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All great continued input; thanks to everyone. The provider told me we can play by ear. He has time budgeted to extend if I'm into him. Frankly, this instills me with some confidence. He doesn't seem strict or demanding. I'd be far more concerned if he insisted on scheduling a certain amount of time in advance. It tells me he's not trying to just take advantage of me. Fingers crossed!

6'4" and 200 and he can split like that? impressive.

This is all very helpful and greatly appreciated. I agree with most of what's been said. An hour for a massage is enough. However, I am looking to have a BFE -- after covid (which isn't even over), the deaths of family and friends (due to covid and other horrible ends), and the full realization that life is short and you just never know when it's going to end. I'm going to ask the provider about two hours; that way I won't feel rushed when I arrive; we can hopefully establish a connection. I've heard nothing but great things about him; our interactions by text are polite and professional; he's over 30. (That is so important.) If it turns out to be a bust, it's nothing that I can't get back someday. Thank you all, good people.

I think it's smarter, generally, to have first-time meetings with providers be an hour; if it doesn't go well, then you're out as little as possible However, I've been communicating with this one guy and all the texts have been great and feedback and reviews are all aces. When you're having fun, seconds fly by like minutes... Thoughts on initial meetings being 2 hours, anyone?

In Todays crazy world sweetness is better than a HE. well, no but yes you know what I mean!

Thanks. My massage budget has to be used more sparingly these days; it's not 'just' the money, it's the heartache later of having an unfulfilling experience. He does check a lot of boxes. But that can get me in trouble.

hey MikeyT, what about his personality turns you off? He's back in LA this weekend I believe; was thinking about it. He's certainly got the body and well, the hair. But does he have massage skills?

when I was a young 'un back in the 1990s (afraid of having sex due to AIDS crisis yet desperate for human touch, contact) I'd peruse the massage ads in Frontiers (remember that publication?) I remember finding quite a few qualified therapists; there'd be a connection with some more than others but I could almost always count on a trained therapist. Nowadays, LA seems to be pretty sparse in terms of talented therapists. H/E etc. aren't really necessary if the tension in my muscles are worked on.

once again, this site has saved me heartache, money, and, in this case, gas. did a deeper dig and this came up on guy in pic above: "Troy and Marco were pics from the same masseur profiles on Massage M4M and turned out to be a total misrepresentation of who he is. He’s at least 50 lbs heavier and older. The Ed Hardy shirt is a dead giveaway that he’s using an old photo too. But I would skip."

geez. I'm in LA so he's almost 40 miles away; I'm tempted to take one from the team but I might end up driving down there and just asking him to watch Netflix with me and if I can rest my head on that chest #dreamy

well, I see his ad is back or maybe it's been around and is just popping up for me. It's mostly good reviews here but the few negative ones have me cautious. It's not just the money but shelling out some bucks for an unsatisfying experience is just the worst.

I'll take massage skills over looks any day; but I have found that someone using outdated pix generally has little to no massage training skills. They're using the old more attractive pix as the draw -- not their skills.

anyone have any experiences with this hottie you can share? TIA! Male Massage by Julian - massage/bodywork in New York, NY - masseurfinder WWW.MASSEURFINDER.COM

he just popped up visiting not too too far from me. I love this forum as this search has saved me from an unsatisfying experience

those arms are hard enough for me; guy's beautiful. I wish I could get down there.

the only thing more insulting being upsold mid-massage is not being asked when you know he asks others.

Sad state of choices in LA

UG. So sorry to hear this RubMyThighs - you lived my worst nightmare. A big guy who doesn't know is own strength is one of my worst nightmares. I have a lot of vigorous HEs but they're in my mind where I'M controlling the narrative. Again, so sorry you went through this. Hope your next massage is better.

Could you imagine thinking ‘waxing’ was code for extras and you show up at a provider and say I’m ready for ‘waxing!’ and then you’re screaming ‘Kelly Clarkson’ before you know it! 🤦🏼‍♂️

I feel for Relax Man. It's one thing to get a bad massage or have an unsatisfying experience. But to feel pain and need to pop pain relievers for weeks after? YIKES. I get that meeting up with someone who isn't really trained is part of the game; you roll the dice and you get what you get. I can handle no training BUT if someone fakes it as if they have training and they hurt you? Not good.

wowza; totally my type; those massive arms; looks like he'd be great at giving you a bear hug hello and goodbye. tempted to take the plunge.

6 hours! I knew a guy who'd have you over for dinner around 6 or 7 pm and end things the next day after breakfast at 9 or 10!

it's hard to walk away from someone when they have either been good to you (and aren't anymore) or if you can't get them out of your head... been there. but I'm continually grateful to this forum for steering me in the right direction.

It feels like they're used to be a LOT more legit choices out there. At the LEAST I wish there was a way to tell the difference between scammers and escorts.

"6'3" 220 lbs." pushes all my buttons but I'd feel better if the pix (which are great) showed a massage table and him massaging someone. Is it really that hard to find a solid masseur in Los Angeles?