Cody Ramsuer

This is really the sort of thing a good psychotherapist can help with. He can be someone you can also pay to be real, open, and vulnerable with, but the outcome will be greater self awareness. 

I think of Connie Francis every time I plan travel to Ft Lauderdale.  She was beautiful. 
 
 

Didn't know she was still alive. She was 87.

In the desert, home to so many retirees, seeing a "hot" young guy is a rarity. So enjoy Chelsea!

Me @ 53. Don’t have Beckham’s muscles. Don’t want his tats. But i do work out and try to take care of myself. It’s all just a numbers game i guess  

Spring fever ?
Any competent investor knows how to weather a correction in the market.
Real Estate is a great place to be right now. Rental income is way up due to a collapsed dollar. Crashing the stock market will slow the economy and force the Fed to lower interest rates. Lower rates will create a wider spread on Real Estate investments and bring increased profit. But these cycles take months. So personally I would love the market to crash. Right now it's just a correction from overblown hype. Hardly a "crash".
But there are certainly more than a few people with money in the markets who are ill prepared to understand a long range strategy ..so those types will indeed, panic and lower their spending in response.
The smart person with the right diversity and understanding of the opportunity that comes from downward movement will be forecasting an INCREASED income.
Escorts and masseurs can be viewed as an Indulgence or as a necessity for your overall mental health. To me...if your entire sex life is based on hiring, I would equate cutting back on escort spending as an example of the old "deciding between medicine and food" trope.  Sad that your retirement strategy was so poorly planned that you worry about a simple market correction.

I’ve had great times with Jack DixonXXX and Brock Hart there when visiting.  Both are a great time in the sack.  Jack gives a helluva a massage too. I’ve traveled a couple times with Brock, always sweet and one tall drink of water!  He’s like the linebacker of my dreams but with a great mix of man and teddy bear.   And as a classically trained pianist, his hands are indeed talented in many ways.  

The best kind of music? The sound of my partner, completely lost in the moment, moaning, grunting, and enjoying every second. That’s the soundtrack I’m after.

Thought I'd bring this topic up about any 'dressing room encounters' we've had over the years, either with other customers or with sales associates. I'll start off with one that still sticks in my mind 40 years later, because of a book I recently found...
Chess King - I used to shop there in my college years when I was a young unsure, nervous gayling. There was a guy there who had to be about five years older than me who was a salesman (and later made it up to manager). I had such a crush on him - looked like a very young Adrien Brody (AB didn't happen for years later, but he had his sexy look of his younger days). Anytime I went in the store I always said 'Hi' to him, and he would help me pick out clothes - I think he knew I had a crush on him (I think a lot of guys who went in there had a crush on him) and I trusted his fashion sense for me. I remember his name was Ricky. 
At one point, when he was the manager, he would help me pick out some clothes and then offer to bring them in the dressing room in the back of the store for me . After a few weeks / visits of 'starting a dressing room for me', he stayed in the dressing room with me to see how the clothes fit. I was so nervous undressing in front of this gorgeous older guy, and got quite the boner in my underwear.  After a number of these visits, he finally came closer with the pair of jeans I was going to try on, and then put his fingers in the waist band of my underwear and pulled them open so he could look in. I didn't say anything nor moved him away - I just looked at his cute face looking down at my erection and his open shirt with the light strands of hair on his chest. The tip of my dick was nearly touching my navel. He winked,  let go of the waistband, gave me my pants and smiled, and left the dressing room. Later, he cashed me out and winked at me. He then gave me his card with his name printed on it and scribbled down his home phone number and whispered for me to call him. I remember I almost passed out. I didn't have the confidence to call him, so I stuck his card in a book I was reading when I got home, and that was that.
It took me months to finally return to that location to do some shopping, and he was gone. There was a new manager there, and when I asked for Ricky he said he went to a new location at another mall about an hour away. Ehhh.
Recently, I came across the books I had bought in the 1980s (I was always going to read them in the summer) when I was cleaning out my basement. I found his card he gave me back then  and my mind went back forty years to the CK dressing room. I decided to 'Google him' and he came up on LinkedIn - I could tell it was him by the photos. Still a good looking guy (now in his mid-60s?), definitely gained a little weight which suits him, and working in management for a major department store in the metro Boston area. (He does list his years with Chess King from 1980 - when they closed in 1995, then went to the department store shortly after). Maybe I should go visit the store some day and ask him for help in the dressing room ? 

About 140 since the turn of the millennium. Originally it was just a handfu each years. But since vaccinations ended the pandemic, it's increased to about twice a month (because life's short, touch is essential, and I can afford it!).

I have a regular masseur that  I visit here in Dallas weekly and I have grown feelings towards. He will kiss me at the end of the massage and it feels very intimate. I have never been kissed like that and by far the best kisser I have ever encountered. I like him so much that maybe the intimacy part is giving me false hope or he is just really good at what he does and is just providing me a service that he may provide to others as well. That being said, I would really like to ask him on a proper date. Is that against masseur/client etiquette? Would it be offensive to him to offer compensation for the time off the table?  I know he does not do escort work so I would never want to offend him or make it awkward but I also want to respect his time. Can you guys please advise. Thank you in advance! 

I've met him and the appointment actually occurred. The development he lives in is filled with a series of nearly identical units. A visitor would be hard-pressed to locate a specific unit. If memory serves, there are no unit numbers on the buildings (I could be wrong - met him four years ago). So, he has you park in a parking area just outside of the development, call or text, and stay in the car until he arrives. Having met him in April, staying in the car was fine as it wasn't 110 degrees out. In Summer, one would need to keep the AC on else they would suffocate.
 

Yes. We had a lot of fun. It isn't like he makes you wait for 20 minutes before coming out. He walks out his door and walks over to where your car is. It is similar to someone texting me from the lobby of my building and me coming down to get them.
 
When someone visits me for the first time I give them instructions for how to get to the building's elevator lobby because it is not located at the building's physical address, which is the management office. Because parking is tough and the visitor parking requires a temporary parking pass, I have to provide instructions for parking, too.

https://rentmasseur.com/KCbodyworks
I’m surprised that no one has ever mentioned him here. He is magical. KC gave me the best experience EVER and no one has come close to topping the experience he provided.
 
Anyone looking for a masseurs and a good time in Phoenix, I highly, no…only recommend KC. Great massage and full service. Hot body like a Greek god. He does this professionally, not just hustling like a lot of the guys on the site. Don’t take my word for it. Read all of his reviews. Anyone else had a session with KC, I’d like to hear about it. 

*Also, I’m not KC. So please don’t comment that he is in the forum.
 

No, but he is very handsome.  

Ari Melber
 

I decided to follow up on my own inquiry about Brett, from earlier this year, by contacting him the next time I was visiting the Phoenix area. He was friendly and amenable in our texts, and we set an appointment. It was a long haul from my hotel (35-40 minutes) but, as it turned out, well worth it. He has a lovely, calming massage space in his house. He was in a T-shirt and shorts, but as I was undressing I asked if he was also going to be naked, and he responded that he would if I wanted him to. Although he inquired about my comfort level with his pressure as well as with the room temperature, we didn’t speak much.
The massage was one of the best I’ve ever had, very thorough - from head to toe - and just the right amount of pressure for my taste. As the massage proceeded I thought it was going to be strictly therapeutic, but it turned out that this wasn’t the case. I hope to see Brett again the next time I’m in the area.

The only thing limiting you is your own creativity! I like to encourage clients to imagine what they would want for longer sessions. Massage, working out together, playing video games, shopping, meals, Jamie’s bathhouse idea…the possibilities are endless. Then of course there’s always the simple cuddle and conversation approach, which is always nice.
Clients vary in their sexual and non-sexual needs and desires. What works for one client in an hour may work better for you in two. You might enjoy quick (and perhaps multiple) rounds, or going for a long stretch at a time with a lot of buildup, and perhaps some breaks, or alternating back and forth between activities. Some clients really like extended edging, for example, which takes a considerable amount of session time.
Sometimes things change in a session. You thought you wanted one thing, but emotionally and physically you feel like doing something else in the moment, so you pivot, and that’s ok. A good pro Iwill roll with it. The most important thing is that you’re getting the experience you want and that you’re satisfied, no matter how long or short the session. The key is to know yourself well enough to budget enough time, which gives you the emotional space to fully enjoy the experience. These things cost a lot of money. You want to savor it.
There is no one-size-fits all. You’re in total control of the session and responsible for communicating your needs to your provider. Doing so maximizes the value of your hiring time.

I sleep with my husband and our dog every night. There's no room for anyone else. 
Plus I don't really want to have sex three times in twelve hours. And I'm not a great sleeper, so you'd not want to share a bed with me. 

Did you get to play with his extremely oversized endowment?

I also had the chance of meeting with him. I was happy I caught him during his short stint in NY. ☺️

Despite his sponsor flaking out, Mark came to NYC on his own dime, so that's a good sign. I like an indomitable man. We met this afternoon and we had a great time. He's a very nice guy, hence the screen name. He's got a beaut of a body and a handsome smiling face. 

I like to ask them how many clients they have seen earlier that day or last few days.  It is super hot to know how many guys  they are with.  

met him on trip to PHX. easy and clear communications, on time, not a clock watcher. Minimal at massage but made up for it in other skills. I enjoyed our time together and was very satisfied, will connect again. Physically reminded me of Brit pornstar Gabriel Cross, but less muscular.

The needs of different clients regarding the “Boyfriend Experience” are multifold. Most want penetrative sex as part of the experience, maybe some only want oral or fetish play as the sexual component. Sometimes no sex at all, but usually some form of sex. Often the BFE is geared toward more kissing and hugging and physical intimacy in addition to the sex itself. But all BFE clients have needs beyond sex - for companionship, understanding, compassion, connection, and acceptance. That may come in the form of conversation over dinner or sharing in the client’s non-sexual hobby. Cuddling in bed before/after. Being seen, heard and respected.
One of my clients sees me for a combination of things. He likes to be massaged for part of his time which is great. I spank him and he ultimately gets off to that part which is how we typically end, but most importantly he sees me to kiss, cuddle, and to be held. We spend most of the session with me holding him in various close contact positions, and he weeps while I do. We alternate between moments of pleasure and moments of comfort, me holding him as he emotes. He likes to be physically dominated, and simulated sex is part of that (basically elements of frottage and wrestling), maybe some teasing his hole with my fingers and mouth here and there, but no actual penetration, says he doesn’t want it. Occasionally he likes to give oral. Those are the most traditional escort-y things we do. The real value to him is what we do beyond those. I don’t pry, but I know that he is a full time caretaker to his older husband and seeing me is his means of relief and reprieve, a sense of escape, and a place for him to relax and be himself. In fact, he often says “thank you for letting me be me”. 
Perhaps some of his need is to mourn the loss of his husband and by extension, loss of sex and a life with relative freedom. My client is clearly very sad and going through loss, even though his husband is still alive. In a way, it’s more difficult to cope because his husband lives on with a very limited physical capacity, leaving my client all the responsibility of marriage without any of the benefits. It’s sad. Seeing me gives him some sense of peace and comfort. For someone to take care of my client for a change. This is just one version of many constituting the “boyfriend experience”. Everyone is a bit different.

I contacted him about a year ago. He wrote back a fairly explicit description of what to expect if I hired him. IIRC, I didn’t ask him specifically about sensual/erotic but his reply was along the lines of $200 for sensual (mutual nudity, touching, HE) and $300 for everything beyond that. Sorry, but $300 was too much, especially considering he doesn’t post any nude photos of himself. Yeah, he’s extremely lean and muscular, but before spending $300 I’d like to see the full package up front.
I’m definitely curious, though, if anyone else on here has hired him and what the experience was like. Feel free to PM me, if you care to spill.