Antares

What’s utterly bizarre to me is what started this thread: bottoms who refuse to be fucked with a condom. All through the HIV times before PrEP (which I consider an absolute miracle and am so grateful for) and up to just a few years ago if there was an objection to using a rubber, it was the top fighting it. Except for the “bug hunters,” which was a psychological malfunction I’ll never understand. There was never a question that wearing a condom changed the feeling of topping, although condoms have come a long way from my early days when a Trojan-Enz was as fancy as it got…with a good poly one these days you barely feel the difference. But as someone who was a 50/50 vers, I know damned well that it makes zero physical difference as a bottom. It’s totally a mental thing, and in the PrEP and undetectable era (also amazing how far HIV+ management meds have finally come) the dramatic reduction (but not elimination) in barebacking risk has just been fetishized. If being a cumdump is your thing, no problem, easy skip for me, just like water sports and whatever else I don’t care for. But freaking out if someone you’ve not said that to and started an encounter with because you wanted to fuck them is just weirdly childish. A little empathy and respect for those of us who lived through the sex is deadly ‘80s and ‘90s and self-awareness that bottoming bareback is just a preference and not some kind of moral stance worthy of a soapbox would be nice. For many of us, barebacking was an intimate thing reserved for a trusting serious relationship and wearing a condom is more comfortable for a hookup. Call that its own fetish if you want.

I’m on PrEP and use DoxyPEP, but still have a preference for using condoms. Pretty much won’t bottom without them, but I’ve had to get over it to some extent as more of a top. The BB attitude has just become too prevalent. Despite an ongoing jump in syphilis rates and lack of any protection against warts or herpes. Any “cumdump” bottoms or “breeder” tops are off the table and unattractive to me. side note: The breeder label is just cringeworthy to me, wish a better term had taken root. Just makes me think of animal husbandry. Plus it used to be a derogatory term used against straight people by our community, but at least made logical sense there. Kids these days, what ya gonna do ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Interesting, hadn’t even heard about this place. No photos of the facilities on their site doesn’t encourage me to check them out.

Absolutely my favorite, most repeated massage. True therapeutic skills (which always counts first and foremost for me). Lovely, kind human being. Always fills the time, if not a little bit extra. If you’re into full nudity and MT, you get it. I have issues with anorgasmia, but damn if he doesn’t try extra hard to give me a satisfying experience. I may not get to the destination, but I always enjoy the journey.

Guess I won’t be trying him, as he blocked me a while back on RM after I viewed his premium pics with my premium account (which triggers a message to the provider that someone viewed them). No idea why, to the best of memory we never once communicated. I was looking around to try someone outside of my usual guys. Some guys choose to proactively message premium visitors to pitch them with a little more info, but apparently if you view his pics without immediately contacting him he blocks you instead. Ummm…why have the pics if not for premium members to view and consider?

💯 +1 for Dusty! He does a fantastic job, always impressed by his attention to detail and he makes sure to listen to what it is you're looking for. And he's soooo sweet and cute! I started using him a couple of years ago when he was at Skin Care for Gents and followed him when he started his private practice out of his home.