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try the Michelangelo Hotel on 51st St. Rooms are huge for nyc, adjacent to Hells Kitchen (lots of providers in the area) and hotel is big enough that nobody pays attention to coming & going.

wrong - I was questioning the logic behind the thought process, or lack therof such as, why would people who proclaim to dislike Harry & Meghan so much, continue to opine about them ad nauseum in any context ?

You mean something like “wokety wokety woke” ?

that’s like driving a car & pretending you don’t know it requires gas (or electricity). technically possible, highly unlikely the elephant in the room so to speak- or very *exotic* parrot 🦜 disingenuous at best - unless of course, the confusion is real

that’s not how social media algorithms work. An algorithm will feed you stories & information that you already agree with, or is predicted you will like, based upon the vast information they already have about all your internet habits. The use of algorithms is to keep you engaged and online, preferably in an agitated state where you will continue high levels of engagement. Social media algorithms do not give you contrary information to your beliefs or likes because that would lead to less engagement. Less engagement means less time online which means less money for social media companies. Thus, whatever your beliefs and values, social media is engineered to reinforce those beliefs and feed you more to the point of radicalization. It’s on both sides - not partisan. This is good - you have connected your distaste for H&M to a core belief which is offensive to you. Most people don’t get that far. The question I’d ask is, why is this “cult of victimhood” an irritant for you ? That too may be something that is not really the core issue. Usually if things don’t bother me in my day to day living, I shrug it off. I can’t imagine a scenario in my daily life where the cult of victimhood could be a thing. I’m more likely to be bothered by my neighbors who can’t park right and makes it more difficult for me in getting in/out of my garage - literally everyday & multiple times a day. I try not to devote any time or attention to things that cause negative intense feelings & there is nothing I can do to change it - because that’s a trap and the ultimate self-inflicted mind-fuck. Maybe you’re surrounded by victims ? Or, have family history where victim behavior was common ? Or, maybe it’s something else entirely ? But, what it’s not is Harry & Meghan - it’s not like you’re going to run into them at a party and you will be subjected to them. You’re likely choosing to consume information about them given you have total control over your media sources - the question is why consume that information if it’s so distasteful ? That’s like drinking something that tastes awful.

I have a neutral opinion on Harry & Meghan - they don’t rise to any level of importance for me to think about them. The only interesting thing about them is the strong dislike (and strong positive attachments) they inspire among some that appear obsessed. And specifically, the continued attention the obsessed give to H&M while wanting them “gone”. That’s an odd sort of cultural phenomenon that espouses a basic contradiction which makes no sense and unfortunately, it’s not unique to Harry & Meghan opinions. It’s a broader sign of American cultural malaise where people are relatively affluent & bored, looking for things to complain about. Their basic needs are met, so time can be spent on issues that have no actual importance. It’s also a sign that some basic critical thinking skills have been abandoned with very little (if any) self-reflection about the source of intense feeling “triggered” by Harry & Meghan. It’s not normal to have such intense feelings about something that has zero affect on one’s own life - unless there’s something else going on that is at the root of the feelings. The obsession is likely the end result of social media consumption and being fed “news” by algorithms that cause those intense feelings or passively watching television where you’re being told what to think. That’s how it works.

Oracle ? More like an *exotic* parrot w talking points

you referenced “recreational” drugs, not drugs that have been decriminalized. there’s a difference in terminology. recreational generally refers to legalized recreational marijuana in some states vs legalized medical use marijuana in others. and Portland doesn’t have an out-of-control crime wave anyway - it’s #62 on the list with 61 other cities with bigger problems. you’re looking for the cause of a problem that doesn’t exist relative to current & comparative US crime trends.

seems to be a clear pattern here - OP posts something that he positions as current topic, but with intent to create a sideways & predictable discussion. Since the politics section is no more, this is how they do it. So boring, so predictable, so pedestrian. if you can’t get your political fix here - go to GayGuides.com which has no moderation policy & welcomes the loony passive/aggressive types.. btw - there is zero logic in a thread by those wishing for Harry & Meghan to “just go away” - and then devoting so much additional time & effort to analyze their latest adventure ad nauseum , thus ensuring the continued relevance of the couple you want to see no more ? Makes no sense & ass backwards.

probably the same as the other 20 states/cities with legal recreational marijuana sale & consumption. It’s too widespread across the country to be a bigger problem in Portland than other places.

why is this even mentioned ? It’s nobody’s business but his. It’s not your secret to tell. this sounds creepy because it appears that your interest in “reconnecting” is only because you now know he’s an escort. If the idea that he’s a now an escort is interesting to you (which it obviously is) - then contact him in that context and be honest about it. Honest with yourself and him. Going at this in a backwards way with an ulterior motive/agenda is sure way to an awkward encounter. This is not a difficult concept between 2 mature consenting adults. if you really missed him that much, you would either (a)still be in contact or (b) not need an escort ad to do the prompt for reconnection

correct - and the media will prioritize sensational reporting to keep people watching. Example - subway crime in New York City. About 4 million people ride subways daily (post pandemic) and crime is very low relative to overall ridership, yet it’s always sensationalized because it’s the largest US media market, almost all news organizations NYC based and it generates national interest. However, when viewing New York City overall crime rate - it doesn’t even make it to the Top 20 US cities. NYC comes in at number 42 for combined incidence of violent crime, while cities like Indianapolis, Tulsa & Anchorage are in Top 20, yet almost no national reporting in those cities because there is no interest. St. Louis and Detroit seem to get mentioned sometimes given they both top crime rate lists, yet almost no reporting of other problematic cities. So, there are two factors at work. Money - media organizations make more money when more people watch or read. The key to more people is more sensational reporting. Reporting on sensational crime in NYC is about as easy as it gets and ensures national headlines/interest. Nobody cares about similar sensational crimes in Anchorage. Narrative - it confirms what many people already believe that certain cities like New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco & Portland are the most dangerous. People like to get their beliefs confirmed in the media they consume. When something is presented that is contrary to their beliefs, they usually go elsewhere. It’s on both sides of the political divide and it is not a partisan issue - it’s human behavior in 2023 where consumers can select their media. FYI - Portland comes in at #62 in terms of incidence (per capita) violent crime. The OP is likely safer visiting Portland than almost any other US city. Interesting what happens when you actually look at statistics and start to think.

you’re making the case to make personal inquiries based on someones outward appearance & how you perceive them - because you’re curious and want to know more. by this logic - should we inquire about someone’s disability because we can see it and want to know more ? Or, is there some line that dictates we use tact and discretion ? the truth is you have no idea how a random stranger will react to your personal inquires about appearance & ethnicity - some will be ok and some won’t. Just like people with disabilities - some will be ok with it and some won’t. So why go there ? do you also ask heavy women if they’re pregnant ? I mean - maybe you’re curious about that too. I’ve actually witnessed someone do this to a women who was not pregnant - at a client/vendor lunch. Want to create an awkward situation very fast, try that. Personal invasive questions that can create awkward situations are bad manners and indicate poor social skills. Find a more interesting & intelligent line of conversation. Comments about appearance are lazy & dated.

Old, white, angry & watching way too much television. Usually speak in dated terminology that’s more akin to talking points. There’s no reasoning with this crowd as they’re angry at everyone/everything/everywhere. Usually angry for their own poor life choices and not happy with current circumstances - they hate change & fight it all day long. Anger rules the day above all else. I saw the same exact thing happen to my parents up close & personal. It’s a disease of the mind manifested in vitriol & anger. It’s a life lesson not to turn out like these people. Very sad.

I just threw up - can it get more cringe ? obviously, yes. I feel like it’s only downhill from here nobody says woke anymore. just like exotic. it dates you. how old are you people ? I suspect the word choice is specific to their online persona here & other sites where they troll - nobody would actually talk this way in real life. Unless they want to sound very very stupid and very very old. which might be possible I guess

correct - doubtful I will go back to Rio. Its natural beauty is unrivaled, yet I no longer have the tolerance for that type of urban danger. Not dissuading others from the Rio adventure, I think it helps to have realistic expectations and understand other less risky Brazil options.

I love a vague reference to dark conspiracy theories while simultaneously sampling a 12 year-olds vocabulary; Touché, how very contemporary ! Viva La Matrix

exactly - I was describing where vast majority of foreign visitors stay in Rio. the other Rio Zona Sul neighborhoods may offer relief from the crush of foreign tourists to seasoned visitors, however, a solitary gringo in the other areas may stick out like a sore thumb. whatever works if you don’t mind being a perpetual target the overall point was that SP has much less crime directed at tourists due to the geography of the city. much easier to blend in to SPs many fine hotel’s & restaurants

conversations about race and corresponding power dynamics are complicated & nuanced. And, I’m not surprised this is hard for many, because people tend to self-sort to be among others like themselves. One “black friend” or one “gay friend” doesn’t make someone knowledgeable about those communities & sensitivities. Understanding those who have different life experiences doesn’t come naturally to most. The simple rule is to not make others uncomfortable by our words & actions. If in doubt, err on the side of caution. As the last few years have shown, race & gender in America are topics under intense scrutiny and sensitivities are changing - what may have been ok 10 years ago is not ok today.

Please explain your criteria to determine the “black people” where you would avoid asking “where are you from?” questions vs mixed race people where it would be ok ?

btw - this is totally outdated language and not an appropriate reference to human beings. using that language makes the speaker sound old & out-of-touch.

It’s not regional most of the time, when these questions are asked to people-of-color who take offense - you’d never know because they won’t tell you. They’re used to it. They will just take it as patronizing, uneducated or similar. it’s exactly the same as someone making patronizing, dated or otherwise insensitive comments to gay people. When it happens to me I just mark it up as another stupid person I have no interest in getting to know - and move on. so, back to the OP original point of inquiry - on meeting new people, why would anyone wade into some conversation points that may be considered inappropriate, offensive or hostile ? not exactly a way to ingratiate yourself to new acquaintances - but hey, you do you and no, my screen name has nothing to do with where I’m from or my ethnicity. I’m white as they come and know exactly how stupid people can be re; racial sensitivities, or lack thereof.

I’m actually the observer in these situations, not the victim. People are free to question as they see fit - but, this post was from a white person seeking input on appropriate questions to non-white people in social situations. I have tons of first-hand experience watching this play out in real-world interactions. Not hypotheticals from keyboard warriors. The typical response when these questions are asked is a big eye-roll, indicating exactly how the question was received. If you want to look really stupid when meeting new people & looking for conversation points, then absolutely nobody is stopping you. Go for it.

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