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"Pleasure" from bottoming is an incredibly subjective experience. I really don't think it is possible to give a "one size fits all" answer. I think the best thing you can do, is try to understand yourself, your desires, and what you enjoy and find pleasurable. For example, some are turned on by the size of the boat where another will find it in the motion of the ocean and to yet another it will be some combination of both.
 
For myself, I don't enjoy bottoming in the traditional sense. I think it takes a lot of prep and hard work to be ready (cleaning, not being able to eat, etc.) I am not fixated on size at all (average is fine, big is fine). But here is how and where I get my enjoyment. I have to be very attracted to the person I am with. Intense deep passionate kissing has to be involved. I like some degree of verbal play (not degradation, but more like descriptive). Finally, I get pleasure from knowing that I am giving my partner something he really wants. This is what works for me.
 
I can't emphasize enough, how knowing yourself and what you like is the most important thing to your own enjoyment. It will also be very helpful if you are able to verbalize this to your partner (what is working and even what isn't working). Maybe for you, it will be size, or foreplay, or toys, or positioning. Finally, as others have said... yes.. it is ok if you decide that you really don't enjoy it.

"Pleasure" from bottoming is an incredibly subjective experience. I really don't think it is possible to give a "one size fits all" answer. I think the best thing you can do, is try to understand yourself, your desires, and what you enjoy and find pleasurable. For example, some are turned on by the size of the boat where another will find it in the motion of the ocean and to yet another it will be some combination of both.
 
For myself, I don't enjoy bottoming in the traditional sense. I think it takes a lot of prep and hard work to be ready (cleaning, not being able to eat, etc.) I am not fixated on size at all (average is fine, big is fine). But here is how and where I get my enjoyment. I have to be very attracted to the person I am with. Intense deep passionate kissing has to be involved. I like some degree of verbal play (not degradation, but more like descriptive). Finally, I get pleasure from knowing that I am giving my partner something he really wants. This is what works for me.
 
I can't emphasize enough, how knowing yourself and what you like is the most important thing to your own enjoyment. It will also be very helpful if you are able to verbalize this to your partner (what is working and even what isn't working). Maybe for you, it will be size, or foreplay, or toys, or positioning. Finally, as others have said... yes.. it is ok if you decide that you really don't enjoy it.

"Pleasure" from bottoming is an incredibly subjective experience. I really don't think it is possible to give a "one size fits all" answer. I think the best thing you can do, is try to understand yourself, your desires, and what you enjoy and find pleasurable. For example, some are turned on by the size of the boat where another will find it in the motion of the ocean and to yet another it will be some combination of both.
 
For myself, I don't enjoy bottoming in the traditional sense. I think it takes a lot of prep and hard work to be ready (cleaning, not being able to eat, etc.) I am not fixated on size at all (average is fine, big is fine). But here is how and where I get my enjoyment. I have to be very attracted to the person I am with. Intense deep passionate kissing has to be involved. I like some degree of verbal play (not degradation, but more like descriptive). Finally, I get pleasure from knowing that I am giving my partner something he really wants. This is what works for me.
 
I can't emphasize enough, how knowing yourself and what you like is the most important thing to your own enjoyment. It will also be very helpful if you are able to verbalize this to your partner (what is working and even what isn't working). Maybe for you, it will be size, or foreplay, or toys, or positioning. Finally, as others have said... yes.. it is ok if you decide that you really don't enjoy it.

Great start, you're well on your way.
 
If I could give any advice/ what worked for me:
 
Investing:
 
Treat investing for your future as a monthly expense item.. (pay the rent, pay yourself)
 
Keep it simple- unless you really want to spend the time and have a really active hands on approach... try something like the couch potato portfolio which is so easy and very low cost
 

The couch-potato portfolio is an indexing strategy that requires only annual monitoring and rebalancing but offers significant returns in the long run.
Couch potato portfolios invest equally in two assets, common stocks, and bonds (via index funds or ETFs), and maintain this 50/50 split year in and year out.
In the couch potato portfolio, the equities allow for growth, while the debt instruments provide protection against market volatility.
Couch potato portfolios decline less than the market in down periods but also appreciate less in up markets.

Diversify if you are going to pick individual stocks instead of picking low cost index funds.
 
 
Savings:
Keep 3-6 months cash on hand in an online savings bank or credit union that pays higher interest than the traditional bank.
Always participate in your employers 401K plans at least up to the $ level they match. Always fund your Roth IRA to the allowable level.
Consider using a "bucket" approach (for example).
 
Spending:
Don't rack up credit card debt. I use credit but don't carry over monthly balances.
Do you really need a new car every 2 years? Consider a Honda before buying that BMW. Can you be happy in that nice $1500 a month apartment, or do you really need to rent that $3000 a month condo? Do you really need to eat out every night or will 2-3 times a week suffice?

Great start, you're well on your way.
 
If I could give any advice/ what worked for me:
 
Investing:
 
Treat investing for your future as a monthly expense item.. (pay the rent, pay yourself)
 
Keep it simple- unless you really want to spend the time and have a really active hands on approach... try something like the couch potato portfolio which is so easy and very low cost
 

The couch-potato portfolio is an indexing strategy that requires only annual monitoring and rebalancing but offers significant returns in the long run.
Couch potato portfolios invest equally in two assets, common stocks, and bonds (via index funds or ETFs), and maintain this 50/50 split year in and year out.
In the couch potato portfolio, the equities allow for growth, while the debt instruments provide protection against market volatility.
Couch potato portfolios decline less than the market in down periods but also appreciate less in up markets.

Diversify if you are going to pick individual stocks instead of picking low cost index funds.
 
 
Savings:
Keep 3-6 months cash on hand in an online savings bank or credit union that pays higher interest than the traditional bank.
Always participate in your employers 401K plans at least up to the $ level they match. Always fund your Roth IRA to the allowable level.
Consider using a "bucket" approach (for example).
 
Spending:
Don't rack up credit card debt. I use credit but don't carry over monthly balances.
Do you really need a new car every 2 years? Consider a Honda before buying that BMW. Can you be happy in that nice $1500 a month apartment, or do you really need to rent that $3000 a month condo? Do you really need to eat out every night or will 2-3 times a week suffice?

Great start, you're well on your way.
 
If I could give any advice/ what worked for me:
 
Investing:
 
Treat investing for your future as a monthly expense item.. (pay the rent, pay yourself)
 
Keep it simple- unless you really want to spend the time and have a really active hands on approach... try something like the couch potato portfolio which is so easy and very low cost
 

The couch-potato portfolio is an indexing strategy that requires only annual monitoring and rebalancing but offers significant returns in the long run.
Couch potato portfolios invest equally in two assets, common stocks, and bonds (via index funds or ETFs), and maintain this 50/50 split year in and year out.
In the couch potato portfolio, the equities allow for growth, while the debt instruments provide protection against market volatility.
Couch potato portfolios decline less than the market in down periods but also appreciate less in up markets.

Diversify if you are going to pick individual stocks instead of picking low cost index funds.
 
 
Savings:
Keep 3-6 months cash on hand in an online savings bank or credit union that pays higher interest than the traditional bank.
Always participate in your employers 401K plans at least up to the $ level they match. Always fund your Roth IRA to the allowable level.
Consider using a "bucket" approach (for example).
 
Spending:
Don't rack up credit card debt. I use credit but don't carry over monthly balances.
Do you really need a new car every 2 years? Consider a Honda before buying that BMW. Can you be happy in that nice $1500 a month apartment, or do you really need to rent that $3000 a month condo? Do you really need to eat out every night or will 2-3 times a week suffice?

"Pleasure" from bottoming is an incredibly subjective experience. I really don't think it is possible to give a "one size fits all" answer. I think the best thing you can do, is try to understand yourself, your desires, and what you enjoy and find pleasurable. For example, some are turned on by the size of the boat where another will find it in the motion of the ocean and to yet another it will be some combination of both.
 
For myself, I don't enjoy bottoming in the traditional sense. I think it takes a lot of prep and hard work to be ready (cleaning, not being able to eat, etc.) I am not fixated on size at all (average is fine, big is fine). But here is how and where I get my enjoyment. I have to be very attracted to the person I am with. Intense deep passionate kissing has to be involved. I like some degree of verbal play (not degradation, but more like descriptive). Finally, I get pleasure from knowing that I am giving my partner something he really wants. This is what works for me.
 
I can't emphasize enough, how knowing yourself and what you like is the most important thing to your own enjoyment. It will also be very helpful if you are able to verbalize this to your partner (what is working and even what isn't working). Maybe for you, it will be size, or foreplay, or toys, or positioning. Finally, as others have said... yes.. it is ok if you decide that you really don't enjoy it.

"Pleasure" from bottoming is an incredibly subjective experience. I really don't think it is possible to give a "one size fits all" answer. I think the best thing you can do, is try to understand yourself, your desires, and what you enjoy and find pleasurable. For example, some are turned on by the size of the boat where another will find it in the motion of the ocean and to yet another it will be some combination of both.
 
For myself, I don't enjoy bottoming in the traditional sense. I think it takes a lot of prep and hard work to be ready (cleaning, not being able to eat, etc.) I am not fixated on size at all (average is fine, big is fine). But here is how and where I get my enjoyment. I have to be very attracted to the person I am with. Intense deep passionate kissing has to be involved. I like some degree of verbal play (not degradation, but more like descriptive). Finally, I get pleasure from knowing that I am giving my partner something he really wants. This is what works for me.
 
I can't emphasize enough, how knowing yourself and what you like is the most important thing to your own enjoyment. It will also be very helpful if you are able to verbalize this to your partner (what is working and even what isn't working). Maybe for you, it will be size, or foreplay, or toys, or positioning. Finally, as others have said... yes.. it is ok if you decide that you really don't enjoy it.

"Pleasure" from bottoming is an incredibly subjective experience. I really don't think it is possible to give a "one size fits all" answer. I think the best thing you can do, is try to understand yourself, your desires, and what you enjoy and find pleasurable. For example, some are turned on by the size of the boat where another will find it in the motion of the ocean and to yet another it will be some combination of both.
 
For myself, I don't enjoy bottoming in the traditional sense. I think it takes a lot of prep and hard work to be ready (cleaning, not being able to eat, etc.) I am not fixated on size at all (average is fine, big is fine). But here is how and where I get my enjoyment. I have to be very attracted to the person I am with. Intense deep passionate kissing has to be involved. I like some degree of verbal play (not degradation, but more like descriptive). Finally, I get pleasure from knowing that I am giving my partner something he really wants. This is what works for me.
 
I can't emphasize enough, how knowing yourself and what you like is the most important thing to your own enjoyment. It will also be very helpful if you are able to verbalize this to your partner (what is working and even what isn't working). Maybe for you, it will be size, or foreplay, or toys, or positioning. Finally, as others have said... yes.. it is ok if you decide that you really don't enjoy it.

Isn’t that former “Bachelor”, Ben Higgins?

I found him to be clever, witty, and sort of vulnerable. Yes, he schemed, but it seemed to come from a place of loneliness - having to always look out for himself because he never truly believed that others cared about him. Plus the anxiety of harboring a huge secret about his orientation likely would also affect his personality.

I have been hiring escorts for twenty years and I usually require out calls. This is not rocket science. When I contact an escort: 1.) I ask him if he does outcalls to my area, 2.) I tell him that I am interested in approximately a three-hour arrangement. One hour for a meal and two for play time. and 3.) I ask him if he is interested in that type of arrangement and if so, what his fee would be. At this point the ball is in the escorts court. He has sufficient information to determine all his costs regarding our possible get together. Thus, I expect him to provide me with a single figure NOT an itemized estimate. If and when he does I determine if his fee appears reasonable to me. If it does, we continue making arrangements to meet. If it does not, I thank him for his time and break off communication.
 
I have traveled with escorts on a number of occasions. In those situations, I certainly pay all costs; airfare, hotels, meals, and all other costs except for personal items the escort chooses to purchase. Comparing airfare to Uber fare is ridiculous and absurd.

He’s not your employee. Why should you pay for his transport?

Great point. If I read "don't want my time wasted" alone along with a decently redacted ad, I would let it go and try to see if the provider has some potential. But if I read it in the context of a pretentious ad along with all those other demands, it's definitely a motive to move on.

Just another thing that has me moving on to the next ad...like "high class only", "selective", "must send picture",”deposit required”, and having a really stupid name or shooting me the bird.

Just another thing that has me moving on to the next ad...like "high class only", "selective", "must send picture",”deposit required”, and having a really stupid name or shooting me the bird.

To me that seems like comparing apples to oranges. Do you require your customers to pay the delivery driver directly and make the delivery arrangements themselves? That’s what’s happening when a client arranges Uber for a provider.

Same. I’m not looking for a man who needs help with transportation.

I am agnostic to the amount an escort charges. Depending on that charge, I decide if the potential session is worth it. if an escort quotes a price then adds an Uber fee, we are done. Travel fees are a low class gouge. My concierge physician does not charge me for travel, so I expect the same courtesy from an escort.

Just like I have no desire to pay by the act as opposed to the meet, I have no willingness to discuss add-ons and fees. Set your rates (with uber transportation costs included) but don't break them down into add-on fees.. it's a turn-off. It's bad enough dealing with that shit booking hotels, rental cars, and airlines.

I respectfully think you’re missing some of the points these guys are making. It’s not that they can’t afford to provide an extra $20 bucks. It’s the overall idea of being asked, that is off-putting.
 
If I were an escort, I would just simply charge an out call rate, that would factor in transportation.
 
But having a rate and then telling the said customer, “oh, you need to pay extra for my Uber”, is so not-sexy....
 
A hot, sexy, high-class escort, who understands his brand, charges a rate (that clients don’t mind paying, regardless of the price) , and leaves the rest of the mechanics behind his service (i.e. transportation), a mystery. But a provider who starts negotiating with a client over Uber rates, and a back & forth of nickel & dime-ing, has reduced himself from an escort, to a “ street hustler”.
 
And yes, there is a difference.

Like any other business-related fee, for any other profession, I believe that an escort should factor it into his hourly rate.
 
Attorneys, doctors, hairstylists, house cleaners, or any other proprietor does not ask for a separate Uber fee, so why should an escort.
 
Also, IMO, it comes off kinda tacky, especially since the average escort earns a MINIMUM of $300 per hour.

I’ll never pay for an Uber for an escort , that to me is the escorts responsibility and a real turn off when they ask me to pay for it

I’ll make you a deal. When the in/out rates are the same, I’ll pay for an Uber. What is the higher out rate for if not to compensate for travel?
 
But, you do you. If you’re comfortable paying extra for an outcall plus footing the transportation, have at it.

I did not. I only leave reviews when someone is exceptionally good or exceptionally bad. Realizing that this is an escort's livelihood and understanding that the low score review severely impact the escorts overall rating, I wouldn't want to damage someone's reputation when it may just be that we didn't click for some reason.