regarding the relative costs. I almost never eat at chain restaurants unless it's a local chain with just a few locations.

The most popular restaurant, from what I could tell, was Cheesecake Factory. At dinner time the dining area was always full and there were scores of people waiting outside for tables. I have only eaten at a Cheesecake Factory once and thought they food was overpriced and mediocre. It boggles my mind that people would travel thousands of miles and then eat in a restaurant they could probably go to at home, but then I remind myself that a lot of USA citizens would rather go to a chain restaurant due to its predictability versus taking a chance on an unfamiliar place.

Wow. Red Lobster management was even more stupid than I realized. No time limit for an all-you-can-eat deal? That might work if the price was a lot higher, but given that the deal was apparently close to 60% of other entrees it's no wonder that their dining rooms were filled with people who ate more shrimp than $20 could buy. I happened to return last weekend to the Indian buffet I previously mentioned. There is no time limit but most of the food on offer isn't what most people would pig out on, given it's so rich and spicy. They also charge $45 per person. I was a bit surprised at how many mimosas I drank (they were refilling my glass without me even asking for more, so I assume they must be using extremely cheap sparkling wine.

We must live in alternate realities. I was in Honolulu a few months ago and seafood is everywhere. You can even buy poke (cut up raw fish in a sauce) at mom-and-pop versions of 7-11. Yes, Hawaiian food is also big on meat (particularly grilled meats) but I wasn't aware of steak and rice being served everywhere. Maybe we were just paying attention to different places.

I couldn't quickly find more recent numbers, but in 2021 apparently the average income in the top 5-10% bracket was about $167,000. One does not need an annual income of $167,000 to afford McDonald's or even a casual chain restaurant like Red Lobster.

Just curious: Do you have an adjustable rate mortgage? I'll agree that most things cost a lot more now (though my insurance hasn't spiked, either), but one of the many benefits of home ownership is having a fixed monthly payment for the life of the loan versus having one's rent go up every year.

You beat me to it by 17 minutes as that's what I was going to post. I think that posting photos of these alleged scammers doesn't make much sense because the photos are almost certainly not of the men doing the scamming. I'd even go out on a limb and say that while posting the phone number might be helpful on a short-term basis, once the scammers know the number they are using has been identified as a scammer they'll just get a different number. The main benefit of a thread like is to simply remind people who may not know or may have forgotten that there are scammers out there and that if you are inclined to send anyone a deposit, at the very least make sure you are sending it to someone whom you know has a positive reputation. I personally wouldn't pay anyone a deposit unless it was someone I had already met and I was booking a longer than 1-evening engagement, but I can sort-of understand people being willing to pay someone a deposit if their location requires some significant amount of travel and they cannot find an escort willing to travel to them without receiving some sort of earnest money in advance.

The claim is actually the reverse. You should be seeing socks on young men because they supposedly wear crew socks, not shorter socks that might not be visible when shoes are worn. But I assume this is another low-quality article online, like so much other stuff I see that's either completely manufactured reality or so far from the truth in the attention-grabbing-headline that it might as well be made up.

As rvwsnd wrote, it's nothing new. Sometimes people will respond with, "can you give us more of an idea what you are looking for?" and sometimes there are crickets. It does seem odd to ask for recommendations without offering any detail about what one likes. It would be like asking a sommelier which wine is the best without giving some indication what you like first.

I've had younger men roll their eyes at me or give me a hostile look for simply looking at them in a bar one too many times. I completely accept that a 25 or 30 year old guy might not be interested in someone in his 60s since that's how I felt as well. I do remember being friendly with men much older than me, though, in terms of having casual conversations so it always surprises me when someone is such a jerk about simply being admired a little.

I find that when I sit down, the area around my ankles shows. Not that that means people are looking, but that part of one's leg is visible unless one wears pants that are so long that they still cover the top of one's shoes while sitting.

This is a stupid thing to be concerned about. Are there really that many people looking at the type of socks other people wear? I can tell you that I don't even notice someone's shoes or socks unless there is something unusual that calls attention to them. I used to wear ankle socks a lot about 20 years ago (when I was 40-ish), but I have almost exclusively worn ankle socks for the past decade. This isn't due to chasing a trend but rather more to do with feeling okay about wearing the same socks when doing things other than exercising. I do think it looks weird to wear ankle socks with long pants, particularly in an office environment. I really doubt that most men over 40 are wearing ankle socks. Haven't crew socks been more-or-less the norm for a long time?