marylander1940

On 5/23/2024 at 12:49 PM, NYXboy said:

imagine doing drugs with a provider and then complaining that the provider is on drugs.  

On 5/21/2024 at 1:57 PM, Vegas_Millennial said:

I would have turned around and walked away at the end of the sentence "I got the impression I was inconveniencing him" (4th sentence, 2nd paragraph), having exchanged no money.

On 5/22/2024 at 8:48 AM, nycman said:

On 5/21/2024 at 1:48 PM, Rick M said:

I am filing this "review" anonymously because I don't think my encounter with the subject is typical, and I'm afraid some readers may misinterpret my reason for posting.  My experience with X forced to me reevaluate some of my perceptions about escorting, for this is a case, I'm sure, of a person who would cultivate other fields if he could only escape his current sinkhole.

I met X at his place. He was an hour late running a mercy mission for his ex-boyfriend, but I was not in a rush, so I waited for him in the neighborhood. Turned out that he and this boyfriend had broken up recently, and that event was one of a number of negatives weighing on his mind. His apartment was dark and messy; he was between jobs (another burden) and I got the impression that I was inconveniencing him. Physically he's slim and boyish, not my "type," as I prefer rugged, robust, and muscular humans. All the same, I went ahead with the session. We got to talking. I was a little put off by his attitude, which is ironic and smart-ass. He loves to contradict and challenge opinions, but then, so do I.

We got into it on his sofa, and later, with rollicking intensity, we continued the athletic foreplay on his bed. Although limited to kissing and body contact, we had a good time; nothing else happened, which is only disappointing in retrospect: I didn't get all the menu items I wanted.

Truly distressing was the phase during which he passed out. I could not get a response out of him. I began imagining the ultimate scenario in which I call 911 and summon the EMTs. But since he was still breathing--perhaps in a shallow fashion, yet similar to normal sleep--I decided to give him time to recover. I pushed his inert body to one side and went hunting for my clothes.

After ten minutes or so, he revived and walked out into the living room without a trace of grogginess. (At that time I was still 73% zonked, and although I had remained conscious throughout, he claimed that it was I who had gone completely under!)

I conclude from all this, and conversations with other "low end" providers within the last year, that there is a whole stratum of guys struggling and barely keeping total insolvency at bay through their underground gig economy; in contrast, their "high end" counterparts--a more polished, prosperous, mobile tribe--seem to be successful in their trade (with or without another paying occupation). My instincts in the past might have directed me toward a half- or even full-ass rescue operation, but if you are familiar with my article about a particular personal funding fiasco, I am now far less likely to intervene.

You hired someone who wasn't your type? 

I'm not going to mention all the other red flags. Sorry but too much drama!

14 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

There's a difference between sexual desire and repulsed aversion.

It's like with food. You may prefer beef over chicken. But you're repulsed by the thought of eating eel.

The narrative here is that some people like @KensingtonHomo claim that they will sleep with anything that moves and others are far more discerning because they are literally revolted by the thought of sleeping with anything but their type. In the case of this conversation, that's older men. 

I think when you are talking to a group of men who are tossing down hard-earned cash for the opportunity of a sexual encounter, the majority are seeking the companionship of the sort of young, fit, handsome men, they may not be able to attract on their own without the offer of payment. I'm sure plenty of these same men could attract men their own age if they tried. 

So the comparison of events is, do you PAY for the young, hot guy for an hour, or save your money and go with the old daddy, or is that completely unappealing ? MY guess is that if you're into old daddies, you aren't really driven to HIRE for company unless you're so unappealing yourself that you can't attract ANYONE without cash.

 

I would add another category closer to having sex with anybody available:

Good if you're drunk! 

On 5/24/2024 at 3:12 PM, Lucky said:

I am going to be 77 in August, living here in the SOCAL desert, I find that just about every guy 18-30 hits on me.

Oh, wait. There are no guys under 60 here. I must be getting senile!

Sir, you live in God's waiting room!

On 5/18/2024 at 11:42 AM, DrownedBoy said:

 

I could go into "grumpy old man" mode, and repeat everything about how younger providers tend to be entitled, arrogant, overpriced, and irresponsible, not to mention their inability to follow a schedule.

However, as an openly gay man, the biggest attitude factor is that gay youth nowadays have a lot more privileges, acceptance, and opportunities than I and other older gays did at that age. So I see a lot of them as selfish ingrates who don't recognize how much work and pain older gay men had to go through to create the society they enjoy now. And selfish, uneducated ingratitude will make me lose a hard-on faster than anything.

The same happens when it comes to racism, many folks need to be reminded things weren't as easy in the past and be grateful they were born in an era where their lifestyle won't stop them from being hired, sent to jail, etc. 

On 4/29/2024 at 1:42 PM, fpants21 said:

has anyone had any success in contacting him? so hard to get a hold of

On 5/5/2024 at 8:39 PM, yessiree48 said:

Sometimes he takes breaks - keep checking back.  The ad might very well reappear soon

that's never a good sign.... If an escort doesn't reply just move on because he's not worth your money. 

On 5/9/2022 at 2:12 PM, Dchotasianguy said:

I think he has a lot less competition in dc.  And I suspect he has a free place to stay in dc.  

There's certainly a market in town for white/Nordic youngish escorts with an All-American Abercrombie & Fitch look. 

55 minutes ago, Ali Gator said:

Actually, he's not paying 'for a guy'.  He's paying for a service - a massage. 

It's like saying 'you're paying for a guy' if you hire a chauffer. You're not paying for the guy - you're paying for the service (to be chauffeured). 

8 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

OK Karen. thanks for stating the obvious

Agreed.... but most guys also hire based on how attractive the masseur is and some even expect an escort service at the end of the session. It's a fact!

On 5/16/2024 at 6:39 PM, pubic_assistance said:

So you're PAYING for a guy but assuming he's fucking you because he's horny ? 🤔

 

we can always dream, right? 

Some without that kind of fantasies wouldn't survive.

On 5/16/2024 at 5:28 PM, Casual said:

I was checking the reviews of a therapist I visited a few months ago. I plan on seeing him again, and I just haven't made it happen.  One of the reviews thanked him for an ego boost, and I had also had a pretty good ego boost from him.  I realized I might be the equivalent of the guy at Hooters who believes the servers actually think he's funny, cute, etc.  Ha ha.  I'm sure he is 100% genuine in all of his compliments of his client  

The other one is a request for an opinion.  There is a therapist who offers additional services.  I don't request those.  In fact, I proactively state I don't want those.  I pay and tip in advance, so he knows exactly where I stand on that.  But he has started to go there anyway.  I stopped him, and he immediately stopped.  This has happened twice.  Do you think he's trying to increase his tip?  Or is he just caught in the moment and HE WANTS to go there?  If we weren't in a transactional situation, he'd be bounds out of my league.  So I'm leaning to the idea that he wants additional tip.  I also think I'm probably the only client who tells him I don't want that, and maybe he just does that out of habit.  But I'm sure he has more presence of mind than that. What do you think?

I guess he's wired into giving a HE because that's what most clients want. Maybe he even assumed you wanted that and forgot you said you didn't. 

You already paid him and gave him a tip, I don't think he was thinking on the money, he was just simply doing what he usually does with other clients.

On 5/25/2024 at 4:33 AM, jmichaeliii said:

I do middle of the day all the time.  There is a hotel 5 minutes from my office that offers Dayuse with a 10am to 4pm time block.  

After 5pm is a no way for me because of what the guy above said about wife and kids.  I can break away for 2 hours in the middle of the day.  None of my providers have had an issue with that.

Not only they had no problem seeing you, but they were happy to have a client in the middle of the day while their friends, dates, bf, etc. were doing their likely 9 to 5 jobs.