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2 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

That's why I have a regular who works 24/7 and arrives within an hour. If somebody is late, they're easily replaced. A lesson in economics 😁

EDIT I actually have 2 or 3 regulars who are available and quick enough to take someone's shift. They get the money that the lazy escorts throw away.

2 or 3 regulars available on call but you also enjoy variety. 

Good budget! 

19 hours ago, robberbaron4u said:

titled, perhaps, "Gimme, Daddy"? 

I'd say work it!

On 4/27/2024 at 9:15 PM, Coolwave35 said:

I have had many many many amazing experiences with him. I met him on seeking years ago. I’m not surprised he’s escorting. He’s very good at what he does and you won’t be disappointed. 

From having an ad on Seeking to escorting.... is not much of a difference. 

At least RM is more direct. 

Alex Grant playing with one of his toys!

OP note: will the law accept reality of use? 

Can we finally have a serious study on the effects of pot?

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1 hour ago, Rod Hagen said:

I have relied on the kindness of client-friends many times.  Without my closest client//friends I'd probably be homeless, or have had to resort to a real job (shudder!).  And yes, it could make me feel like a worthless whore to have to ask for help.  At the very least I feel a BIT disappointed in myself.  But Jesus Christ no matter how awkward I feel I continue to thank them, years later.  I'd never ghost someone who helped me just because I feel embarrassed.  Who would.   Someone who isn't doing well. Sucks dude, nice of you to help him.  VERY nice of you to still be concerned.

Thank you for your honest post!

We're glad to know you kept your word and remain grateful to those who helped you.

I do disagree with you that "ghosting" in this cases doesn't happen out of embarrassment but is part of the plan. Sad but true!

One more time, thank you for being such an honest poster! 

26 minutes ago, MikeBiDude said:

Why is it any different than asking about any other activity? Top, bottom, kissing, oral, etc., clients are free to decide not to hire someone based on a provider not being interested in the client’s preferences. 

Slavery? 

Do you rim the twinks you hire? I certainly would, they're young, smooth and in great shape. Now picture yourself when you were young rimming older possibly out of shape men? Think about that. 

Again, if some providers do it for $, good for them and good for the clients too. 

20 minutes ago, maninsoma said:

I don't mean this as a personal attack, but I've noticed that you seem to have quite a negative view about clients as a whole.  So many of your posts seem to convey the notion that it's normal for escorts to be disgusted by the vast majority of men hiring them.  I'm sure that's true of some sex workers, but given the escorts I've known (some quite well, some just casually) I can definitely say that many aren't repulsed by the majority of men who hire them.  Just thought I'd put this observation out there because I don't know that you want to come across as insulting to the vast majority of people who post here.

First of all, I know that coming from you is not a personal attack! 

Repulsive? Disgusted? Those are strong words and I'm sorry you perceive it that way. 

In my honest opinion escorts find seriously unappealing 1/4 of their clients, unfortunately those gentlemen won't even truthfully describe themselves before the appointment and just show up. 

Obviously not everybody has the state of mind to become an escort. 

I am simply saying in shape good looking clients might happen 2 or 3 times per year, I don't think that's a way to insult "the vast majority or people who post on here".

"Rim me or I won't hire you" to me sounds like slavery, a high paying slavery no doubt but slavery. 

I'm glad to know some providers don't mind doing it.

50 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

You're welcome to your opinion but if you're having sex with someone, how is any part of that "too personal?" 

we're talking about ass eating.... it doesn't get more personal than that. 

I know escort who might do it 2 or 3 time per year if the client is surprisingly good looking (in shape and young) and also prepared for that. Not only showering but soap and not just one time.

Picture yourself when you were young engaging in such act with someone you're not attracted to. 

Now everybody will talk about their amazing experiences getting rimmed by everyone they ever met. There's so much bragging in this forum....

1 hour ago, Whippoorwill said:

I have had a couple of hotel staff experiences in Paris. Once, some years ago, I was staying in a 2 star hotel (great location, unremodeled 1900 building - today it's a four-star, unfortunately) and had been out to one of those really sleazy sex clubs Paris was so famous for. I crawled back to the hotel in the wee hours, totally drained, covered in cum and who knows what else, and had to ring for the night attendant for entry. And ring, and ring, and ring. I could see through the front door to the desk, and finally a fine specimen of a young Frenchman stood up behind the counter, with no sign of any clothes. He came to the door, his shirt around his waist, and let me in. When he went back behind the counter to get my room key, his trick for the night, a hot young African immigrant stud, stood up behind the counter next to him. Had I not been totally spent by the evening's prior activities, there would have been a 3-way behind the front counter. 

On another occasion, I had decided to try a gay hotel. The proprietor was gay, but most of the clientele weren't. After I got settled in my room, the proprietor came up and asked if he could do anything for me. One thing led to another and I ended up fucking him. He said we should do it again, and that I could stay in the hotel anytime I wanted to for free. I didn't take him up on it because he had the stereotypically poor French bathing habits, including dingleberries. We didn't do it again, and I never stayed there again. Not that a gay hotel was necessary to get laid in Paris, at a time when most bars had free sex "caves" and T-rooms were common. I found hotel rooms better suited to recharging my batteries for another day's easily-had debauchery. 

No bidet?

C'mon maybe you caught him unprepared. 

24 minutes ago, DrownedBoy said:

After reading @Simon Suraci I should add that I purposefully avoid seeing any one escort too often, since I like variety. Then again, I don't exactly hire for a BFE.

and you tend to fire them if they're late, something that unfortunately happens way too often. 

2 hours ago, maninsoma said:

151 out of 271 escorts in San Francisco included rimming in their preferences on Rent.men.

193 out of 300+ in West Hollywood included rimming in their ads.

70 out of 102 in Seattle.

And so on. 

Now, I know that just because someone includes an activity under Preferences doesn't mean he will do that activity with every client, but barring the ones that just click everything I think these numbers at least give an indication that a large number of providers are open to rimming, being rimmed, or both.

Exactly not all clients are desirable enough or in condition to be rimmed. Besides most of them click "rimming" because there's no "getting rimmed" choice.

3 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I'm mostly a bottom so I do expect to be rimmed as warming up to fucking. I haven't had too many guys turn me down. 

I also think if you approach a provider with the info that you are a bottom and you're into it, most would think rimming is on the table. And, yes, bidets are nice but I am completely prepped (douched, freshly showered) before I meet up. 

Sorry but that's waaaay too personal to be "on the table" or a MUST do. 

I'm glad you get rimmed most of the time. 

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1 minute ago, WstVlgChris said:

I'm sorry to hear you had this experience.  I had a somewhat similar experience with an escort 3 years ago. He engaged my professional services, I did the work and invoiced him. I waited patiently for payment, although my (larger, more corporate) clients usually pay within 3-6 weeks.  When I contacted him after about 3 months, he wrote back, saying (a) that I'd done a wonderful job; and (b) that he was having financial difficulties. I suggested an installment plan, whereupon he made a very modest first payment (10% of the total), promising more to come regularly.  Then he sort of ghosted me: it's been more than 2 1/2 years and I haven't gotten another dollar. He still is in my city, per his RentMen ad, which is active. My sense is that, like your guy perhaps, he's too embarrassed. 

Sorry to hear that! 

I would have make him pay for your services without him spending a penny.

19 minutes ago, Rick M said:

I hesitate to post this in case the subject recognizes me and takes umbrage, but to him I reiterate I do not hold him responsible, and in fact, I still trust him.

A while back I engaged a provider several times. We seemed to get along well, and when he revealed he was in financial difficulty, I offered to bail him out of debt. I drew up some papers to formalize the transaction, and went to the bank with him to oversee a transfer of funds. I will not cite the exact amount, but it was a considerable sum. There is no hard due date on repayment.

He left town the week after, and I asked him to stay in touch. This is the disturbing part: whether he is embarrassed to acknowledge his reliance on my generosity, or if he is simply scamming me (though I know his debt was real and he needed help), he has refused to reply to any message I send him. I don't want to exert pressure on him, but I do have an ongoing interest in his well-being, and wish to support him emotionally if he would allow it.

I now attempt to write him twice a year. Each time I reaffirm that I am not looking for reimbursement. I hope some day he takes my earnestness to heart and writes back even it's to say "I'm doing okay."

sorry to hear that! You got scammed! 

When it comes to escorts is "pay as you go", he needed money... hire him several times a week or for overnights and pay him after the deed is done, never before. 

Are you considering getting a lawyer? 

1 hour ago, ShortCutie7 said:

Same!  Almost every guy I have ever hooked up with has initiated rimming me without my asking him to.

What about the escorts? 

49 minutes ago, Simon Suraci said:

I LOVE rimming. It’s among my best sexual talents, and one of my specialties. I enjoy doing this for my clients, and sometimes they book me just for a rimming session. It’s not infrequent I make men cum this way. Great if a client enjoys rimming me too, but I’m truly a giver. I wrote a guide. Linking below:

 

Can someone combine the threads?

2 hours ago, edinbrooklyn said:

Bidetless . . . the cruel harshness of American life. I need a drink, Blanch!

Ask your straight friends about it.

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1 hour ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Las Vegas is not in a blue state.  To answer your question, I've hired my share of male escorts in Las Vegas, but usually hire masseurs.  When we get a blue majority in the legislature or city council they begin closing the massage parlors and proposing laws to further restrict sex workers, but thankfully we have enough former and current sex workers in the legislature to keep some of the legal brothers open.  (This post is not to argue politics, but to answer the question of legal hiring experience in Las Vegas).

Yes, is a blue city in a purple state.

This issue occasionally comes up. Last time it was about guys hiring young women at a highway motel through a shady website. What can possibly go wrong? 

I know of at least 3 escorts who got arrested in Las Vegas for prostitution. I don't know of any other place where someone was arrested.

@José Soplanucas (under his old name) tried to warn us about Honolulu but I can't find the thread. Unfortunately, he didn't provide any kind of details. 

11 hours ago, moonlight said:

The common refrain on this site is don't do this if you have a lot to lose, which seems smart, but personally I'd like to get a better sense of quantified risk.

Has anyone actually experienced legal issues with hiring/meeting established providers on RM? Especially in blue state large cities (SF, LA, Vegas, NYC, Chicago)?

There's really no true way to stay completely anonymous. Currently I'm not hiring because other than people saying the risk is very low, I really don't have a good sense of how low.  I feel safer hiring compared to random hookups but the risk of my life being nearly ruined is impossible to ignore. I'm interested in hearing about any actual real life experiences on this point -- thanks in advance.

hookups (free sex)  involve no legal problems but when dealing with strangers we always take risks. 

7 minutes ago, PileDriver said:

who puts out and goes down? elusive topic with many providers...

We live in a bidetless society.... talk about taking risks. 

I know escorts who might do it once or twice per year if they find the client surprisingly good looking, in shape and young, but when asked upfront simply say they don't because is way too personal and just can't commit to do it.

If a client has to ask about it, it's because he can't even get it for free by the guys he dates and that's something he should consider.