I would discuss your concern with him and ask if there is a better time in the day for him. You mentioned he said he was not a morning person. That could have been the whole problem.
If you go in for a $120.00 massage, only have 2 $100.00 bills, ask for change from the masseur should you trust him or count the change to make sure it is correct in front of him? I assume do not count any money in front of masseur or escort?
I think if you tell them in your profile or in communication prior to the meeting many will not know what to expect and be scared off. I played with a guy who had one and didn't realize it until the 2nd or 3rd time we played. I never mentioned it and neither did he.
I would NOT mention it unless they ask. Do you have to tell them if you take viagra, etc to keep it up? Some of these guys are too insecure to begin with and thinking you need to "pump" to have an erection for them will kill the mood.
Kevin-Not sure if you want to answer this question but I will ask anyway. Where did you live before moving to NYC? Did you move to NYC to increase sales or just because you wanted to move there?
I know for a fact that escorts and masseurs have favorite clients and ones they hope never call again. Sounds like you are on their favorite list. Just keep on doing what you're doing sexually speaking because obviously you do it good and keep on being the nice and fun person you are because obviously they enjoy your company. When your name appears on their caller ID they smile.
Sounds like the "gay scene" is the same as it was in the 80's. I only went to bars for music and dancing. Went to bathhouses, glory holes, bushes for the "slutty scene". My formula worked while others beat their heads against a brick wall. I found out early on not to be a masochist.
Or you were about to be seduced by a resident who noticed your cute butt and big crotch in those tight pants and turned the light out to make it romantic.