Summerson

This (providers asking other providers about me) happens fairly often and I actually welcome it. I understand and respect the value you (and many others) place on discretion. I guess at 57 I'm considered a longtime member of the kink community and communicating about other players (both good and bad) within that community is pretty much a norm. For me, the positives far outweigh any negatives because some of the providers I've most enjoyed time with only reached out to me after they'd had some verification that I was trustworthy and treat people well. Those opened doors have led/continued to lead to some really fun times, but that's just my situation. There was one instance, nine or ten years ago, when I was living in NYC and a provider who I'd contacted but hadn't yet seen decided I was law enforcement because I hadn't gotten back to him as quickly as he wished. He shared this suspicion with a few folks, some of whom knew me and thought it was hilarious. Given my personal feelings about cops, I was briefly horrified until I realized nobody else took him seriously. A provider I try and see whenever I get back east still teases me about it to this day.

Just in case anyone is still looking for a place to stay and might be interested in trying out The Hacienda, I'll be releasing my reservation for one of their Deluxe Suites (Thursday 4/11 through Monday 4/15) in the next 24 hours. I was considering trying them out this year, but with so many of the fun folks staying at Inndulge, I'll be back in my usual spot. I don't know if The Hacienda has a waiting list or not, but anyone interested might want to contact them ASAP to get the best chance possible of booking it. I checked the website and it seems The Hacienda is currently sold out for our dates.

I'll spare Bode any further self-promotion and share that he is, in fact, exceptionally nice. If you get the chance to meet up with him, he's a whole lot of fun!

For me, our own forum mod NateSF tops the list. An absolutely first class experience in every way! YourHunk (aka Nate from Long Beach) is also on my list of truly unforgettable men. It's a never-ending battle to keep these two from taking over my daydreams.

Just FYI, I was in communication with the folks at Inndulge yesterday (9/26). They do still have rooms available, but they've set a filter in their booking system requiring a minimum 5 night stay for our weekend, because of high demand. If you enter arrival and departure dates with less than 5 nights between them, the rooms don't show up as available. I'm currently booked there for four nights in a 1BR suite, because I reserved before they added this policy (although I admit I am considering adding a 5th night, because by April I really am going to need some serious relaxation time). If somebody is considering a longer stay, Inndulge is still an option. I don't know how many rooms are still available or how long they'll last, but I thought I should share the info.

I've been a fan my whole life. My first NYC apartment was located above a famous guitar shop in the Village. This was so long ago I actually used paper checks to pay my rent to my landlord, the master guitar artisan who owned both the shop and the building. One night it was pouring rain when I got home and as I walked up to the shop to hand over my check, a car pulled up to the curb in front of the store. Someone got out of the back seat wearing a raincoat and a big hat and I held the shop door open for them. As they walked through, I heard one of the most recognizable voices in the world say, "Thank you kindly." Dolly was there to pick up a guitar she'd had my landlord repair. Most of the famous folks I've met have been really nice and she's absolutely one of the friendliest.

AsianGuyCA is picking me up tomorrow (Thursday) at noon and I'll be checking into Inndulge tomorrow afternoon. I can't wait!

Yes, on Rentmen at least, I can see whoever looked at my profile (both providers and other clients).

On rentmen it is really useful when clients include in their profile what they are looking for. I'm not sure if that's what @DrownedBoy is referring to, but it helps to get a sense of what they want. I check the client profiles of who contacts me, or asks to see my private pics, but very few have much on their profiles. I wish more guys would use that feature! As always, different people have different preferences, but my experience has led me to strongly agree with @NateSF and @IronMaus about the importance of what I include in my RM client profile. I often lean toward the kinkier side of the spectrum when I hire and I've found that trying to include both the specifics of my interests and some sense of my personality has led to my most satisfying encounters. Of course I don't mind being the person to initiate contact, but I do appreciate when a provider reaches out to me (there or here) because they read what I wrote and think we might be a good match. Those folks almost always turn out to be my most enjoyable encounters (including Maus 😄). I've had more than a few providers tell me that for one reason or another, they don't always list everything they're "into" in their listing, but were happy to talk with me about it after they read my profile.

Pierson Fodè. https://www.imdb.com/name/nm4943457/

Like candles on a cake! I like it!

Yep, that's it. One of my favorites!

Oh yes, Mike Gaite would definitely be on my list too!

NateSF YourHunk (Nate from Long Beach)

Hmmm, I just looked and you're correct. That's kind of a bummer. It was nice to have the majority of people all staying in one place between the events. Some of the events happened at a bathhouse, but some happened at the hotel in the past. They even used to put together VIP ticket packages with rooms included, although one could do better by booking a room with the hotel directly. At least I got a better deal that way. Ah well, things change.

I attended a couple of years a while ago and had a blast, and I'm the opposite of a muscled pretty guy. I met a lot of fun folks, including Alex Hawk when he was just starting out, Brent Corrigan and JJ Knight (when they were still a couple), and Travis James. Like a lot of events, I guess how comfortable people might feel depends on a lot of factors, but I did the whole VIP weekend thing and never felt unwelcome or out of place. Lots of great music. One year that was a demo by some of the Kink.com guys that was fun. One year it was hosted at the Artisan Hotel and the other at the old Hard Rock (RIP). Two very different experiences because of the size and vibe of the host hotels, but both fun. (Everybody's taste in hotels is different, I know, but I enjoyed both of them.) If anyone has questions they want to ask privately, feel free to DM me. I won't be going this year, but it's definitely something I'd consider in the future.

I was raised on a farm, so I grew up with animals having sex, but that didn't fully translate to understanding human sexuality for me,. My dad died when I was three. My siblings were 25, 22, and 18 when I was born. My oldest brother died when I was a kid and the brother closest to me in age has hated my guts since the day I was born, so they weren't around either. My grandfather was almost certainly not entirely straight himself and recognized I was probably gay, so he did everything he could to let me know it was OK for me to feel whatever I was feeling and do whatever I wanted as long as everyone involved was consenting without actually having "the talk." My sister had gotten married and moved to the next farm over, shortly after my dad died, and whenever she and her husband were away for a day or two, I was the one to go over and feed her animals. She had a copy of the old 1970's Joy Of Sex book and she conveniently (and probably purposefully) shelved it right by the cat food, so I spent a good bit of time working my way through that, which was how I got most of my info. I remember one time an older boy, the son of one of our hired men, told me "men have a gear stick and women have a spare tire with a hole in it", which was really confusing, because I knew what both of those things looked like and how they worked and didn't think they looked anything like the pictures in the book. Obviously metaphor was not my greatest strength at that age.

When I was growing up on a farm in the middle of Southeast Bubblefuck, Pennsylvania, some of the thoughts that popped into my head made me feel like I must be the most twisted person on the planet. In my 20's I discovered the kink community and quickly learned that in a lot of ways, I barely made it onto the scoreboard. I also learned that everyone ranks things differently, in an order unique to them, which is why honest discussion in advance and informed consent is so very important. And yes, also sexy as Hell if you do it right. Full disclosure: my kinks include bondage, edging, and the dreaded tickling, maybe a little light spanking if I happen to find myself in the presence of a truly perfect ass. (Hi nate_sf! I promise I'd always ask first.) I'm not a slapper or a slappee (or into pain in general). The OP has mentioned several times that he feels a face slap is universal or at least common. With all due respect, I've just never found that to be true in my experience and I've been involved in kink for 40 years (if we're counting high school shenanigans). Maybe I don't watch enough porn or the right kind of porn or something. Of course there are people who enjoy it and I know some of them, but they're generally very up front and vocal about it, because they know most people won't go there unless they specifically ask. At one point, I was involved with a guy who was really into choking and breathplay. The anxiety I felt about doing that with him literally kept me up at night and I wasn't ever nearly hardcore enough to give him what he needed. If I ever slapped someone accidentally (i.e. their face and my hand were both moving and somehow connected), I'd be so embarrassed and immediately apologize and probably end the scene for everyone's comfort. Maybe we'd go out for ice cream or something for the rest of our time together. (LOL - that's actually not a hypothetical. A friend of mine really did that with a scene partner, although not because of a slap. Yes, a friend, I swear. 🤣) Anyway, I'm operating under the assumption that all parties involved in this scene were good people with the best of intentions and I'm truly sorry it didn't end well for either person. I always hope everyone has the best sex possible, whatever that means to them. But if someone had slapped me without talking to me about it in advance and without immediately apologizing pretty profusely, I would have ended the scene immediately as well.

Hooray for slutty cousins! I adore all of mine and I spoil their kids rotten, just to drive their parents crazy!

The Holiday on Forbes Avenue @ Craig Street? Ah, the memories. I hadn't thought of that place in a long time, but I just checked and it apparently closed in 2007. Looks like it's a parking lot now according to Google street view.

I was the yearbook editor, the wielder of all truly lasting high school power!

LOL - It was the '80's, he was also my chemistry lab partner, and he was terrible at stoichiometry if that helps bring the situation back down to a more realistic level. Oh, and I sang with both him and his older brother in show choir. Ah, the glamour days....