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Well, I'm not sure about RM, but review posters on Daddy's are a relatively small subset of clients. A lot of escorts, especially those newer to the oldest profession, don't know about Daddy's. And a lot of clients don't know, either. Those of us who do know about Daddy's get a lot from the site. The rest don't know what they are missing. Before Rentboy and Rentmen, a lot of escorts encouraged clients to post reviews to Daddy's because the site not only validated them, it was an important means to introduce themselves to clients. Less so today. All of that is to say that you can't read too much into the lack of reviews beyond just that. In logic and law, there is a saying: the absence of evidence is not evidence.

Do you mean Daddy's reviews or RM reviews?

Waste of time in what sense? That you spent time/effort to reach him with no response? That he responded, but with a delay that didn't fit your timetable? Or that you met him and were disappointed in the encounter? Or, are you giving an opinion about his general lack of responsiveness based on the comments of other posters, not based on your own experience?

Just change your terminology - it's not a loan, it's a gift. If later on you get a gift in return, all the better, but never go into the equation expecting repayment and you'll have no regrets.

How far out of "central Boston"? Distance from the city would put a different spin on your initial post saying you were "in" Boston, contacted 18 guys, got only 4 responses . . .

We all have our own priorities, and our tolerances differ for different things. The reviews, and comments on this board, are helpful to provide information and then it's up to the (prospective) client. What you find intolerable may not be intolerable to another client. The prospective client is in the best position to determine what he should or should not tolerate, what provides him with "fun" and what is a "wise" way to spend his money.
 
Further, I'm not sure how failing to tolerate lack of prompt communication would result in an escorts change in approach, especially for someone like Alex who seems not to be dependent on a steady stream of clients and is basically testing the escort waters. (I wouldn't use your characterizations of "poor" and "disreptful" treatment, nor of "bad behavior")

We all have our own priorities, and our tolerances differ for different things. The reviews, and comments on this board, are helpful to provide information and then it's up to the (prospective) client. What you find intolerable may not be intolerable to another client. The prospective client is in the best position to determine what he should or should not tolerate, what provides him with "fun" and what is a "wise" way to spend his money.
 
Further, I'm not sure how failing to tolerate lack of prompt communication would result in an escorts change in approach, especially for someone like Alex who seems not to be dependent on a steady stream of clients and is basically testing the escort waters. (I wouldn't use your characterizations of "poor" and "disreptful" treatment, nor of "bad behavior")

First, before addressing your post, let me make a few things clear: (1) while this is a response to your post(s), I also disagree with the view expressed by others that hiring straight guys is safer than hiring gay guys; (2) I prefer hiring gay or bi guys, but for reasons other than a perception that it is safer to do so; and (3) I'm mostly disagreeing with the generalizations you've made about the probability that gay escorts are much less likely to threaten or harm you than are straight escorts. Now, to your post.
 
Just reread the thread you link. Funny thing, what you state "for the record" is essentially an opinion you and one other poster state. You state the opinion that straight guys are more likely to threaten or harm a client. And you base that opinion on a theory -- that straight guys who escort hate their jobs and would love to get out of it -- but that's also an opinion, not a fact. Your opinions form a nice circle, each supporting the other, but each depending on the other without independent proof of either. Citing the prior "lengthy" thread in which you posted the same opinion with the same paucity of evidence doesn't substantiate your claim in this thread. It's a clever tactic. Reminds me of when Dick Cheney had Scooter Libby plant a story in the New York Times about Iraq developing nuclear capabilities, Scooter getting the friendly reporter to describe him as a "former Hill staffer, rather than the VP's Chief of Staff, and then Cheney going on the Sunday shows saying, "Don't take my word for it. Look at the Times report." He was the Times report. (Please don't take umbrage to the fact that it was Cheney and you are liberal, as am I. It's the purest example to leap to mind.)
 
Undoubtedly, some straight escorts hate what they're doing. Some gay escorts hate what they are doing too. Some are manipulative, thieving and/or violent. The escort who stole from me happened to be gay. He didn't do so because he hated his job due to being straight. He was desperate for money and didn't care how he got it or who he hurt.
 
I will grant you that there are several high profile cases of straight guys killing gay benefactors. They were former porn performers who either cultivated or were cultivated by wealthy gay men. The murderers all were looking to grab a huge amount of cash. Greed and being sociopaths fed those murders, not a desire to stop doing the jobs they so hated.
 
Bottom line: hiring an escort, whether straight or gay, exposes you to certain risks. This site helps. But rather than stake claims about the likelihood of harm from straight vs. gay escorts, we should all be mindful of the risks that we take in hiring either gay or straight escorts.

There precious little to support the notion that straight escorts or gay escorts are more likely than the other to engage in threats. We all know of examples of straight/G4P escorts engaging in threats or reprisals and we know of gay escorts doing so (think Austin Wild and Jarec Wentworth). There are others still whose sexuality is too difficult to categorize or whose pshychotic behavior is simply attributable to sexual identity, repression, etc. (think Brodie Sinclair).
 
Whatever the root cause, this whole Collin episode is a stark reminder that we (escorts and clients) face all sorts of risks simply because our liaisons are outside the law. Sites like Daddy's do a great service in helping to mitigate those risks, but they cannot be eliminated. Caveat emptor.

There precious little to support the notion that straight escorts or gay escorts are more likely than the other to engage in threats. We all know of examples of straight/G4P escorts engaging in threats or reprisals and we know of gay escorts doing so (think Austin Wild and Jarec Wentworth). There are others still whose sexuality is too difficult to categorize or whose pshychotic behavior is simply attributable to sexual identity, repression, etc. (think Brodie Sinclair).
 
Whatever the root cause, this whole Collin episode is a stark reminder that we (escorts and clients) face all sorts of risks simply because our liaisons are outside the law. Sites like Daddy's do a great service in helping to mitigate those risks, but they cannot be eliminated. Caveat emptor.

I did. My bad. Austin Wild doesn't seem the type to escort or out clients. Side note, met Austin Wild once. I was having breakfast with friends he knew and he joined us. Nice guy. I lived in NYC at the time, and there were signs featuring Austin in Manhunt adverts including one near my apartment that I passed on the way to that breakfast.

There precious little to support the notion that straight escorts or gay escorts are more likely than the other to engage in threats. We all know of examples of straight/G4P escorts engaging in threats or reprisals and we know of gay escorts doing so (think Austin Wild and Jarec Wentworth). There are others still whose sexuality is too difficult to categorize or whose pshychotic behavior is simply attributable to sexual identity, repression, etc. (think Brodie Sinclair).
 
Whatever the root cause, this whole Collin episode is a stark reminder that we (escorts and clients) face all sorts of risks simply because our liaisons are outside the law. Sites like Daddy's do a great service in helping to mitigate those risks, but they cannot be eliminated. Caveat emptor.

Collin needed an editor before posting his response. Grammatical errors aside, I doubt an attorney would allow his or her client to post threats. Collin might want to reconisder to whom his $5,000.00 should go; a different type of counselor (as opposed to legal) comes to mind. No sarcasm intended.

Here again, the response tells more than the review. First, the threats against Daddy embody serious crimes -- threats of harm to person and property, and extortion by trying to leverage the threats to spike the unfavorable review. Second, "Collin" is deluded if he thinks he has a strong legal case for defamation. The courts won't protect against reputational damage to one's illegal business. And Collin's response colors any claim for harm to reputation because his threats do more damage to his rep than the review.
 
Daddy did us a great service by publishing the review and the response.

Here again, the response tells more than the review. First, the threats against Daddy embody serious crimes -- threats of harm to person and property, and extortion by trying to leverage the threats to spike the unfavorable review. Second, "Collin" is deluded if he thinks he has a strong legal case for defamation. The courts won't protect against reputational damage to one's illegal business. And Collin's response colors any claim for harm to reputation because his threats do more damage to his rep than the review.
 
Daddy did us a great service by publishing the review and the response.

Here again, the response tells more than the review. First, the threats against Daddy embody serious crimes -- threats of harm to person and property, and extortion by trying to leverage the threats to spike the unfavorable review. Second, "Collin" is deluded if he thinks he has a strong legal case for defamation. The courts won't protect against reputational damage to one's illegal business. And Collin's response colors any claim for harm to reputation because his threats do more damage to his rep than the review.
 
Daddy did us a great service by publishing the review and the response.

I read this as a miscommunication, not a ghosting. As you say, he was to "confirm" the next morning, thus you did not have an arrangement made, you had a proposal yet to be finalized. He should have let you know anyway, but I don't see this as the same as flaking on a set appointment.
 
Also, your scenario differs from the earlier poster who was to confirm and did not do so until perilously close to the appointed time.
 
I understand that delays happen. I tend to hire for multiple hours. If I am running late, I always contact the escort to let him know I've been delayed, and to alert him to my ETA. Because they've set aside more hours for the appointment, I've never had a problem so long as I promptly communicate about the delay.

As far as I'm concerned he can talk any way he damn well likes!

lol you know the end is near when there is nazi fetishism on a gay message board. im not judging because i know jewish clients who have worshipped the real ones with swastikas and hitler tats so this is sanitary.

Huh? You hire for a massage and he gives you a massage. You want more, say so. It's reasonable (and respectful) of him to not assume he should go beyond the massage unless you ask him to (preferably in advance). (And by "you", I mean the client generically, not AndyDandy, who I presume was commenting on another client's experience rather than speaking from personal experience.)

But what some of us are discussing isn't 'being attractive' or 'attracted to,' but the nuts and bolts of having sex with or as a larger person.
 
Depending on someone's size, it can be problematic and if that's the case, I think it's wise for a client to disclose that up front.
 
I fully agree that escorts are here to fulfill a variety of specific needs, but so that we're able to successfully, we need to know what we're walking into. I think a quick, frank email or discussion is never a bad thing.

Your first post was borderline offensive. This one is flat-out offensive with the border nowhere in sight. If you communicate with escorts in the same way you do in those posts, or with anyone really, I'd expect a cold response back at you.

Here:
 
Basic sex according to the OP.
(the thread was rightfully closed by the Mgt. because it was too nasty)
 
Never trust an escorts who wants to get high in order to have sex with you.
 
Site where clients can post: $100 A.S.A.P. bb bottom... a bargaining site!
 
and the final pearl:
 

 
No strange is the fact that some dared to BB before PrEP!
 
wearing a condom unnatural? If we all have done it till PrEP arrive HIV would be history!
 
Well, before PrEP if you didn't use a condom it wasn't a question of IF you were going to get HIV but when... Sounds logical to me! People who BB between the 80's (once is was known how folks got it) and PrEP where playing:
 

Your first post was borderline offensive. This one is flat-out offensive with the border nowhere in sight. If you communicate with escorts in the same way you do in those posts, or with anyone really, I'd expect a cold response back at you.

Yes, escorts are pummeled all day long with emails and txts from creeps, flakes, drunks/druggies, time wasters and jack-offs (people who are getting off on the interaction alone with no intention of hiring). Time is money. Advice (since you asked): Get the deal done in 3 txts max. Txt1: Hello is this (his name), (your name) here. Love your profile. [this is to confirm you ate txting the right person B4 getting into details] Txt2: Hey thanks. Looking for the following: (describe concisely your scenario including location date/time), are we a match? Txt3: Thanks, sounds hot. Can you confirm your rate for (times)? If you stick with this formula, they will know you are for real and not one of the above. And they will be thankful you are being respectful of their time. A few more txts is OK especially as you get close to comfirm. Remember this is a business transaction not a relationship. You wouldn't call the car dealership 500 times before buying the car.