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I didn't mean to suggest he isn't real. I happen to know that he is. I just think his whole mystique is kinda fun.

Generosity is always a good thing. And it sounds like you're a lovely person 😍 This time of year can be really hard for us providers between family issues/fluctuations in bookings, etc. I think it's awesome to hear that people still think of us as people--outside of what we do for clients in bookings.

Plenty of us out there would be super grateful to be taken out to nice places like that! Maybe next time look for providers that have good reviews on here vis-a-vis BFE.

https://x.com/i/status/1993045119831097804 😉

It's really all over the map in terms of times. I find that Clients usually fall into the following groups related to timing: 1. Retired (9-5 works great) ✅ 2. On vacation (9-5 is possible here, you need to be in a vacation destination) 😎 3. Working from home (These guys often hire for a quickie between meetings)✅ 4. Business travelers (Won't work for 9-5 usually) ❌ 5. Working a normal job (won't work) ❌ Of course it's up to you which of these you take on.

What would you say is your "affordable" price point? (And where do you live?)

If you're a pure top on RM, I'd say the expectation is that you have at least 7 (advertised as 8 or 9). Not sure if you're allowing vers or vers/bottom guys in your search, but based on my research in the NYC area, those are the guys that usually have 'Boyfriend Dick'. But yeah, you're probably right that the market prevents lots of guys that WANT to be tops from being escorts if they don't have the size. Bummer.

Yeah, totally. That's what I meant by all the attention they WANT. People who mostly wanna watch will tell you as much, in my experience.

This is absolutely a thing! You can always find something you love about a guy (or at least I can). The compliments are probably true, maybe a bit exaggerated, but true nonetheless.

I wouldn't worry too much about pre-planning. The great thing about groups is the multiplicative explosion of possible dick/hole/hand possibilities! 🤯 See what happens. Any provider worth their salt is going to make sure the clients get all the attention they want. If it's more than one client, it's the provider's job to keep that balanced. Doing stuff with another provider, while fun, isn't the main reason we're there, and we know that.

Hey, hey ... No one is mad about you tipping 😘 But I never really go into an appointment thinking 'this person will probably tip me well.' If you're meeting with the same provider a second time, though, it's like you're starting to become a regular. Regulars get VIP treatment for sure. I know I'm repeating myself here, but it really matters way more than a tip.

I always assume people reach out to a few providers initially. Once we are in a two-way conversation, it's a little different. Hopefully clients aren't asking 3 different guys to come at the same time and then ghosting two of them 🤨

Thanks! Yes, it's been fun having that small business owner experience! Stay tuned for the OF!!

Sure, shit happens in any business. But with any business, leads need to be qualified. A bad actor can waste so much time, that that hourly rate you just mentioned would skyrocket if there wasn't SOME way of weeding out the abusers. That's where Ubers and small deposits come in. Beyond that, how can we really tell the scammers from the real clients? I'm not sure clients on this forum really comprehend the scale of the fake clients. It's like 40%-60% of all the incoming messages I get. Imagine how high the 'factored in rate' for LEGIT clients would have to be if 40% of messages were allowed to play out all their antics.

I grew up with lots of thuggy latinos and even thuggy asians. There are definitely parts of the country where white guys fit that descriptor too. Eminem comes to mind. And if you read up on the history, it was originally from India. So I'm definitely calling bullshit on this.

I certainly believe that happens, especially when messaging famous porn-star providers that don't really have time for new clients. Here's what a time-waster looks like from the provider side: "Are you into this specific niche thing?" "How exactly would you react if I did niche thing?" "Can I have a picture of some obscure part of your body?" "I have a really long story about an elaborate situation I'm planning with a provider! make that 3 providers!! Would you be interested? Let's discuss every detail of how you'd act in my fantasy. (I promise I'm not just using you for sexting right now! This is a legit inquiry!)" Then ... after a week of silence at 2 am ... "Hey can you come to BFE New Jersey right now?"

I hope he picks NYC 😄😍 South Florida kinda sucks (And I've heard this from other escorts too). No one is willing to pay, and the travel times are harsh.

If this is true, I'm very impressed 😁

Why not take him at his word? Because it makes no sense. If he can't see clients, why update the ad with the location?

You're right, I never thought about how calling someone now with no warning, is like just showing up at someone's house was 20 years ago. And repeatedly calling is like pounding on the door! Technology has changed the social custom around that (not every generation agrees to what extent it has). But like 150+ years ago, it was pretty normal to just show up at someone's place, right? Pemberley was 'Open For Visitors" 😄

Yeah well, or maybe I'm just new and dumb. But I really do wanna find clients that want more than just the physical.

Anything CAN be a kink. Dom and rope-daddy are almost always used in a sexual context. Are you saying frat bro is a racial category? 🤔 This is getting pretty weird.

That's not what it meant to ME in this context. Just speaking for myself, but I have a feeling most people in here feel the same. Dom and Rope Daddy are sex kink terms. Thug is not.

Every escort is weighing up the time he'll spend for the entire event, including transit time, against the money they'll get. If you live in an area that is remote from the area where most of your local escorts live, there's an opportunity to sweeten the deal a lot with transportation thrown in. Because Uber cost way less than 300 an hour. Think about it, if you can save your escort an hour of time for $60, that's beneficial to both of you. I'd never ask a client who lived in Midtown for an Uber. But if you're talking Nassau County or Newark, for sure I am.

I'm not sure exactly which part of the discussion you're talking about for part (A). Someone said OP left part of the story out? That's almost always true of any retelling of anything. As for (B), absolutely I think this was 100% avoidable by the client, if you wanna call that 'blame'. And that's because: (C) 'Thug' is a style/lifestyle that spans really all racial and ethnic groups. It's a lifestyle associated with homophobia and violence. Fantasies aside, 'Thug culture' really doesn't seem to me to be compatible with a beginner hiring.