RyanDean

Caught a glimpse of some of @Coolwave35's smorgasboard at tonight's Adonis. I stand in awe. And, after tonight, anytime I see a marble I will think of hunks wearing only their underpants becoming unusually interested -- nay, obsessed -- with collecting them... (I'll leave it to Coolwave to reveal the significance of these tokens once the weekend's adventure has resolved, should he choose to do so...)

I have faith in your shower-packing skills, @Coolwave35!

In my experience, an early message (typically 7-10 days in advance, but sometimes even farther out) can work wonders. I typically say something like "I'm thinking toward my upcoming trip to your city on dates... will be looking to connect for a couple hours on day/date/time [ie saturday, 8/7, early afternoon]... do you expect to be in town and available then?" Sometimes an appt gets penciled in right then; other times the gent says "no I'll be away that weekend" or something similar; sometimes the gent clarifies how far in advance they are (not) willing to consider booking; sometimes they inquire about particulars; sometimes there's no reply. But whatever the response, I have usually found it a useful effort. And of course: clarity, brevity and courtesy are essential.

Yeah, as @EastCoastGuy notes above, this is pretty standard administrative practice in large not-for-profits (ie those with endowments &/or those that allow for targeted giving). And, yes, this applies to class gifts as well (though not at the individual-giving level, but when more typically when the dedicated class gift transfers in full to the institution). Anything within a couple percentage points of 5% (give or take) shouldn't send up too many red flags. CharityNavigator.com can give a clear picture of how much of your donation actually goes to programs/services but, for universities, all targeted donations tend to (now) be managed by the development office. Targeted gifts used to be managed by departments/programs but, too often, got raided for purposes beyond the donor's wishes -- which led to some big lawsuits -- so now university development offices tend to be charged with some measure of oversight for all targeted funds to guarantee that they are disbursed in accordance with the donor's intent.

I've yet to meet him, but he's in the mix & generally responsive to texts. Not chatty, but usually responsive. That said, my most recent attempt (last week) to finalize what I understood to be a confirmed booking fell through due to what felt to me like basic ghosting, though he did return my afternoon-of message to confirm he would not be coming. (This after I had booked a multi-day stay at a hotel that he indicated would be very convenient for him, and after pre-confirming his willingness/availability to meet.) Disappointing, but them's the breaks with this hobby sometimes.

https://twitter.com/Slcchunkymonkey/

I follow him on OnlyFans -- skilled, versatile, regular postings, seems like a nice guy... Had no idea he advertised. Thanks for sharing the listing, @lionbrown!

Yep. Interruption of not-quite an hour for me.

In my dissolute youth (ie the early 90s), in the days when I was working and playing on the NYC popup hardcore sexclub circuit (think Wally's, Vinny's, etc) a lot, one of my favorite running buddies was a quirky, charismatic and HughGrant-cute British journalist with very particular sexual preferences. I think we played together a couple times when we first crossed paths but soon discovered we most enjoyed each other's non-sexual company when "catching our breath" between assignations -- bar buddies in a sex club, if you will. His career later blossomed as an on-camera commentator for a variety of cable news organizations and I still enjoy the memories whenever I happen to encounter his face/voice on my tv.

Keep an eye on his listing @Harryinny -- he's just passing through Jersey, with Long Island his next stop. I didn't ask but perhaps Manhattan is on the itinerary...

Any experience or insight re this gent? https://rent.men/LatinDl

In principle, I would not be opposed to paying an "appointment confirmation fee" but, yeah, it's the logistics that introduce all kinds of problems: non-anonymous payment mechanisms; inconsistency as to whether the deposit is part of the appointment fee or on top of it; the actual amount of the deposit; no mechanism for when the provider does the ghosting... I will say that I have considered such a fee when the gent adds a caveat like "for first-time clients" because that seems both reasonable and responsible (and like it's not a hustle). But even then it's the anonymity of the payment mechanism that remains my primary sticking point. And can you imagine how many fakers would glom onto "advance deposits" as their primary grift were they to become the norm?

Kyle Hynick via Twitter

I know him personally (not as a masseur) -- good guy, very professional.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CQV2SOHBdli/

(not sure if this belongs in the culture forum, so please feel free to move as necessary) Anyone here follow interesting Twitch.TV channels? I've recently started checking in on a favorite porn guy's workout streams on twitch and am inclined to add a few more streams to my "followed channels" list. (I just added the FalconNakedSword channel, which they appear to use to stream occasional events.) I should note that I'm emphatically not a gamer/gaymer (and gaming streams mostly just overwhelm or confuse me) SO I'm mostly interested in culture, performance or fitness streams, though all recommendations are welcome.

https://rent.men/WilliamEricson

He's real. And it's complicated. At least that's what this video interview with TheGayGoods suggests... https://thegaygoods.com/meet-alpha-wolfe-americas-next-top-gay-porn-star/

I don't think "fitting" the "prototypical older businessman daddy image" matters much to providers. That said, making sure YOU are feeling comfortable SHOULD be a priority for a skilled/responsible provider. I suspect hiring a duo might be less complicated than hiring with a friend but I might also suggest that you seek feedback here on a few providers of interest to you. It might help to identify the right gent to ease you through your anxiety about taking the plunge.

In addition to laying out some "rules of engagement" from the outset (perhaps especially including boundaries around private time), I might recommend pre-scheduling some kind of regular check-in routine for you to together discuss what's working (and what's not), so things can adapt/evolve in ways that work for both of you. (You don't want to get into one of those low-grade bad roommate situations where either of you are biding time until the three months are over.)