Sinclaire

You need to get out of the house more...

Speaking for myself I’ve tried both and find masseurs more reliable in that I get what I pay for. 

A total guess on my part , but I always have assumed RM shows the expired profile if the provider simply stopped paying the monthly RM fee and shows an error or “page not found” message if the provider literally completely deletes their membership.

I enter their contact info and RM profile URL in a google contacts file.  Those saved URLs are hit and miss. Sometimes they show the expired profile and sometimes they show an error or “page not found” message.

I was not very clear. My first meet up with a new friend is usually just for drink drinks and or dinner. Nothing more. After that, it’s easily half a day to a couple of days.  Always at my hotel. I get them their own room if it is overnight. I do stock it with snacks and drinks if they’ve told me what they like. But during the day I always have running around in my head “are they enjoying themselves, are they having a good time?” I always ask them for input into lunch and dinner and daily activities. And I enjoy doing all of that. And I do like to see them happy. But I always have a nagging thought in the back of the head, “are they enjoying themselves? What else should I be doing?” and that can sometimes interfere with my asking them For some more private things I might enjoy doing with them or to them that I’m not sure about. 

I’m the same! When I meet a provider that I like, and in a hotel room, I typically bring favorite beverages and snacks….and if I host at home for my favorite guy, I go grocery shopping and take him sightseeing! It gives me pleasure to see the guys I like a lot happy! And they in turn want to see me again, and probably gives me priority status on availability!

I always tell them in advance, whether traveling or at my home…they will be afforded the respect of a guest and their comfort will be my responsibility.
Its not a weight because I screen them In advance through video call and I ask them to research the city for anything they’d love to see/do   That makes it a shared burden but still skewed toward me
It’s my nature as well and I’d not have it any other way 

I do not hire often, but whenever I do, I always switch into “host” mode and treat my escort as a “guest”. It’s just how I was brought up! I see him as company. Of course I want to treat everyone with the respect they deserve. But it can get in the way of asking for things I might like for fear of offense. Or worse, I ask them what they would like. I still generally have a good time, it’s just always a weight on my shoulders.Anybody else have this trouble? I’d love to hear from providers and clients who might have thoughts on this. Thanks!

There's a telegram group that exists solely for muscle worshippers to discuss and recommend service providers.
It seems to be going well from what I've seen and the have multiple threads for different languages and countries. 
Almost all of the service providers are people that have been directly recommended for the group. 

I've never hired anyone through that chat group but it looks like a lot of other people have.

i don't know about the race element but i can say when it comes to porn stars that i follow (mostly tops) when i see them do a bottom video it does make me not like them as much.  With the bottoms that i follow when i see them top it doesn't give me the ick in the same way.  
probably internal misogyny going on there. 

I don't particularly care about the justifications or hypotheticals. I'm still gonna be rightfully annoyed if I reach out to someone who says they're available and then I get radio silence.

If you're booked and not able to readily change your availability, then just don't use the feature.
 

I don't particularly care about the justifications or hypotheticals. I'm still gonna be rightfully annoyed if I reach out to someone who says they're available and then I get radio silence.

If you're booked and not able to readily change your availability, then just don't use the feature.
 

Then they weren't actually available and shouldn't have labeled themselves as if they were.
I have a different texting relationship with my friends than I do with people I'm attempting to hire to perform a service. I'm not even saying that they have to reply, just don't label yourself as available if you're not.

 

These are the unintended consequences of civil rights.  Somethings are just better the way they were: Separate but Equal

I've literally messaged 3 different "available now" providers almost an hour ago asking for more info and not a single one has responded 🤣
Lol, why is this so difficult?! Like, I get that everyone is busy but man I can't catch a break

I've literally messaged 3 different "available now" providers almost an hour ago asking for more info and not a single one has responded 🤣
Lol, why is this so difficult?! Like, I get that everyone is busy but man I can't catch a break

Not quite a bodybuilder but well-built:  https://rentmen.eu/BattleCat

I believe the reference is to District of Columbia, Maryland and Virgnia

Three different experiences with three different masseurs over the years.
1) Excellent masseur who I had been seeing for several years for erotic massages. One time I called up for an appointment, and he said something like: "I have to tell you I am in therapy and my therapist and I have agreed I am not doing erotic massages any more, just therapeutic. If you don't want to see me anymore that is absolutely fine, and I can even recommend someone else who is very good and does erotic massages." I said that was fine, that I was happy to get his excellent therapeutic massages. I got two or three strictly therapeutic massages, and then he was back to full service. He simply needed to know that at least some people valued him for his massage skills, and not just sex...that he was regarded as a professional masseur not an escort. When he saw that was true, he and his therapist were fine with him doing erotic massages. 
2) Another excellent regular, who only advertised therapeutic and sensual, not erotic. After my first massage that ended with a HE, I said I would write a review. He said "Please only say sensual, not erotic. I am here on a student visa and have a government scholarship, and I don't want to jeopardize them." He was from a country with different laws and societal expectations. Fair enough. I assume most if not all of his clients got the full service. He just needed to feel safe. 
3) Yet another excellent regular from another country, whose every massage was "therapeutic, sensual and erotic" in his own words. One time as I was leaving he got a text from a former client who wanted to stop by for 10 minutes for a BJ. For language-skill reasons, he asked me to check his reply, which was "No I will not do that. I prefer to do massage." Again, he needed to feel that clients are coming to see him for his professional massage skills, not only for sex, even though every massage includes sexual acts. 
Life is complicated and human beings are complicated. We all rationalize some things that may not be rational on the surface. What is important is for everyone to appreciate that understanding, direct honest communication and empathy go a long way. 
That being said, at some point this masseur acquired a live-in boyfriend, who was living off the masseur's income, and then complaining about the source of the money. One day I arrived and the masseur said that the bf didn't like him doing massages in the nude, that he was leaving his bikini underwear on. I said that was nuts...that the bf was living off the income from the sexual services, was ok or at least resigned to the erotic massages, but wanted his bf to hide the family jewels? I said, "Just tell him you're leaving the bikini on when you are with a client, and then do what you want. You don't have to tell your bf everything...everyone has secrets." He said, "I can? Oh wow. I didn't know I could do that." Off came the bikini and he happily continues to provide the nude interactive services as before. Ah, an inexperienced youth. 

If a massage provider decides to take certain options off the table, you can decide to take your business elsewhere or continue under the new arrangement.  If you were a previous customer you could ask if erotic was still available for you or not, but realize their reasons are their own.  Whether the provider's reasons are for personal relationships or something else IS. NONE. OF. YOUR. BUSINESS. You're paying for a rub and maybe a tug, not a right to their personal life beyond what they choose to share.