Cody Ramsuer

I’ll be 82 in a couple of months and I’m still raring to go. True, the body parts are wearing out and nothing works quite the way it used to. But, a couple of weeks between orgasms, a couple of viagra, a couple of a hundred dollars, and the right provider do the trick. I have always been a chicken hawk,  and today “chicken” for me is definitely someone over 30…or more…someone who has been around the block a couple of times, who understands they are not god’s gift to the world, who are skillful at what they do, who understand that they are in business and each of us have a role in the transaction. My role is to respect them and their work, to be flexible in setting up appointments as with any professional, to be clear on what I am buying, to pay the fee asked, to show up on time clean and prepared, to be complimentary as appropriate, to express gratitude for a service well rendered, to write positive reviews on their ad page and on COM, and to be a loyal repeat client. In the situations where it works best, I have become the old guncle who shares whatever wisdom I have gained in a long life and they share the excitement of youth and change. With the right person that goes beyond sagging tits and a limp dick. 

Nice replies here. There’s no age limit, it just depends how you feel. The right provider won’t care about your age. What matters most is your attitude. It also doesn’t matter if you don’t get hard. I’ve older clients who don’t get hard, some don’t cum (medical reasons) but they still have a great time. Everyone wants to feel special sometimes don’t they? The right provider will get off on making you feel special, that’s why they do the job. 

That’s going to vary a lot. “Too old” isn’t a number so much as it is about what you want out of the encounter. If the goal is penetrative sex, the body might set limits sooner. But if the goal is companionship, touch, conversation, or even one-way pleasure like a blowjob or massage, age really isn’t a disqualifier. It just depends on your objectives and what makes the experience meaningful for you.

One of the things that has affected people of all ages who are interested in making new friends is the development of social media, like the site on which you raised this topic. More and more people are sitting at home in front of their computers rather than physically interacting in person. Most of the people on this site who I think of as "friends," because I interact with them online regularly and know a lot about their personalities and beliefs, but I don't even know their real names and could walk past them on the street without recognizing them.  I don't want to deny the importance of this kind of friend, but it is not the same as a friend whom I could call to get together for lunch or ask for a ride to the doctor. Going to a movie with a friend and discussing it afterwards is not the same as commenting about it here, although both may be satisfying experiences. When I moved to a strange new place where I knew no one, I found the best way to make new friends was to join groups where I could interact with others who had a similar interest. For my spouse it was volunteering at a place which helped people who were recovering from a stroke, an experience which he could understand. For me it was joining a tennis club and learning how to play a sport which I had never tried before. We all need real friends as much as, or even more than, Internet friends.

It does get harder.  When I was young, friendships formed with people who were all in the same situation as I was.  College, job, you name it.  We bonded out of common interests and difficulties.  Finding people with the same interests later in life has been more difficult.  It’s compounded by my disinterest in bonding over “things”—sports, superhero movies, etc—and my desire to form connections over common feelings, attitudes, and, yes, emotions.  Joining clubs related to hobbies won’t necessarily provide that.  Mens groups geared toward inner thoughts and desires might help but those are hard to find. Sorry, I realize I’m just commiserating….

This is really the sort of thing a good psychotherapist can help with. He can be someone you can also pay to be real, open, and vulnerable with, but the outcome will be greater self awareness. 

I think of Connie Francis every time I plan travel to Ft Lauderdale.  She was beautiful. 
 
 

Didn't know she was still alive. She was 87.

In the desert, home to so many retirees, seeing a "hot" young guy is a rarity. So enjoy Chelsea!

Me @ 53. Don’t have Beckham’s muscles. Don’t want his tats. But i do work out and try to take care of myself. It’s all just a numbers game i guess  

Spring fever ?
Any competent investor knows how to weather a correction in the market.
Real Estate is a great place to be right now. Rental income is way up due to a collapsed dollar. Crashing the stock market will slow the economy and force the Fed to lower interest rates. Lower rates will create a wider spread on Real Estate investments and bring increased profit. But these cycles take months. So personally I would love the market to crash. Right now it's just a correction from overblown hype. Hardly a "crash".
But there are certainly more than a few people with money in the markets who are ill prepared to understand a long range strategy ..so those types will indeed, panic and lower their spending in response.
The smart person with the right diversity and understanding of the opportunity that comes from downward movement will be forecasting an INCREASED income.
Escorts and masseurs can be viewed as an Indulgence or as a necessity for your overall mental health. To me...if your entire sex life is based on hiring, I would equate cutting back on escort spending as an example of the old "deciding between medicine and food" trope.  Sad that your retirement strategy was so poorly planned that you worry about a simple market correction.

I’ve had great times with Jack DixonXXX and Brock Hart there when visiting.  Both are a great time in the sack.  Jack gives a helluva a massage too. I’ve traveled a couple times with Brock, always sweet and one tall drink of water!  He’s like the linebacker of my dreams but with a great mix of man and teddy bear.   And as a classically trained pianist, his hands are indeed talented in many ways.  

The best kind of music? The sound of my partner, completely lost in the moment, moaning, grunting, and enjoying every second. That’s the soundtrack I’m after.

Thought I'd bring this topic up about any 'dressing room encounters' we've had over the years, either with other customers or with sales associates. I'll start off with one that still sticks in my mind 40 years later, because of a book I recently found...
Chess King - I used to shop there in my college years when I was a young unsure, nervous gayling. There was a guy there who had to be about five years older than me who was a salesman (and later made it up to manager). I had such a crush on him - looked like a very young Adrien Brody (AB didn't happen for years later, but he had his sexy look of his younger days). Anytime I went in the store I always said 'Hi' to him, and he would help me pick out clothes - I think he knew I had a crush on him (I think a lot of guys who went in there had a crush on him) and I trusted his fashion sense for me. I remember his name was Ricky. 
At one point, when he was the manager, he would help me pick out some clothes and then offer to bring them in the dressing room in the back of the store for me . After a few weeks / visits of 'starting a dressing room for me', he stayed in the dressing room with me to see how the clothes fit. I was so nervous undressing in front of this gorgeous older guy, and got quite the boner in my underwear.  After a number of these visits, he finally came closer with the pair of jeans I was going to try on, and then put his fingers in the waist band of my underwear and pulled them open so he could look in. I didn't say anything nor moved him away - I just looked at his cute face looking down at my erection and his open shirt with the light strands of hair on his chest. The tip of my dick was nearly touching my navel. He winked,  let go of the waistband, gave me my pants and smiled, and left the dressing room. Later, he cashed me out and winked at me. He then gave me his card with his name printed on it and scribbled down his home phone number and whispered for me to call him. I remember I almost passed out. I didn't have the confidence to call him, so I stuck his card in a book I was reading when I got home, and that was that.
It took me months to finally return to that location to do some shopping, and he was gone. There was a new manager there, and when I asked for Ricky he said he went to a new location at another mall about an hour away. Ehhh.
Recently, I came across the books I had bought in the 1980s (I was always going to read them in the summer) when I was cleaning out my basement. I found his card he gave me back then  and my mind went back forty years to the CK dressing room. I decided to 'Google him' and he came up on LinkedIn - I could tell it was him by the photos. Still a good looking guy (now in his mid-60s?), definitely gained a little weight which suits him, and working in management for a major department store in the metro Boston area. (He does list his years with Chess King from 1980 - when they closed in 1995, then went to the department store shortly after). Maybe I should go visit the store some day and ask him for help in the dressing room ? 

About 140 since the turn of the millennium. Originally it was just a handfu each years. But since vaccinations ended the pandemic, it's increased to about twice a month (because life's short, touch is essential, and I can afford it!).

I have a regular masseur that  I visit here in Dallas weekly and I have grown feelings towards. He will kiss me at the end of the massage and it feels very intimate. I have never been kissed like that and by far the best kisser I have ever encountered. I like him so much that maybe the intimacy part is giving me false hope or he is just really good at what he does and is just providing me a service that he may provide to others as well. That being said, I would really like to ask him on a proper date. Is that against masseur/client etiquette? Would it be offensive to him to offer compensation for the time off the table?  I know he does not do escort work so I would never want to offend him or make it awkward but I also want to respect his time. Can you guys please advise. Thank you in advance! 

I've met him and the appointment actually occurred. The development he lives in is filled with a series of nearly identical units. A visitor would be hard-pressed to locate a specific unit. If memory serves, there are no unit numbers on the buildings (I could be wrong - met him four years ago). So, he has you park in a parking area just outside of the development, call or text, and stay in the car until he arrives. Having met him in April, staying in the car was fine as it wasn't 110 degrees out. In Summer, one would need to keep the AC on else they would suffocate.
 

Yes. We had a lot of fun. It isn't like he makes you wait for 20 minutes before coming out. He walks out his door and walks over to where your car is. It is similar to someone texting me from the lobby of my building and me coming down to get them.
 
When someone visits me for the first time I give them instructions for how to get to the building's elevator lobby because it is not located at the building's physical address, which is the management office. Because parking is tough and the visitor parking requires a temporary parking pass, I have to provide instructions for parking, too.

https://rentmasseur.com/KCbodyworks
I’m surprised that no one has ever mentioned him here. He is magical. KC gave me the best experience EVER and no one has come close to topping the experience he provided.
 
Anyone looking for a masseurs and a good time in Phoenix, I highly, no…only recommend KC. Great massage and full service. Hot body like a Greek god. He does this professionally, not just hustling like a lot of the guys on the site. Don’t take my word for it. Read all of his reviews. Anyone else had a session with KC, I’d like to hear about it. 

*Also, I’m not KC. So please don’t comment that he is in the forum.
 

No, but he is very handsome.  

Ari Melber
 

I decided to follow up on my own inquiry about Brett, from earlier this year, by contacting him the next time I was visiting the Phoenix area. He was friendly and amenable in our texts, and we set an appointment. It was a long haul from my hotel (35-40 minutes) but, as it turned out, well worth it. He has a lovely, calming massage space in his house. He was in a T-shirt and shorts, but as I was undressing I asked if he was also going to be naked, and he responded that he would if I wanted him to. Although he inquired about my comfort level with his pressure as well as with the room temperature, we didn’t speak much.
The massage was one of the best I’ve ever had, very thorough - from head to toe - and just the right amount of pressure for my taste. As the massage proceeded I thought it was going to be strictly therapeutic, but it turned out that this wasn’t the case. I hope to see Brett again the next time I’m in the area.

The only thing limiting you is your own creativity! I like to encourage clients to imagine what they would want for longer sessions. Massage, working out together, playing video games, shopping, meals, Jamie’s bathhouse idea…the possibilities are endless. Then of course there’s always the simple cuddle and conversation approach, which is always nice.
Clients vary in their sexual and non-sexual needs and desires. What works for one client in an hour may work better for you in two. You might enjoy quick (and perhaps multiple) rounds, or going for a long stretch at a time with a lot of buildup, and perhaps some breaks, or alternating back and forth between activities. Some clients really like extended edging, for example, which takes a considerable amount of session time.
Sometimes things change in a session. You thought you wanted one thing, but emotionally and physically you feel like doing something else in the moment, so you pivot, and that’s ok. A good pro Iwill roll with it. The most important thing is that you’re getting the experience you want and that you’re satisfied, no matter how long or short the session. The key is to know yourself well enough to budget enough time, which gives you the emotional space to fully enjoy the experience. These things cost a lot of money. You want to savor it.
There is no one-size-fits all. You’re in total control of the session and responsible for communicating your needs to your provider. Doing so maximizes the value of your hiring time.

I sleep with my husband and our dog every night. There's no room for anyone else. 
Plus I don't really want to have sex three times in twelve hours. And I'm not a great sleeper, so you'd not want to share a bed with me. 

Did you get to play with his extremely oversized endowment?

I also had the chance of meeting with him. I was happy I caught him during his short stint in NY. ☺️