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Imagine going to a bar, ordering a drink and they say 'sure we just need your card to start a tab' and you reply 'I wont run out, I always pay my tab. that offends me. just trust me that I will pay at the end.'  The bartender replies - "well I am sure YOU don't run out, but some people do, so we have to get cards to start tabs"  and you reply "I am so offended that you think I am one of those people who run out on tabs. Other bars just trust me." 
This is what you sound like right now. 

i guess you should have finished that whole paragraph were I said   "And even though you ARE hiring, reaching out to three people adds to it." While you YOU are hiring, keep in mind there are maybe 50 people who have reached out that are NOT.   I never said that this is about people who DO hire. I actually explicitly said otherwise. 
Wrong again. I love my clients, I have great relationships with them. I have contempt for the people who jerk us around for pleasure. wasting our time and treating us like shit. 
when you have travelled to hotels and sat in the lobby for 20 minutes to be greeted by no one countless times, you also would be doing this. How many times a day do you think we should do this?  I genuinely want to know.  How long should I talk to someone on the phone while they are masturbating? 
 
Once again - if you do not do this - I am not talking about YOU personally so I am not sure why you are personally offended. Just explaining why we respond the way we do, which was the question asked. You just have no idea of the amount on administrative work we do dealing with this.  Next time you are with a provider (assuming you actually do hire) ask them in person.
I probably receive 6 phone calls a day with people masturbating on the end of the line, even though my profile clearly states 'please text'.  God knows how many are doing it via text. 
 
 
 
 
 

I realize you don't care, but this assumption is offensive. I have no interest in getting off via conversations in text or on the phone. My interactions are a means to an in-person end...with the right providor. You've made this accusation before, and your contempt for your clients is evident. I can see why you insist on a deposit in advance.

Clients that do this are really fucking annoying and it's a BIG reason why you get labeled with the 'time waster' tag. 
We get 'hey I like you are you available text'. we reply back with 'yeah I can be, what part of town are you in my rate is *insert standard rate* etc etc' then silence from the client, or even better 'great, let me get back to you'. 
Because we might be preference number 3 or 4 or 5 and they are waiting to hear back from number preferred provider 1.  
Which then leads to us just putting little effort into the reply sometimes because the volume of messages we are getting from people  only messaging us as they just want us to  'audition'.  The volume of people messaging providers for these interactions ONLY while they jerk off looking at our pics and imagining what it would be like. the text messaging back and forth completely satisfies them is ASTOUNDING. It's vampirish and exhausting. I assume every single person that reaches out is one of these people until they prove me otherwise. And even though you ARE hiring, reaching out to three people adds to it. 
There are other reasons for a quick short response - it could also be a quick reply because we are already talking to someone else, we are at the gym, on the subway, on a airplane, in the library, sitting at a barber chair, eating at a restaurant: we are not sitting at an office desk when we are fielding enquiries. 
I get that sometimes waiting for a reply can be frustrating, especially when you are horny and excited. I wish clients would keep this in mind when reaching out.
I also get that it goes both ways - I get really fucking annoyed with short messages like 'rates? available?' and giving full replies 'yes I am available, how are you? when are you looking for?' to then only get one word reply back.  but that happens A LOT. People treat Rentmen conversations a lot like grindr in terms of communications styles.
It's hard not to get offended sometimes when you are not getting back what you are putting out. I'm with you on this! 
 
To answer your question - 
I have a standard reply that I edit around the initial text. 
I think it matters and I always try to be professional.
But there is a line of giving a lot of myself out there (FOR FREE)  for people who are already talking advantage of it, people who are messaging multiple people that are not THAT interested in me - which can be really draining. Versus holding back and protecting myself and mental health from these interactions so I can be my BEST self when I do show up for bookings. It's a tough balance that we don't always get right but try to. 
 
 

Perhaps my expectations are lower but Response # 2 seems to be the norm for me. My initial message is generic, non-specific. Most providers seem to be very guarded in their initial responses and I have not found that to be consistently predictive of what they’re really like. 

Yes, a provider's reply definitely makes a difference. Do they reply in a reasonable amount of time? Is their response friendly? Does it answer my initial questions? Of the responses you received, I would agree with how you ranked them. 

As a client,  100% the reply matters.  When I reach out, I state what I'm looking for, ask them to read my profile and let me know if they think I would be a good client for them.
If I get a response like your #2, that is not the provider for me 

I was in a similar place when I started. I kind do the same since I never crave the same thing from the same provider. But once I'm clear about what I want, I let the provider know, and it's never been anything too difficult to do.

Definitely. I often give a guys ass a playful exploratory spank in a session. If it gets a positive response (pleasured groan, a wiggle of the ass, or it lifting up in expectation of more) then I’ll smack it again, but with slightly more intensity and slightly less playfully. The client usually gets the hint and is encouraged to ask for more. Then my paddle, flogger or strap comes out and he gets his ass reddened! 
A few clients have discovered a penchant for that kind of massage (or elements of it) in their session. I think it’s part of my job to introduce them to things they were not previously aware they liked or that they were too inhibited to ask for. It’s great to explore like that with a client. 
 

I love receiving an occasional BRUTAL throat-f****. (I won't go into it, but I was brutalized in my past.) However, I see these adorable, skinny twinks (and twunks), who aren't able to deliver.
A year ago, in my city, there was a twink who kept getting bad reviews. I reached out to the reviewers, and all of them said the same thing: He was a major a**hole. That made me highly intrigued. I ended up hiring him, and he 100% delivered. After I posted a positive review, a client reached out to me and said I had a lot of nerve to give this POS a five-star. However, how can I regret giving that rave review? (I do get why other clients hate him, though.)

When I first started hiring I did not know what I wanted.  That led to many enjoyable but not exhilarating experiences.  Once I figured out what I wanted, I had no difficulty asking for it or initiating it and seeing what the response was.  While the original experiences were fun the latter ones are the ones I will be thinking about upon my exit from this earthly toil. I may not get to heaven, but it will seem like it when I am on the road.  

Wow, thanks for the advice. What's your consulting fee? I may need to use your services in the future. 😉
Also, if any providers are interested in the scenario, hit me up and let's see if we can work something out. 😜

As someone mentioned if you don’t ask you don’t get. I used to be embarrassed but know I just say it. I love to be rawdogged from behind and the escort telling me the name of the guy or girl he was thinking about when he got off after he pulls out. 

I have never requested a provider to help me move a dead body. Instead, I'll find one who hosts, and then deal with it later once Mother gets home. 

 

I am going to help you with this.  Reach out to a provider you have had a good time with before and send this: 
"Hello again. I really enjoyed our session last time, and I wanted to ask about a specific scenario to see if it is something you could help me organize.  I would love an erotic massage, and I would like to see it build from there, with elements of surprise added in. I would like a hood being placed over my head (the masseur says it will help eliminate outside distractions and further relax me) my legs spread and my ankles bond to the corners of the table and headphones placed on me playing erotic trance/hypno tape.  And while I am in this situation you can then introduce another set of hands into the mix during the session (another element of surprise).
I understand both providers need to be paid each- is this something you would be comfortable doing? I have wanted to ask for a while but I have been worried  that you would think I am either weird (for lack of a better word) and trying to engage in sexting."
Send this and after you get a reply - discuss logistics ONLY. (ie, rate, time, place) 
I would encourage you to reach out to a provider you had a good time with before because they already know you and know that you are a legit client.
ENJOY! its a sexy fantasy.  
 

Here's an old thread about him

Thanks for merging the threads. The other links were appreciated. That’s one bullet I’m happy to dodge!!

Tonight I had the pleasure of his company. Dude did a great job! 

It's YOUR job to make it sexy, not for the clients to make it sexy for you.  Getting into the mind frame to make it sexy is what separates the men from the boys. 
 
This is your choice. One of the joys for me about sex work is that I get to set my schedule. This has to be balanced with saying No to clients who want to see me at 2am.  You can set out 'open hours' like any other service does - we cannot be available 24hrs a day 7 days a week. We all need to make the choice at times - would we prefer see the client, or would we prefer 'getting things done'?  
But if you want to make money, and you want to be busy, you must be flexible and have an understanding that YOUR schedule needs flexibility to ensure you can get as many bookings as possible.  
Welcome back to the forum - yes you are. But the way you have been writing in this new profile is a sign that you are doing better with these challenges.
It's true that there are a lot of guys out there that use Rentmen profiles to jerk off to and use us as 'interactive porn'. Some of the clients here on this site for eg, rate, reach out, comment about us, look up and critique our profiles when they have not hired for YEARS and have no intention in doing so. Lots of people will contact you with no intention to meet up and get off on just the thought of it. 
But there are also a lot of people who reach out with intention but also trepidation, and if your sales and marketing skills or bedside manner is not accommodating enough- you wont land the sale.  It's a tough balance to weigh up being open enough for these people and closed enough for the tire kickers who are jerking us around to not drain you. 

Spit and Piss play 

My first time bottoming I went to a hung (10 in.) escort here in Chicago who had a great reputation. I was eager to play with that dick and eager to bottom. I figured since he was a pro and had good reviews he knew what he was doing. I told him it was my first time and he made it incredible. I took almost the entire thing. Only once did I feel some pain. He must have recognized it, stopped, let me get used to it and then slowly proceeded. I will say that he played with my hole for a long time opening me up, etc. Hope that isn't TMI.
 
So to answer your question, yes, it will be a lot to take for a first time and could be painful. Look for an experience escort who is a top and somewhat well endowed. They know what to do to make it possible for a new bottom to take a big cock.

hey guys. I need some help. I’m new to bottoming and want to know if there are any limitations on length that I can take. There an escort that I want to see but he says he’s 10 inches. Is that going to hurt? Is he going to hit my Sigmoid Colon? What does that feel like? Is 10 inches something that is need to work up to gradually??

Beware of escorts who say they have fisting experience. Generally it's only a little experience and they don't really know what they're doing. There are some though, for who you can tell from their profiles, fisting is a major service offering. You'll have better luck with these guys. Tyger is a great FF top, even though he doesn't promote himself as such.

I wasn't gonna ask to have the review removed because they know where I live! It's perfectly fine if you don't believe me and the others telling you it has happened, it does seem, idk, odd that we would all be in cahoots to lie about this., but I guess you know every provider that exists and that none would be so coked up their mind to demand and be aggressive about it. It's OK.

Here’s a screenshot of a direct message from a 5 star reviewer on RM.