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I am new to the hobby, so please forgive me for being ignorant of the etiquette. On two occasions I have specifically asked guys if they are ok with me rimming them, well in advance of our appointment. In fact, one of the guys reminded me to shower before he arrived, apologetically explaining that he asks that of everyone. I responded essentially, "no problem, I was going to ask you to be clean before I eat you out." 
When he arrived, he dropped his pants, bent over, and I smelled his stinky butt. It put me off the entire session. This happened again with an experienced provider/porn star. Is there a polite way to ask them to wash up/douche beforehand? How do you prevent this from happening?  

I had this same issue a couple years ago. It was probably the second time so it just surprised me since he knew my preferences. I don’t remember how I handled it but we didn’t see each other again, even tho he reached out a few times.

Fully agree. Specially the decision to abstain from life's pleasures.

True. I completely agree. Actually, I believe providers can attest to that more than clients. There have been posts about men getting massages without being clean, and if I remember correctly, there is a masseur that decided to keep wet wipes handy.

It was the "I never learned to wipe" smell. I was surprised because one of them was a fairly well known porn star who has both rimmed and been rimmed on camera. 

I have found Italians to be the cleanest in that department - thank god for the prevalence of bidets in that country.   Just my experience.  Even hairy guys that I've hooked up with, who I thought might be questionable in terms of ass hygiene have surprised me in a good and exciting way. 

I actually went and read that car crash. It completely supports my no rimming policy. If I hooked up with bottoms, I might do it. We tend to know how to have sparking clean asses. But the amount of pushback on that thread to just proper hygiene (yes, washing your ass crack is part of that) is just completely insane. 
If I were in the OP's position, I would initially request the provider shower. If I got any pushback, I'd send them packing. 

This is why I almost never rim a guy - provider or general hook up. Men do not know how to wash their asses. Ask your married girlfriends-their husbands' underwear is skidmark city. 
That said, if someone is engaged in sex work, there's really no excuse not to be clean. There are YouTube tutorials and countless articles and books on how to douce or even just wash your asshole well. 

Separate and apart from specific preparation for scheduled action, I hear at times that some guys don't know how to properly clean themselves.  Apparently, they don't realize that they have to spread those cheeks and open up that a-hole under the shower for a thorough cleansing.  Just running the ass cheeks under the shower is not gonna do it.  Then of course, if the guy showered and took a shit afterwards, no wipes will clean as well as getting that a-hole under the shower.  Not passing the "sniff test" is a definite turnoff.  

They are not being very polite showing up unclean, especially if there has been conversation about expectations of work performed in that area. I think that in a good tone you can state that you did no feel comfortable with the smell when he dropped his pants. It's not ideal and I can see that being a mood killer, but letting him know it's best for both and in the long run.

I've seen mentioned here before a good way to make sure the other person is clean (if you want to ask in a non-offensive or indirect way) is to suggest showering together as part of foreplay. I initially saw it here suggested from the provider perspective wanting clean clients, but i could see it working the other way around too.
I haven't run into this myself, i've been lucky with very cleanly providers that i eat out (even the one actually straight/straight-ish one i hire sometimes knew to keep it super clean back there). But if it were an issue, before meeting them the next time i'd maybe ask via text while setting up the next session "could you make sure to shower shortly before our meet?" Maybe if i was feeling self conscious about them taking the request the wrong way i might add on "because i really liked the scent of your body wash on you" or something. Lot of people use scented body washes or scented soaps of some kind, so wouldn't be an unreasonable or unrealistic thing for someone to say they enjoyed.

I am new to the hobby, so please forgive me for being ignorant of the etiquette. On two occasions I have specifically asked guys if they are ok with me rimming them, well in advance of our appointment. In fact, one of the guys reminded me to shower before he arrived, apologetically explaining that he asks that of everyone. I responded essentially, "no problem, I was going to ask you to be clean before I eat you out." 
When he arrived, he dropped his pants, bent over, and I smelled his stinky butt. It put me off the entire session. This happened again with an experienced provider/porn star. Is there a polite way to ask them to wash up/douche beforehand? How do you prevent this from happening?  

I am new to the hobby, so please forgive me for being ignorant of the etiquette. On two occasions I have specifically asked guys if they are ok with me rimming them, well in advance of our appointment. In fact, one of the guys reminded me to shower before he arrived, apologetically explaining that he asks that of everyone. I responded essentially, "no problem, I was going to ask you to be clean before I eat you out." 
When he arrived, he dropped his pants, bent over, and I smelled his stinky butt. It put me off the entire session. This happened again with an experienced provider/porn star. Is there a polite way to ask them to wash up/douche beforehand? How do you prevent this from happening?  

I am new to the hobby, so please forgive me for being ignorant of the etiquette. On two occasions I have specifically asked guys if they are ok with me rimming them, well in advance of our appointment. In fact, one of the guys reminded me to shower before he arrived, apologetically explaining that he asks that of everyone. I responded essentially, "no problem, I was going to ask you to be clean before I eat you out." 
When he arrived, he dropped his pants, bent over, and I smelled his stinky butt. It put me off the entire session. This happened again with an experienced provider/porn star. Is there a polite way to ask them to wash up/douche beforehand? How do you prevent this from happening?  

Hmm it’s kind of no excuse if you’ve pre advised them you want to rim them. They should be clean. If I know a client wants to rim me, or if he’s seen me previously and I know he rimmed me last time (or he gave me the impression he wanted to) then I’ll specifically clean myself. Similarly if he wants to finger me then I clean out. I get really anxious about being clean for that. 
It sounds like you hired guys who aren’t that bothered about pleasing you; they just want your money as easy as possible. 
 
 

It’s not an impolite ask… just say “please”! That said, it might help if in the moment you suggest he quickly clean himself (if feasible)- it’s entirely possible he DID clean up before he left and was messy by the time he arrived. Shit [literally] happens!

so how much washing is required? fully soaped up ALL areas of body, including under arms, under balls, inside ass crack, around or even a little inside your hole, fully cover your cock and pull back foreskin if you have one, rinse all water off. Repeat if you can. then fully dry off. ideally brush teeth or at least gargle some mouthwash to freshen up if you are wanting kissing. You should wash yourself with vigor and be overly thorough. Treat it as if someone is about to inspect every inch of your body - which is generally what happens in a massage!  Not just a quick rinse of water over your back or some water splashed on your face. 
Just because the client showered, does not mean he has done so properly.  Not everyone has the awareness of hygiene, and it is really awkward and difficult to tell someone without offending. 
True Story - I offered a gentleman to have a shower when he arrived dripping with sweat and B.O and he said "i showered this morning." I said, "well I had one 10 minutes before you arrived, why don't you have another one now and freshen up - don't worry about the time it takes to be all clean, the session will not start until you are out of the bathroom."   A normal person would read between the lines and go and throughly clean themselves, but this guy was in and out in probably under a minute.  During the session he wanted me to suck him off and when I went down there I had to cut the session and say 'look we need a break, I need you to go back and really take your time cleaning up and washing everything down there, ok?'  he replied "but why?"  like I said earlier - OBLIVIOUS. I don't know if he wasn't wiping his ass properly or not, but the smell of shit, ball sweat and pre-cum is not a pleasant aroma for the best of us. The second time he went in the shower for maybe 2 minutes. Clearly not clean.  I said, 'no no, let me come in with you' and had to wash him down myself.  

I think he needs to incorporate more squats in his workouts... 

Personally, I don't particularly care if he's straight or not. I'd love to fuck him, but I have no interest in dating him.