NipLuvr212

The American Dream™️was a fictional construct invented by those with a lot of money to add a sheen of ordinariness to greed, and for motivating workers to be productive and compliant in exchange for future security. In general, most people who have (had) access to education and apply (applied) themselves to maximize its usefulness, wound up doing a little better than their parents, financially. It's a natural result of 'growth' in a capitalist system. It was, anyway, until the 80's when the government was persuaded to reduce the burden of America's operating budget only on those with the most money.
The wealth gap that has grown since then has nullified all the old formulas of calculating lower and middle class financial success. For 95% of Americans now, where you began is where you finish. Born poor, die poor. Born rich, die richer. 

agreed - and it was never anything other than an "honorary" status which could be revoked much much more quickly than it could be achieved.

Even worse, “classy”!

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"sophisticated"
if you have to say it, you ain't

"sophisticated"
if you have to say it, you ain't

"sophisticated"
if you have to say it, you ain't

"sophisticated"
if you have to say it, you ain't

"sophisticated"
if you have to say it, you ain't

"sophisticated"
if you have to say it, you ain't

My avatar is said to have said, "We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give."
I, too, have been on the short end of the stick in some transactional relations with younger men. They're sometimes just irresistible, almost like puppies. And though I was out some sums of money, it was never more than I could afford, but apparently enough to make a positive difference in the younger man's circumstances for a time.
And I have never regretted it. When they became scarce or even vanished completely, I missed their company more than I missed the cash, and I always wished them well. And now, as an older and more mature dog myself, I have less energy for the frisky puppies I occasional meet and am more cautious and circumspect in the complications I allow to enter my life.
I applaud you for your charitable impulse in helping the young man when he needed help and hope the warm feeling you get by helping overcomes the chill of feeling used. You are a good man. (And now, maybe a little wiser?) Be happy.

I anticipate push back already - "it's just a business thing..." etc., etc., but I'm sorry - when you have certain levels of intimacy with another human being, it goes beyond that
So: escort, met once, had a good time, etc, etc. (Not revealing his identity here at this point - perhaps too sensitive an issue and do not want to be mean)
Repeated requests for money, some of which I responded to, which I should have known better as he flaked on my several times afterwards
Now texsts telling me he is starving on the streets, which I responded to which expressions of concern and empathy
Now textst blaming me for his situation, etc., etc.
Am I angry? Yes... Am I insuled? Yes?... Do I feel bad for the guy? Doubles YES
Am I being manipulated? Should I be doing more? How would you respond is a fellow human, clearly going through a bad time, reached out to you this way?
Thanks.

First and most importantly, thank you for sharing and revealing how you handled not only the situation, but also how you handled your handling of the situation.
Much to be learned here, even though your experience does not mirror mine. (It does not need to in order for me to learn from you.)
I have taken a step back and more closely analyzed the dyamic between my friend and me. We do not live in the same city. He is not a good communmicator unless he needs something. He has shown very little ability to process what is going on with him.
I have blocked him.

First and most importantly, thank you for sharing and revealing how you handled not only the situation, but also how you handled your handling of the situation.
Much to be learned here, even though your experience does not mirror mine. (It does not need to in order for me to learn from you.)
I have taken a step back and more closely analyzed the dyamic between my friend and me. We do not live in the same city. He is not a good communmicator unless he needs something. He has shown very little ability to process what is going on with him.
I have blocked him.

First and most importantly, thank you for sharing and revealing how you handled not only the situation, but also how you handled your handling of the situation.
Much to be learned here, even though your experience does not mirror mine. (It does not need to in order for me to learn from you.)
I have taken a step back and more closely analyzed the dyamic between my friend and me. We do not live in the same city. He is not a good communmicator unless he needs something. He has shown very little ability to process what is going on with him.
I have blocked him.

If you wanna check him out first, he works at Batman Spa under the same name— Ken. Had him there once few months back. Had a fun massage, he’s very eager to please.. but I didn’t repeat. 

well, perhaps an ability to not take oneself too seriously? i'd go for that!

First and most importantly, thank you for sharing and revealing how you handled not only the situation, but also how you handled your handling of the situation.
Much to be learned here, even though your experience does not mirror mine. (It does not need to in order for me to learn from you.)
I have taken a step back and more closely analyzed the dyamic between my friend and me. We do not live in the same city. He is not a good communmicator unless he needs something. He has shown very little ability to process what is going on with him.
I have blocked him.

I have only one past experience to compare, and I'm going to give the "cliff notes" version, but if anybody wants the "filler" part that I'm leaving off, I'll be happy to provide:
Around 2006, a student at the university in the city where I reside took out an ad, which I believe was on the old Men4RentNow.  I replied the same way I've been replying to ads in the 21 years I've been hiring, which is to state the only three activities which "do it" for me:  being spanked (probably the biggest one), worshipping the provider's feet, and having my face sat upon.
It was obvious that he was new (and I'd only been hiring a couple of years at that time), so he asked if we could first meet at a restaurant to feel one another out.  I obliged.
During the meal, he harped on how disheartened he was that he could not pay his tuition for the upcoming semester and would therefore risk all of the hard work he'd put in pursuing his accounting degree and becoming a CPA.  Being an inactive CPA myself, we discussed (not to bore anyone) principles which I knew he should be learning based on the courses he told me he'd just taken.  Our discussion was highly, highly specific on accounting issues, and it was VERY obvious that he was a legitimate accounting student and was retaining what he'd learned.
When I returned home, I made a spontaneous decision to send him an email (iPhones had not yet even come out -- hence no texts) proposing that, if he was interested, I could pay his tuition as a prepayment for 13 meetings (tuition was $2,600 and back then $200 was the "going" rate).  I told him that we could meet at a restaurant the next day and I would provide the check.  He was ESTATIC!!  I KNEW as I handed the check over (payee was blank) that I had essentially no recourse if he never met with me, but I had compassion for him because he'd told me about having a tough time growing up with a father who had abandoned the family.
A couple of weeks after I supplied the check, it became obvious that he did not want to hold his end of the bargain (and clearly wasn't going to) and I knew there was nothing I could do.
<-------At this point is where I'm leaving a TON of material out, but I can supplement if anyone is interested.------->
I resolved myself that I'd just helped a young man out and let it go.  About five years later, I Googled his name, and I discovered a presentation he was making to a water system's Board of Directors (it was in the minutes).  He'd graduated, gotten his CPA license, and I actually was very, very happy for him notwithstanding the loss of funds on my end.
So, as far as I'm concerned, that was a "happy ending," and, being honest, I've thought about previously posting the whole episode to this forum, but I thought I'd be the laughing stock of the whole forum given that so many clients strenuously object to even providing a much smaller deposit for a single meeting (and I fully concur now).  Seeing so many others step up on this post, however, has caused me to be willing to publish my one and only similar situation.
From reading the initial post on this thread, I don't think the situation described has even the remotest possibility of having a "happy ending," so I have to agree with the sentiments expressed by others that you just have to let it go. 

guess the two are not mutually exclusive too.... and thanks

Don't be so hard on yourself. Been there, done that myself. But you've done more than enough. He is not your burden to bear. 

At the beginning of the year, I had one provider in New Orleans (who has traveled to Vegas often) hustle me with the “I’m about to be evicted”,” I need a tire for my car to come visit you” stories.   I think people believe he’s credible because he was featured on a podcast a year or two ago and therefore “good at what he does”
It’s a shame because when he’s “on” he’s “ON”   But when his demons are in control, it’s Jekyll and Hyde

Yes, I assisted
Yes, I regret it
Yes, while I would rather be criticized for the mistakes I make rooted in goodness rather than malevolence, I will never get snookered again by him or others   
My starting criteria for 2026 (as noted in another post) are maturity, education, and no drugs.  While I avoid judging people and rarely “write them off,”  I don’t have to get pulled into the cesspool with them.
 

I can understand your pain, NipLuvr212. I've been down this road too many times.
I've been nice to my own detriment. Thankfully, I've gotten more jaded and guarded with age.
Nowadays, I avoid providers in dire straits by following the reviews on here and RM. This site and RM have kept me out of a lot of trouble.

Not harsh at all.
I agree that pratically speaking I "owe" him nothing - and I agree with your prescribing help for him as well... just someting touched a deeply held sense of "right"

Your points are well-taken: the only reason that he could have thought I would "be there" for him is that I did provide financial situation during (yet another) emergency that he had (I see a pattern here, Hmmmm.)
His RM age is I think 27 - I believe he is following a vocational ed program but cannot be sure - and truth be told, I think this is siituation may be somewhat complicated by some poor choices he makes in his life - so i guess you are helping me answer my own questons and assuage my oown guilt.
Thanks for that!