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I'm chatting up this guy who's a little younger but really friendly; and then he goes: 'r u GEN?' and I'm like DUDE! WTF, I thought we're getting along and you ask me this? Man! I can't believe you thought I'd pay to be with you. He goes: 'no, are you my friend Gen(nifer)' I'm like didn't you get my picture? "I got it."

Andy's great; I used to see him at Candle spa. totally legit. I am not sure when it will ever be safe to get a massage again though.

ug. maybe he is 23.

he doesn't look 23 either, but that could be just me.

a gayling back in the 90s scared to death of AIDS, I used to only call ads that said therapist was 'legit/no sex' - photos would show the guys in t-shirts. Invariably, the guy would go to town on my penis. I finally said to one as nicely as possible I called you b/c your ad said 'no sex/legit' and this happens all the time - what's up? He said, 'don't you know? you're huge. people can't say no.'

Appreciate all the thoughtful responses. I'm glad I'm not the only one going through this. Maybe I'm over thinking it. I'm not expecting a vaccine by election day (as someone in the White House would like me to think) but one will come one day. I can always check in with this one guy who ran a spa. Poor guy probably had to shut it down. I work from home and only go out side for a walk and to the grocery store. Occasional errands. I've eaten at an outdoor restaurant where all the servers wear masks. I believe I've been careful and safe, but we just don't know. Dammit. This really feels like the 80s all over again.

thank you.

I used to think going out for a massage was a sad commentary on my need for intimacy. Ha! I'd kill to go back to my own life. Is there a safe way to get a massage right now? Massages used to be (still were until recently) a way to find intimacy if you were freaked out over AIDS/HIV.

boy, that's for sure; one time, just because I was so frustrated, I texted back: "shoot me a rate sheet and a shot of your taint.." and as they're figuring out whether I'm serious or not, I block them.

I mourned the loss of a few great masseurs who either retired or moved away. A few made me feel safe; especially when boundaries by both of us were respected And then, every now and then, you get back in your car and you're grateful to be safe and alive.

so many of you must be really hot!

"Russian Roulette" -- that's pretty much what it was like with having sex back in the 1980s (and still today). I had an odd coming out. While I was figuring it all out, I learned about erotic massages, reading ads in the LA Weekly and later, Frontiers. Now, it's about making choices again. Ironic -- I should just try to find a monogamous relationship and settle down. Preferably with a guy who knows how to give a great massage!

Of course, it's a bit rhetorical in that a) it's never been 100% 'safe' -- once I had a guy straddle me and put my dick up his butt (no condom! Yikes! GET OFF!) -- not to mention going to a total stranger's home and getting naked. But COVID-19's a game changer. Until there's a vaccine, will it ever be safe to go out and get a massage either from a trusted regular, an potentially more exciting newbie or at a spa? B) I know it's person choice and always will be, but ... it's hard to think that things will return to normalcy anytime soon.

thanks PK. I'm old enough to know that if you wait long enough ANYTHING can happen; including this nightmare finally passing someday. In the meantime, I have memories to keep me warm. More than anything, this guy got inside my head and treated me with kindness. Nothing can take that away.

Plus, I, personally, think there's a difference between 'eat a sandwich' and (what Joan Rivers said about Lena Dunham) 'get on a treadmill and eat a salad.'

So...just to give an update, and I appreciate everyone's input, we were in touch and he was open to seeing me one last time. The ball was in my court. Then, the court shut down and no one can be within 6 ft. of one another. Ironical. But I had made my decision as to what I was going to do. And maybe still will do someday in the future if the stars align. Here's a Joss Whedon quote from his run on the X-Men from Kitty Pryde: Everything is so fragile. There's so much conflict, so much pain...you keep waiting for the dust to settle and then you realize this is it; the dust is your life going on. If happy comes along--that weird, unbearable delight that's actual happy--I think you have to grab it while you can. Thanks, guys.

I think many of us would like to be as lean as this guy is. I know I would.

thank you cmennow; you might've just saved my life. seriously.

thanks Smurof I'm about to lose a parent to COVID-19 Whoever said you can't buy affection sure was right; I literally can't buy it right now

a family member is about to die and I'm about to become a freaking wreck. I'm one of those 'just hold me' people. but it's not safe to hire now; is it? I'll have to endure the grief alone.

6'1" 245 lbs. 245! YIKES!

adorable; I hate tatts, but that's an adorable Superman one. If the world doesn't end, I'll put him on my list!

one time I was with a guy who swore he was a top only and he begged me to fuck him with the provision that I never tell anyone. I find this guy to be amazing; love love love big guys, but if I ever screw someone bigger than I am (frame, ht., wt.) I just start laughing out loud for some reason.

long time ago I went and got a massage in WeHo from this guy. He was an Adonis; clear smooth skin. tall. super quiet. 100% therapeutic; maybe a smidge sensual. So the next time I see him (he was that good and that beautiful) I, shall we say, took care of things before I got there so as not to get frustrated. Yep. He then decided to go to town. I rose to the performance but this was a long time ago. He soon disappeared. I'm sure a rich guy scooped him up into something exclusive.

Think about baseball players. Wait.