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A Tale of Two Cities: I remember what David Letterman said on his show when the "renovation" of Times Square started in the 1990s: "Hey, Rudy, America has the whole rest of the United States for DisneyLand, why not keep Times Square for adults?"

Oh, can it be that it was all so simple then Or has time rewritten every line And if we had the chance to do it all again Tell me, Would we Could we? Memories, may be beautiful and yet What's too painful to remember We simply choose to forget So it's the laughter we will remember Whenever we remember The way we were Remember, the way we were.

I had one escort texting me on his journey to my hotel. The last text I received was "Turning now onto your street." Then.... the dreaded silence. It would have been interesting to find out what actually happened, but I doubt that I'd ever get the true story.

I'm guessing "hot as f**k" though I often see "hot asf" as well.

I once had a housemate who was "FBI" (Foreign Born Irish - he was actually from Ireland) who used the F-Word three or four times in the same conversation without compunction. Only he pronounced it "Feck." I'm not sure if it was just him or whether the Irish are just not as startled by the word. His friends from Ireland used it a lot, too.

Who went to Harvard??? State university here.

As someone with a Master's in Social Work, as well as Masters in three other (non-lucrative) academic domains, I know this first-hand.

Reno Gold s a good example of how a person can become very successful w/out a degree from Harvard, Yale, or actually ANY college. There was an article in WAPO yesterday that asserted that, according to a recent study, student nurses from some community colleges make more than some master’s degree recipients from Harvard University, and that electrical and power transmission installers with associate degrees from a community college in West Virginia earn $80,400 in their first year, or more than twice the median income of bachelor’s degree recipients generally. I also agree with those who sense that Reno Gold seems like a great guy, displaying his "assets" in a savvy, marketable manner; and three cheers to his donation of $27,000 to the Elton John Aids Foundation.

Just about ANY home repair - get an expert who knows what they're doing (and bills for their expertise) rather than the guy on Craigslist or somebody's uncle. Don't ask me how I learned this.

You're not in charge of your BF's behavior or the Sugar Daddy's behavior, just your own behavior. You can share with BF how his new behavior makes YOU feel (be specific, give recent examples, don't do archaeological digs by bringing up ancient history) - use "I statements" not accusatory "You statements" - and stick to facts, not mind-reading or conjecture. Maybe he is unaware of how his behavior is affecting you. Whether he chooses to make changes or not it's HIS decision. If he doesn't change, then you must decide whether you can accept this new behavior, or make your own changes, including whether to continue the relationship. Usually, changing your own behavior will cause your partner to make changes also. Having done couple counseling for many years, I had waaay too many folks drag a partner into therapy and say "Here, change him, make him act like I want." It doesn't work that way.

I enjoyed the article that @Luv2play cited. I enjoyed even more the "Comments" that readers of The Times made regarding the anxiety associated with "frivolous sex" during a pandemic. One comment especially provoked a chuckle: "Maybe I’m old, but I’d settle for being able to go to the grocery store without worrying it’ll kill me."

Maybe I'm just old fashioned, but I would feel very uncomfortable with someone taking ANYTHING from my home without first asking, and I would be very hesitant to invite that person back again. But, that's just me.

I, too, have resolved to eat healthier in the New Year and to stop buying all the sugary crap I pick up at Sam's Club (I also shop at Costco but they don't seem to have half the sugary snack food that Sam's stocks). I heard something the other day that kinda makes sense: 25% of what you eat keeps you alive; the other 75% of what you eat keeps your doctor alive.

*****Breaking News****** = a repeat of a news item from two hours ago; or, an item of news that is so insignificant that nobody cares

Pornhub states that two organizations are going after them: National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE - formerly known as "Morality in Media), and Exodus Cry ( a strange anti-porn Evangelical operation with ties to Trump and the Christian right per The Daily Beast - see (https://www.thedailybeast.com/inside-exodus-cry-the-shady-evangelical-group-with-trump-ties-waging-war-on-pornhub). But don't think these two groups will be satisfied with shutting down Pornhub. NCOSE says they will be going after the "Dirty Dozen": Amazon, for distributing pornography and “sadomasochistic paraphernalia,” exposing children to sexually explicit images and content “with incest, rape, and child themes” with the Kindle e-reader, and for Amazon Web Services hosting pornography and prostitution websites American Library Association, for encouraging public-access computers to stay unfiltered, “thereby allowing patrons, including children, to view illegal, obscene material” Amnesty International, for supporting the decriminalization of prostitution, which “normalizes sexual violence and exploitation” Backpage.com, for facilitating prostitution advertisements Cosmopolitan Magazine, for hyper-sexualizing fashion and glamorizing “public, anal, and violent sex” The Department of Justice, for “refusing to enforce existing federal obscenity laws against pornography” HBO, for “providing increasingly graphic depictions of pornography and sexual violence as entertainment,” most notably in Game of Thrones “Sexpresso” Coffee Shops, for having “pornified working conditions” that “result in frequent sexual harassment of staff, have been associated with indecent exposure and prostitution, and are an affront to public decency and health” Snapchat, for being “frequently used for sexting and the sharing of child sexual abuse images” Starwood Hotels and Resorts Worldwide, for initially selling hardcore pornography via on-demand TV offerings, but then—here’s a twist—the hotel chain was removed from the list after eliminating porn from all of its hotels Verizon, for profiting from “sexual exploitation each year through pay-per-view movies and dedicated pornography channels on its Fios TV services, as an Internet service provider, and wireless carrier” YouTube, for being “a place where pornography and other explicit content is easily accessed and often promoted” I encourage everyone who is concerned about this new Evangelical censorship to read The Daily Beast article referenced above.

New Pornhub policy: Videos that are not uploaded by official content partners or members of Pornhub’s model program will be removed pending verification and review beginning in 2021. “As part of our policy to ban unverified uploaders, we have now also suspended all previously uploaded content that was not created by content partners or members of the Model Program,” Pornhub said in an announcement. “This means every piece of Pornhub content is from verified uploaders, a requirement that platforms like Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Snapchat, and Twitter have yet to institute.”

I'm not immersed in the emoji world but I do believe lots of theses emojis indicate some type of drug use. Though I suppose that a "gas pump" could indicate that the person is asking for gas money, it's been my experience that "entrepreneurs" on Grindr usually just ask for money (or an Uber ride) w/out the need for an emoji. More likely, it's a reference to drug use. I saw a web site that explained some of the drug emojis (and I personally don't know if these are accurate, or not): Emojis that represent drugs: Cocaine — Slang terms for this drug include coke, snow, dust, powder, nose candy, coco, blow, pearl, yeyo. Often represented as the following emojis: ❄⛄?????? (Snow, Snowman, Key, Raining cloud, Rice, Sneezing Face, Eightball, coconut) Marijuana — People usually smoke marijuana but it can be used in a variety of ways. Dispensaries sell brownie and candy infused weed, you can purchase lotions and balms that contain CBD as well as brewing it and drinking it in a form of tea. People who use marijuana for medical purposes use it for conditions like chronic pain, muscle spasticity, anorexia, nausea, and insomnia. Often represented by the following emojis: ???????? (Maple Leaf, Four Leaf Clover, Palm Tree, Tree, Pine Tree, Kissy Face, Smoke, Face With Steam From Nose) Cough syrup — The concoction is made by mixing the prescription medication with Sprite Soda and Jolly Rancher candies. Often represented by the following emojis: ???? (Grapes, Baby Bottle, Crystal Ball, Purple Heart) Methamphetamine — It is a popular party drug that is usually smoked with a small glass pipe, but can also be swallowed, snorted, or injected into a vein. It comes in clear crystal chunks or shiny blue-white rocks. Commonly known as; ice, glass, rocks crystal, crank, chalk, tweak, tina, Walter white, speed. Often represented by the following emojis: ?❄??? (Diamond, Snow, Snowy Mountain, Eight Ball, Rice) Heroin — Pure heroin is a white powder that can be snorted or smoked. “Black Tar” heroin has a very sticky texture. Black tar heroin is dark, a result from crude processing methods that leave behind impurities. Impure heroin is normally dissolved and diluted with water and injected into the veins. Commonly referred to as; H, smack, tar, junk, black, dragon, white horse, skag. Often represented by the following emojis: ???? (Syringe, Direct Hit, Dragon, Horse) MDMA — MDMA is normally sold in pill form and can contain additives. These factors can contribute to serious and sometimes fatal health effects. MDMA can also be addictive and research suggests long-term cognitive problems may develop in some users. This drug is most popular among teens and young adults, especially at nightclubs or raves. The drug comes in a wide variety of sizes, shapes, and colors often are stamped or imprinted with unique logos (Smiley faces, Superman logo, Skull shapes, legos, hearts, stars, children’s cartoons dominoes). Street names include; X, Superman, XTC, Adam, Beans, Love Drug, Happy Pill, Scooby Snacks, Smarties, Skittles, Vitamin E or X. Often represented by the following emojis: ?❤⚡☣?? (Pill, Heart with Lightning Bolt, Biohazard Sign, Exploding Head, Candy) Magic Mushrooms — This drug is most commonly chewed but can also be made into a tea. Mushrooms may be consumed raw and dried but cannot be smoked or cooked as this destroys the main ingredient, psilocybin. There are more than 180 species of mushrooms that contain psilocybin. Psilocybin mushrooms have a long history of use in Mesoamerica in spiritual and religious rituals and are currently one of the most popular recreational psychedelics in the U.S. and Europe. Popular street names for magic mushrooms include; shrooms, liberty caps, Alice, boomers, simple Simon. Often represented by the following emojis: ? Here are some other emoji codes that you might want to be aware if you are thinking about looking through your teen’s phone: ? The spaceship emoji is used to indicate how high the potency of a drug is. ? The plug emoji is used to refer to a drug dealer, a ‘connect’ or supplier who is going to be able to provide you with drugs. ? The pie emoji can be used to describe the punny expression of cookies pies, making a large amount of drugs to distribute. ⛽ The fuel pump emoji is used to describe being ‘gassed,’ drunk or intoxicated. This emoji can also mean gas, a high-grade marijuana.

Please don't post pictures of children.

Please don't post pictures of children.

Last evening, I rec'd several unsolicited photos from someone on Grindr who hinted at a hookup. The photos were of a very hot twenty-something with a thong tan line and a nice bulge. No monetary exchange was mentioned by either of us. Just when I thought that perhaps I might be receiving an early Xmas present, he sent the following message indicating that he required some type of verification on "MMRM" before our rendezvous: "MMRM is where I can check if you're not an lgbtq offender just because last time, I met someone here accompanied with guy. That guy have a gun and point it on my head and they robbed me. Nothing left on me, and it was traumatic. And this MMRM is for the site to know who i am with so whatever happen to me they know where i am and who i am with, that's the very essence of it. Hope you got me." (These messages are verbatim.) Obviously (I guess) some type of scam. Perhaps a blackmail set-up? Or maybe the site he was pushing (MMRM) requires a payment? Anybody heard of this MMRM? I did not respond to his message nor did he send any further messages.

Last evening, I rec'd several unsolicited photos from someone on Grindr who hinted at a hookup. The photos were of a very hot twenty-something with a thong tan line and a nice bulge. No monetary exchange was mentioned by either of us. Just when I thought that perhaps I might be receiving an early Xmas present, he sent the following message indicating that he required some type of verification on "MMRM" before our rendezvous: "MMRM is where I can check if you're not an lgbtq offender just because last time, I met someone here accompanied with guy. That guy have a gun and point it on my head and they robbed me. Nothing left on me, and it was traumatic. And this MMRM is for the site to know who i am with so whatever happen to me they know where i am and who i am with, that's the very essence of it. Hope you got me." (These messages are verbatim.) Obviously (I guess) some type of scam. Perhaps a blackmail set-up? Or maybe the site he was pushing (MMRM) requires a payment? Anybody heard of this MMRM? I did not respond to his message nor did he send any further messages.

PER MAYO CLINIC: "Blood in semen (hematospermia) can be frightening, but the cause of this uncommon condition is usually benign. Typically, blood in semen goes away on its own." Happened to me once about five years ago and scared me - but it never happened again. But, never hurts to check with your PCP or urologist.

"David and Ann Reader" -- this is the first book we had in Catholic school instead of "Dick and Jane" (those names weren't saintly enough! ha)