Cbilly17

100% agreed.. side note are we the same person 😂

Same + same.
"ME time" is important when you've got so many responsibilities as a parent.
I also take time away from work rather than take time away from the family.
 

I am married to a woman and she does not know that I hire men (I also hire women too). She would not be fine with it at all. However, we have a non-existent sex life (prior to me hiring) and I have been bi for years.

Yeah same here our relationship has changed a lot since those days and I do love my “me time” with my masseurs or escorts. It’s away for me to escape from the real life for a bit. But I only see my guys during the day inbetween work meetings etc to make sure I’m home with the fam as usual. 

Same here. My wife and I were pretty wild and adventurous before the kids.
We don't really get the time to be out together much without the kids...but I think I do now prefer my time with a masseur to be private. The days of watching each other in sexual situations seems to have lost its luster.
I'm going to guess my wife feels the same. It's all too much information now. 
( Are you going to kiss the kids goodnight with that mouth ..after sucking that guy's dick ?) 😂🍆💦😋
 

We have definitely done scenarios similar only i didn’t get fucked.. but I have had guys give me oral and I’ve given oral while my wife watched.. she knows I like seeing a big cock and I loved seeing her get fucked by a hot hung escort. 

It’s great that you and your wife were so open minded sexually. I’m gay and I never had sex with women but I especially enjoy watching porn where a married hetero couple have sex with a hot muscular escort. For some strange reason, it’s one of my hottest fantasies: being fucked by an escort while my imaginary wife watches me and participates. Mind me asking if you’ve ever done that with your wife? 

I am married to a woman and she does not know that I hire men (I also hire women too). She would not be fine with it at all. However, we have a non-existent sex life (prior to me hiring) and I have been bi for years.

My wife and I used to get into hooking up with other couples a lot and we have even hired girls and guys together, I loved watching her get done by a guy with a bigger cock than mine, but after the kids we don’t do much of that anymore, but she knows I enjoyed that part of our life however now she doesn’t know how much I hire escorts or masseurs but she knows it happens from time to time, I also never have actual sex though It’s mostly just massages and touching and stroking etc.

I am married to a woman and she does not know that I hire men (I also hire women too). She would not be fine with it at all. However, we have a non-existent sex life (prior to me hiring) and I have been bi for years.

I am married to a woman and she does not know that I hire men (I also hire women too). She would not be fine with it at all. However, we have a non-existent sex life (prior to me hiring) and I have been bi for years.

I have done couples appointments for mm, it is totally fine and kinda exciting. When guys married to women ask me for appointment I almost always do not know. I am assuming if wife knows and is fine with you having appointments with guys alone then all is good. In any relationship it’s good for the other partner to know if you’re gay or bi. Sounds like things have worked out this far 

Is anyone else on here married to a woman? If so does she know about you getting massages or hiring male escorts? 
 
In my case my wife knows but it’s not something we really go into detail about, before we had kids we used to do some Bi stuff with another couple but has changed since we became parents. We still have a great relationship and I have considered booking appts with her as a couple thing but apart of me doesn’t want to share the time as i feel it’s my time to just let go a bit, but I know she’d enjoy it. Anyone else have invited their partner to attend appts before?

I, too, have been hiring providers since I was about 30.  Always my age or younger at that time. I am in my mid-60's and I still prefer younger, twink type guys.  Maybe it's because I started with other guys when I was in my teens.  In any case I rarely have been turned down because of my age. My experience has been that most young providers like to meet someone who is settled in their home, can turn them on to food they've never tried or music from our time that they've not heard before, etc.
I met a 23 yo provider who has only been at it for a few months and who was all over me as soon as he saw me. I've been at this long enough to know it was not just the $ in this case but his attraction to a friendly, nice, older man in decent physical shape.  The "Daddy" effect maybe?  Although he was dominant and I was more than happy to accommodate him in that role.

Hey I’m into athletic or nerdy sweet guys. Looking for a good kisser who can come to my hotel in Austin. Pretty open on position. I am really into blue eyes, gingers but I know they are pretty darn rough to find. 

I'm at 2-3 times a month now.  I keep telling myself I need to cut back, but I now have 3 go to guys in Philly and it's kind of addicting.
Guess I just have to work more to support it.  I'm in my mid fifties, who knows how long I have to enjoy this type of fun before father time catches me!

Over the past year I've met up 32 times, 7 of them for massage, another 8 with a local regular, and then only a few other repeats. Most of them were in bursts while traveling. This is after going 3 years without any sensual/sexual contact. I'm recently starting to feel caught up on that deficit, so I foresee the frequency dropping dramatically.

PNP or any evidence of is a always a huge turn off, sooner or later it will mess with the provider's work ethic, health, performance, etc. 
I'm sorry to hear about your Asian friend suffering discrimination by providers. 

Once in a blue moon I come across an escort that is nowhere near me that I find stunning and would be more than happy to pay for a video or Skype session, but I have no idea how common of a thing this is for providers. Is that something you'd entertain with proper payment? 

This.  I don't do any sort of exhaustive research, but I want to be reasonably certain that he is who he says he is.  

Back in the 70s and 80s, it smelled like ‘grass’ burning. Now it smells like potent skunk.

mention of weed in this thread reminded me about the current odor of marijuana we all smell at times these days......
does anybody else (over about age 40 or 45) notice how vastly different it smells these days than when we were younger/in college??.....the smell now seems the result of industrial production (since it's legal now) with a much sweeter/manufactured scent......back in college days, pot smell seemed earthier, natural, and very obvious......I really don't like the smell of pot from either era, but today's pot is soooo different.......
anybody notice this and have a comment on how this new scent came to be??......thanks

I read the reviews on their profile, looking for consistency and checking if the people leaving the reviews are legit. For example, have they reviewed other providers? If they have a link to their socials, I'll take a look at those as well. Then, I'll search for them on here and consider those accounts. 
I'm really looking for an overall picture that is consistent. 
I'm not really worried about danger, particularly if the provider has a decent history and shows his face, gives me his phone number, etc. From there, I ask questions to get a sense if it's a fit. 
Honestly, I think Grindr might be more risky. 

Yes, it’s inherently dangerous in that you’re alone (and often in a vulnerable position) with a stranger!  He could rob you, hurt you, or even kill you!  And beyond that, the potential embarrassment and/or illegality that comes with the encounter makes it less likely for the client to report the crime.
My vetting process on Grindr involved chatting over the course of several days.
My vetting process with an escort would involve ensuring he has multiple reviews by people who gave other reviews on RM and on here.  The reviews don’t necessarily have to be positive but it’s important that he look like his pics and not be deceitful.  For the one escort I have met, I was able to figure out his real-life identity and confirm that he was a real person with friends, family, etc.

One year when I was in NYC for a convention, I decided to go to the original village and into a club that had lots of glory holes.  For hours I meandered throughout the place; then after a while, I went into a smallish cabin, took out my nice-sized "blessing" and placed it inside of the opened-cutout hole.  After my cock lingered there for a few minutes, I felt a warm mouth surrounding it.  I don't know what specifically happened, but upon my erupting some very sweet juices into the mouth of the recipient and he pleasantly consuming the content, I heard: "I'd love to take you home."
If I had not had sessions and meetings to attend at the convention the next day, I would have taken up the guy's offer.  
Oh, those were the days and times that shall forever be remembered.