I agree with all the points you make @Simon Suraci, about that video, the use of baby oil (a total no no) the table wrong height etc. Although I don’t necessarily agree about the escort part. But I read @TectonicThrust post as being indicative of what he wanted rather than ‘recreate exactly this video’. For me a video showing something the client likes is useful and I can include it at an appropriate point in my routine. I can pace the session appropriately, read my client’s body and include the things he wants naturally in the massage.
I don’t draw such a distinction between escort work and erotic massage work. You’ll obviously get a range of massage skills depending on the training the guy has had, and you’ll get a variety of sexual activity that he’s prepared and willing to include. He will be somewhere on the spectrum from purely therapeutic masseur to full service escort.
What rate he charges for that is up to him. The important thing is that the client’s requirements and expectations match with what the escort/masseur is prepared to and skilled to provide. If those match and the rate is right then the ingredients for a great session are in place. What facilities that? Good communication from both sides.
So. Many. Opinions.
Where do I even begin?
1. This is NOT a massage. It’s an escort session based around a massage “scene”. If your provider is charging regular massage rates for this, you’re getting discount sex work. Good for you. Bad for me because it places an expectation on the rest of us to provide discount sex work. Therefore, I do not recommend sending a video to your masseur, unless he is also an escort. If the video is what you want, that’s fine, just pay an escort an escort rate to do it. Inspector Clouseau is to a detective what a porn performer is to an actual skilled massage provider.
2. You’re settling for less. By sticking to a porn script, you’re missing out on some really good legit massages that are worth the fee AND in many cases still provide some of the same erotic elements on top of that, depending on the provider. There’s no massage skill here; it’s literally running his hands across the client’s body with no pressure and 5 mins later playing with his hole, with more sexual play to follow until you’re done. There’s nothing therapeutic going on here.
3. Unrealistic scope. The whole massage is 30 mins including the porn interview intro. Most massages are an hour or more to cover each area of the body. Many masseurs do exactly this kind of 30 min rub and tug routine and charge you for an hour. There’s a market for it and it sounds like you definitely are that market. That’s why we have so many guys advertising with no skill and charging the same or sometimes more than guys with quite a lot of skill. Nothing wrong with that when you know exactly what you’re getting and paying sex work rates for it, but please do not expect every provider to follow a porn script. This stuff is made for cameras, depicting fantasy, and getting off. It’s one of a genre videos that portray with gross inaccuracy what happens during a good legit massage, even a good erotic oriented massage. You deserve so much better for your coin!
4. Routine has little structure. Masseurs have a routine they adjust sightly based on client needs. We carefully craft our routines to cover your whole body, fit within the timeframe, and give you maximum therapeutic benefits. It’s best to tell your massage therapist in person exactly what you want, both erotic preferences and regular therapeutic things like sciatic pain, sore hamstrings, etc., so we can adjust and pace accordingly before the massage begins. Saying so in person leaves no record should a legal issue arise. Clients are coy about asking directly for what they want, so I understand that is a big ask. Still best if you can manage it. I would be hard pressed to abandon my entire routine, watch a video and try to recreate it. It’s forcing life to imitate art, and the art is a fantasy version of real life. Why not enjoy the source inspiration material from real life? It’s so much better.
5. More exciting not knowing. Part of the fun is not always knowing exactly what will happen, when, how, and so on. To each their own on that point. If you know exactly what you’re getting, there’s merit to that approach too. I recommend telling your masseur what elements you want, and not making him scrap his whole base routine to copy someone else’s script.
6. The rest of these are just peeves I’m sure nobody here cares about, but I’ll mention them anyway:
7. Baby oil is an amateur, common porn trope. Slathering it on, pouring repeatedly from the bottle and so on. There is no need for so much oil. This is not how we work. A good therapist will use quality products, and in the appropriate amount.
8. That table is way too low. To give appropriate pressure, I would have to bend and hunch over for an hour or more at a stretch, multiple times a day. That would wreck my back and put me out of work. PSA to other masseurs out there: use the right height for your body and work style. Your back will thank you.
9. Massage therapists and masseurs are not “masseuses”. This is the feminine form. Opinions vary on what massage therapists want to be called. A lot of us in the gay massage industry call ourselves masseurs, which includes untrained folks. Others may prefer massage practitioner or certified massage therapist, depending on norms and laws in their local jurisdiction, and training status. In any case, please stop using the feminine form. I never correct clients, but take it from me, being called a ‘masseuse’ is annoying and off putting, maybe even offensive to some.
10. Very, very few people on our tables look like the guys in these massage porn videos. Remember that when you fantasize your masseur will react the exact same way to your body as the actors playing the masseur roles do in these videos. If he does, tip him well. That’s some damn good acting.
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