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Marylander, I KNOW; I freaked out; the whole thing must have lasted mere seconds, but I couldn't believe he was being so careless; he didn't know my history and I could only guess his. They say it's less risky for the 'top' (though I didn't feel in charge) I couldn't get the guy off me fast enough. (Yeah, it wasn't a friend; it was me).

RainyDay, this sounds horrific for you; I"m sorry you went through it. Did the therapist wear a condom at least? A similar thing happened to, I'm going to say, 'a friend of mine' -- when on his back, the therapist hopped up on the table and sat on my friend's condom-less erect dick. "Get OFF; that's not safe!" He got off immediately. This was back in the late 90s or early 2000s and my friend is still healthy so nothing happened, but it was an unnerving experience. Sometimes all somebody wants is a massage and a HE; not full out sex. Can you say whether or not this was in Los Angeles?

from his ad: "I work on table, I provide 69/90/120 min sessions..." typo, or....?

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Thx NYCMAN I’m mostly alone and don’t have people to talk to about this stuff I feel better ty

worst case scenario? the guy had a cut on his hand and a fingernail tore at my butt lining or whatever it is and I got infected with HIV. It's unlikely, I know. Again, all I can say is I came of age in the '80s and fears were put into me that have never gone away.

Been to him; he's great, very healing. Legit. YMMV.

Well, these responses have been both informative (thanks FTM Zachary) and humorous. Thanks everyone. This was a massage that got really erotic and was most likely safe; I came of age in the '80s and gay meant AIDS and AIDS meant death. I saw a lot of acquaintances die. It was horrific and affected me in ways I don't even know. I suppose this is progress, though. I used to think that the most causal of encounters would lead to AIDS. It was foolish of me. I've always been of the mindset that if you avoid any potentially unsafe contact then you'll be okay. Ultimately, time will tell, I suppose.

Thanks, guys especially Kris

I’m, umm, asking for a friend

this message board has saved me so much heartache; thanks to all the posters who share their experiences both good and bad

anyone with recent experiences? TIA

my big fear is I end up dead on some guy's table and all my friends at my memorial say: "Poor (my name). He should have known better. That guy's mug shot said it all!"

ha; sounds like fun!

he says he does the BFE; I wonder how that works. Does he give you a kiss when you walk in the door, ask you about your day at work and rub your feet? Does he listen? Is he playful? Does he say, 'oh, boy, I love you but I can't take your sister and her caveman idiot husband coming over for dinner one more time.'

interesting; ty

thanks; I posted before I read all the comments tho; having second thoughts based on a few of the posts. but he sure looks hot.

is he better to text or call? TIA!

it's odd; we're living in a world where if you got to a site to check something out, you'll find an ad for it on your FB page; (let's hope THAT doesn't start happening with massage ads!) I've had a past provider reach out to me ever six months or so asking if I want a massage; but I haven't liked him enough to repeat. It's probably best when the contacting is done by the client.

not asking about HE or extras, but is anyone familiar with Burke Williams in Hollywood. Wonder if there are good masseurs there I can ask for - looking for someone strong who can help me zone out.

he moved to San Fran recently, no? thanks @david78nyc - he's got an awesome bod and seems super friendly, but massage skills are important to me.

does anyone know what these stats translate to? 1.73m, 70kg, 72.6cm. TIA!

well, this sucks; your blog was a big help in informing folks who's a solid provider and who's to be avoided! good luck getting it on another site/platform

one guy I was looking to try moved away; any recommendations on big guys (6'2" or taller; 210 lbs. or more) who give a great head to toe massage?

You have to walk away and not see the person; don't think that you can still see them if the crush is developing and you can control it. You can't. You can't control your feelings, but you can control if you reach out to see the person. I wish I had the answer, but I think it just takes time for crushes to go away. It's not easy, that's for sure.