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I actually bought mine in a store in Montreal (not Priape) where they opened the package and showed me the device. It was just over $100 cdn and I was buying another item so over $150 for the 2 items before tax. It was a slow day and no-one else in the store. So I got great service. 

I bought the Vice without the motorized vibrator for my top providers as an option if they want the extra stimulation. Some do, some don’t. 
I don’t use it myself since I lost my prostate 19 years ago. 

Did they let you try it out in the store?

TheBigGayReview.com has well-written reviews of all sorts of sex toys from a male perspective.  Some of the reviews are pretty dated, but he adds new reviews all the time.

I’ve got one that I like pretty well. But I’ve been hunting for a perfect prostate massager for a long time.
Most overshoot the length and provide stimulation deeper inside me than the prostate, which is only about two knuckles of a middle finger’s length inside of me. Many have bases that are too thick for me to be seated while wearing them. Many don’t curve to meet the prostate but point straight into the rectum. The thickness ratio of the tip to the neck of the shaft affects keeping it in versus it slipping out. i had one where the tip sort of wiggled in a circular motion that did a great job of bullseyeing my prostate but it broke on the second usage.
the fact that even in an in-person brick-and-mortar sex-toy store, you usually can’t open the package and see the actual dimensions of them makes finding a good one extra difficult.

Thanks for the info @purplekow.  Sounds like a real fun time.  I'll see if I can make it.  I have a friend out in LA I'm planning on visiting in the spring.  Will see if I can just do both while I'm out there.

Been thinking about buying a prostate massager. I know they don't replace the real thing. Just looking for something to enhance solo sessions. Debating between the Njoy Pure Wand and the Aneros Vice 2. Would eventually like to have a hands free O if I can get to that level.  Leaning towards the Aneros since is also has vibration option with remote. Have read great things about the Njoy Wand, but it requires manual operation. Anyone have any experience with either or both of these or have any better recommendations as far as these type "toys" go?

This is a get together of forum members and their friends and assorted escorts.  The event entails several get togethers over a weekend.  These events include a dinner, a welcome barbecue, a pool party and in the past, a breakfast.  These range from mild to moderate with nothing significantly wild going on at the events themselves, for the most part.  Probably R rated is a dramatic as it gets in the open spaces with some X rated activities in private.  Many of the guests stay at the same resorts, Inndulge, Hacienda, Canyon Club are three.  There are informal events such as hikes, trips to casinos, dinner, karaoke which are arranged by the guests.  It is mostly a chance to see meet fellow posters, escorts.  Fun in the sun.  Temperatures are usually in the 80s to 90s during the day and 60s at night.  The first people arriving from out of town usually get there the Thursday and most people who are coming from out of town stay from 4 to 7 days.     That is the thumbnail version of the events.  

I have a Lelo Hugo prostate massager, which has a hands-free option with multiple pulsating options that can be varied with a hand-held controller.  I love it.  The only problem I have is that it sometimes slips out at inopportune times.

Sean is 🔥🔥🔥

Just a word of appreciation for all the posts.  Have shot lots of loads just from this thread.

I've had three very pleasant sessions with Willyan and will book again. His photos and profile are accurate. 

I've been messaging him about getting a massage when I visit ATL late Oct.  Very prompt about getting back, very professional and seems nice.  I've had several questions since I'm "curious" and have only had massages in spas and gyms.  Will update you after my massage if you would like.

I don't think the reviews are fake. Some of the reviewers have pictures on their RentMasseur profiles, and I recognize some of them from in and around Atlanta.
I'll try and book a massage with him soon and report back.

Also in Rent.men   But nothing on this forum for either
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He's hot, but so many reviews within a short period of time is a red flag.

Please do let me/us know.  DM is fine. Thanks. 

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It’s been 8 months since I started this thread and I realize it was resurrected recently.
I was a silent bystander on CoM for a long while before I summoned the courage one day to create an account to pose a question.  I did (still do) benefit from reading others’ Q&A so I feel somewhat obligated to answer my own questions to shed some light on the subject I created myself.
1.     I did end up telling all the providers I met about my (lack of) experiences beforehand.  I am extremely lucky in that they are all kind, understanding, and receptive professionals who accommodate my needs.  It is true that there isn’t anything they haven’t seen or heard before.  It was silly of me to think that they would be surprised by my full disclosures.
2.     All my appointments have been 2-hour long.  I am not the bang-bang, hit-and-run type — at least not yet (Who knows?  I may evolve into one eventually).  I still need the time to gradually ramp up the temperature.  So to me, 1 hour would be too rush and stressful.
3.     A few providers told me they never hosted for the 1st appointment to prevent letting psychopaths and serial killers/rapists into their homes, which is totally understandable.  They prefer to meet in a 3rd party location (e.g. hotel) to assess the sanity of the clients first.  Thus, in-call versus out-call is not necessarily the client's choice.
Lastly, I do sincerely appreciate everyone’s inputs here.  I even find the ones that appear to be sarcastic, bitter, or toxic somewhat amusing and eye-opening.  Thanks for your contributions.

Tell them when you first message. Say you’re totally inexperienced and about what you’d like and why. Not a long message but just the headlines. You’ll get a few declines and guys who ignore you: that’s fine because they’d have been unsuitable anyway and that’s how you find out. 
I’d suggest to book an hour with a sensual / erotic masseur rather than an escort but the label matters less than finding the right person. Just aim for intimacy, not full sex or anything. Experience touch and being close to someone. Just be present with him and have no targets or anything other than to touch and cuddle. If you feel comfortable with him (does he make you feel approved of? - that’s the test) then book another session perhaps longer and explore further. 
After two or three sessions of this, without losing your virginity to him, try meeting people and socialising. I think it would be preferable for you to find a partner to progress further rather than with a provider, if it’s to be your first time having sex. The provider can get you over the initial difficult hurdle but you can do the rest. Good luck X 


 

First, I know that my reply will garner 'eye rolls' and 'verbose' emojis from the usual suspects.
Second, I'm sorry that you consider yourself a lost and lonely soul, and hope that you know that you matter very much.
Third, I'm now into my 50s and it sounds from your description like we are in very similar boats, though the reasons for that may be different.  I have never had any level of sexual activity with any female or male either (except for some traumatic things that happened before I was in school)
Please do not be worried about dying as a virgin.  There are many worse things to die as.  Our lives are not defined by how sexually active we are or are not.  Increasingly, society puts more and more pressure on people to conform to what society considers 'norms'.  It isn't always easy to see that when you feel so incredibly different from everybody else - I know that feeling all too well, myself.   
Whatever decision you make, please ensure that you protect yourself.  This forum has a lot of great advice regarding HIV and STIs, and ways to reduce the risks.  This may seem obvious, but never take someone's else's word when it comes to your own health and safety.  People will tell you they are HIV negative and on PreP, but you can never be sure.  Even if they show you their latest negative panel of test results, these are only as valid as the date of the test.  Others will say they are negative, when in fact they are positive.  If they are undetectable that is one thing, but if they are not - or do not take their antivirals properly - you could face greater risks.  One provider in particular used to have "Positive/Undetectable" as their status, but now they list themselves as, "Negative and on PreP".   
Please know that I am not trying to scare you.  I know fine and well that contemplating the potential loss of virginity in your 40s or beyond can be anxiety-ridden.  It would probably be good to speak to your doctor in order to make sure you have the most appropriate vaccines, are able to discuss PreP and Doxy PEP, and can receive other medical advice - and there are many incredible people on this forum who are very willing to provide helpful advice, stories of their own experiences, and encouragement.   There are also some less than helpful people on here who seem to prefer tearing people down rather than building them up.  But unlike an STI, those people can be ignored and they will eventually go away  
And whoever your first time is with, whether that is someone you date, or a provider - or if you wait for a committed monogamous relationship - just be honest that you are inexperienced.   Their reaction will help you decide whether to proceed or not.
I wish you all the best, and thank you for making your post.  Even though you may find yourself in a lonely space, you are most definitely not alone. 
 

Delicious, I am taking Amtrak ASAP!