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He had foreskin removed to rejuvenate his eyelids……And now he looks cockeyed. 🥁 💥 Thank you. I’ll be here all week. 

Shit.  You're absolutely right.  My apologies.
Have you done anything wrong lately in your personal life I can harp on instead?

You’re nice! I’ve never felt the need to spell it out like that with a provider—I just assume overall hygiene is a given and will be obvious within minutes of meeting. I don’t text my prospective tops my bottoming routine.
One thing I do when we meet—sometimes they beat me to it—is extend my hand, then go in for a hug with a smile. While we’re in that hug, I’ll put both hands on their biceps, look them in the eye, hold, and say something like, “I’m really happy you’re here.” It’s face-to-face, so we’ll both catch each other’s breath, get a hint of their scent, and just feel the vibe overall.

I grew up in the Cold War era, so Russian soldiers always held a kind of evil fascination…strong, powerful, butch…right in line with my S&M/leather fantasies. I saw my first Russian soldier when I was 20. I was driving into East Berlin through Checkpoint Charlie. We had to get out of my red Triumph sports car while a soldier went through the interior, the trunk, under the hood…even passing a mirror under the car to see if someone was hiding in the undercarriage. Why someone would be hiding to get into, not out of, East Berlin, of course made no sense at all. But then nothing about war makes sense, does it. While he was getting his jollies looking for spies, I saw his officer’s military hat just sitting on the counter in the Checkpoint. I could have easily grabbed it, and he’d never known until I was gone and in the Eastern Sector. What a fantasy…maybe I couldn’t actually trick with a Russian soldier, but my roommate and I could fuck wearing his hat, maybe even cum all over it. As an indication of what terrible judgement a 20-year old can have, for a moment I actually considered snatching it. Prisoner sex fantasies getting fucked by the guards are hot, but the probable reality of Soviet prison quickly disabused me from pinching the cap. So we drove off into the East, bare-headed. 
 
It would be another 20 years before I had an encounter with another Soviet soldier, when I spent a month on a project in Tashkent, Uzbekistan. This was the traditional land of the Uzbeks, a Turkic Central Asian Stan where the men were swarthy and their visages showed the signs that Marco Polo, Ghengis, and Tamerlane had all spilled their seed. But I digress…this is a Soviet soldier story. The Uzbek boy stories will wait until another day. 
 
This was during Perestroika, when Uzbekistan was a part of the Soviet Union, but as it turned out, not for long. It was also late spring, when it was already blisteringly hot. Most afternoons my coworkers and I would go to a large city park, with a fine tea house located within. I mean a real tea house, a beautiful tourquise domed structure where they served exotic pastries and excellent teas and coffees for just pennies. 
 
Nearby there was a rushing mountain stream, where a whole variety of people would recreate…Russian families, with grandfathers looking like they were pregnant with a cow…in their tiny “speedo-like bathing suits; high school youth, fresh from the Young Pioneers Camp, oozing sex out of every pore; and Soviet soldiers from the local garrison in their unsexy boxers…until they emerged from the water leaving little to the imagination. Sitting under a sycamore tree taking in the sights became a lovely afternoon hobby.
But the real thing was close by…a smoking hot t-room. On my first visit to the park I discovered I wasn’t the only guy up for a blow and go, if not more. When you entered, the stalls were along the back wall, the sinks on the left wall, and the urinals on the right wall. No “splash guards” here…every cock in the row in full view and easy grabbing distance. And this t-room was always busy…not just a bunch of loitering queens too good to play. Eating cum out of uncut Uzbek and Russian cock became an obsession. 
 
And then one day, a door to the end stall opened, and there was a Soviet sergeant, in full uniform, rubbing his crotch. Khaki pants, shirt, and jacket; red and gold epaulets, emblazoned with the Soviet star; tall; and of course wearing the requisite hat I had once so lusted after. And as I went down on my knees, my eyes fixed on the red star on his brass belt buckle…I was about to get cock, not just any cock, but Soviet military cock. Boy would I have a story for the boys at the Eagle back home. 
 
Sarge played the part well…after a long slurping session, he turned me around, tore my pants down, and fucked me mercilessly. 
 
After I eventually caught my breath, I pulled up my pants, and staggered out if the stall, my gut happily filled with the seeds of another generation of Young Pioneers.  
 
I should have asked for his hat.

"Adorable" and "sweet" is exactly how Bozo would describe him - like a brown-eyed beagle puppy.
When Bozo chatted him up at Boardwalk, he seemed reserved...  almost shy. The good manners and Southern charm are likely attributable to his good North Carolina upbringing. Though as Bozo learned later, he does have a wild side 😀.
As for his rate and his sexual position, Bozo got the impression that HTH is flexible (no pun intended). It's best to ask him.
As usual, YMMV
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BTC
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To be fair, they’re not the fat 50 year old black, Asian or Latino guys either. 

The fat 50 year old white guys…..are not garotos. 
That covers 99% of your question. 

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After a disappointing session with another "certified masseur" off of rentmasseur the day before, I booked a session with RobertMasseurUK.
https://rentmasseur.com/RobertMasseurUK
Great session. Excellent deep-tissue massage and sensual elements throughout.
I found him more handsome than his pictures. Average body but way above-average massage skills. Nice extras at the end.
Very reasonable rates.

Given how many escorts pay for Premium membership or to be Rent Men of the Day, it's clear most men want their advertisement at the Top, even if they are Bottom.

love to swallow a stright guys load. so hot.

TBH I suggest you sign up for a month, message some guys, and get a feel for it. Be careful and watch out for scams, and don't directly discuss specific amounts of money or transactional sex on the site. I keep all my photos private, message them to get a vague/gut feeling for what sort of arrangement they're looking for, and then if it sounds like a match I'll share my photos and either my snapchat account, a google voice number, or my real number depending on how confident I am that they're legit. Then off-site I talk specifics + expectations.

Not necessarily.  My successful finds on Seeking have been equivalent to a relationship with a regular escort.  We'd meet more or less weekly and spend a couple of hours together.  However, the guys I targeted were managing to get along with their salaries but were looking for some extra spending money.  I avoided guys who seemed desperate for money and those who thought I was going to marry or adopt them, but there were still plenty who were interested.  Did the guys I meet have similar arrangements with other older guys?  I didn't know and I didn't care. 
 @Markmark's advice is good.  Write them, tell them vaguely what you're looking for, see if they respond and take the conversation from there.

Well that's good news!  But you've only been a member for 17 years and only have 2.8k posts... so not sure if we can trust you 😉

So you're saying Venus wants to be in alignment with Uranus?

I like to use more than my hands for extracurricular. 😉

The most I ever paid was actually a good deal - 1,200 for an overnight with a bodybuilder who did it all.
Unfortunately, I learned that competing bodybuilders need to eat dinner every 2 hours.

Over many years, I've developed a sensitivity to allowing mutual touch to be, well, mutual. In other words, I try not to get grabby right off the bat, and allow myself to relax and let the masseur do what it is he does well. If I've chosen someone who has a good reputation and I like the way he describes his massage and I like his reviews and any communication with him, I'm intrigued to experience what HE does. I always try to choose someone who can combine therapeutic techniques with sensual and erotic touch. I try not to choose someone who is therapeutic only--OR someone who has no therapeutic skills at all and is using the massage as a means of finding escort clients. No offense to escorts--some of my best friends are or have been escorts. But I'm looking for guys who have developed their individual ways of combining massage with sensuality and eroticism.
So here's what I do--and what I DON'T do: I generally try NOT to grab and pull or interfere with his rhythm and technique. As he massages my back, I let my arms hang down the sides of the table, but I hold off touching his leg until he's done serious back and shoulder work. I just breathe into his touch. That creates a physical connection between us that is entirely in his control. It establishes that I respect him as a practitioner. And he of course can begin to "read" my body without his touch being overtly sexually charged. Once that mutual trust and respect has been established and he can see that he's got me moaning and groaning a little bit, I let my hand touch his leg. I might give it a little squeeze, but I definitely do NOT grab it--I still want HIM to be in control of where on my body he's touching me and how the massage progresses from therapeutic to to sensual. Relinquishing that kind of control is part of why I'm there. I try not to break the spell he is casting over me. I also try not touch his dick until he moves it near my hand. But once he does, I touch it and maybe hold it--but again, it's touching WITHOUT grabbing or breaking the mood. At this point he's probably massaging the inside of my thigh, maybe between my cheeks, maybe sliding his hand beneath my hips, maybe touching my balls and cock. If at that point he presses his crotch near my head, I might break the spell a little, raise my head and suck him--but just for a bit, again being careful NOT to signal that you want the massage to be over and all you want to do is cum and leave. Remember--he's not a trick and he's not just an escort--he's an erotic masseur. He's also a human being with a lot of joys and sorrows. And he's had experiences you can't even imagine. It's like a dance--but you have to let him lead. He can probably teach you a helluva lot about connecting physically, sensually, and erotically with another man. Whether it progresses further is up to the two of you. As they like to say on this board, your mileage may vary.  But if you travel far...tip accordingly.
All that to say that my advice is: Don't try to control it. Choose well. And allow yourself to let it happen. 
 

Update: 
I stuck with it and lost some of the sagging fat. I hired a new trainer who's really helped me develop my chest and arms. 
I have been very popular in the last month particularly. I'm still not able to land all the muscle studs I lust after but I get a fair amount of attention. 
Starting testosterone and estrogen blockers have really helped. 
I'm still a long way from having the body I want. However, I can see the path forward now. Thanks guys for giving me your support and understanding. 

I doubt he will be free…but maybe he will be available…. 😋

For those guys who aren't only size queens (aren't most of us?!), but really have a size fetish (comparing, measuring, cockfighting, sph/worship, size hierarchy fantasies, etc), I wanted to share my explorations so far. 
The list only includes guys I've met in person in NYC, measured and/or compared with (some are more open to it than others, as you can imagine), and are minimally in the 8x6 club (in one dimension or the other, doesn't have to be both).
 
LENGTH KINGS:
9 (best estimation)
RicoNY (longest overall)
Anthony_xlhot
8-8.9
Maximumbenefit
Sergey (not sure he's still around)
HealingHandsXL
MaleMassagee
Jose_ok (been a while since i've seen him, but i'd say he's the "least huge" out of all these titans)
 
GIRTH KINGS: 
7+
Maximumbenefit (thickest overall)
Muscltomuscl (the white guy of this biracial duo)
Eli Noah (not sure he's still in business)
6-6.9
Anthony_xlhot (closest to 7" on this part of the list, could be at full size)
RicoNY
MaleMassagee
HealingHandsXL
Jose_ok
Will keep adding if I meet any more guys who qualify and I've done some sort of validation!

LOL. Better than Google Translate.

So to be clear: “Manhattanhotboy” in the initial post is also known as “Oliver” when he works at something called 27Spa. We like “Oliver” (aka Manhattanhotboy), and the photos of Manhattanhotboy (aka Oliver when at 27Spa) are accurate, but we don’t like the place called 27Spa because it’s “dingy”. So in sum, go see “Manhattanhotboy” because he is cute in a “white bro” sort of way (just like the photos for the “Manhattanhotboy” suggest) at his private location or see him at your home or hotel, and because he is a nice guy and gives a B+ (or is it a B-) massage. Correct?  

HOT!!!!!   I think I'll try falling asleep tonight by counting the loads I want to dump in him....

My third encounter on that cruise started also on grindr. On my profile I list that I'm into 3somes and groups, and this other top messaged me and said he was chatting with another bottom guy on the ship who was wanting to get fucked by two tops.
We all were discreet on the app without pictures so we weren't sure what each other looked like, but we were all into each other's stats enough that we decided to meet up in my room (I had a cabin to myself). The other top was married to a woman and he was traveling with her and their kids, and turns out the bottom guy was traveling with his longterm boyfriend/partner who wasn't as kinky yet and went to bed early. They weren't exactly open so he was sneaking around.
Anyways they both come to my cabin, and as often happens, its the other top who arrives first. He seems to be in his 50s, kind of chubby dad bod build (definitely heavier than the stats he had shared), nothing super hot or sexy, but to me, he was just another top buddy with whom i was going to share a bottom so i didnt need to find him particularly attractive. We do the awkward chit chat about nothing, mentioning guys we've seen on the cruise, etc. trying to pass the time before the bottom arrives (and desperately hoping he is real and doesn't flake). 
After what felt like ages but was probably only 10 minutes, the bottom finally arrives. He was in his mid 30s, tall, masculine, toned build, with a great ass and a decently sized dick. After getting quickly undressed, he starts sucking the other top first while I start playing with his ass (you may have noticed a theme from the other two stories). Im eating his ass out and hes tiiight. Feels like he hasn't been fucked in a while (and he said that his bf hadn't fucked him recently which is why he was so horny). So I eat his ass and finger it to get it wet and warmed up. 
After a while, I had him turn around and he started to suck my dick and the other top lines up with his ass and starts to fuck him. He goes slowly at first cause he can feel the bottom is tight but the bottom starts to rock back and forth and go harder too. The top starts fucking harder and I face fuck him harder too, gagging him and making him deepthroat my dick. At some point, I want to fuck him to, so we turn him around and he starts sucking the other top again (ATM is so fucking hot) and I start pounding his pussy. We go for a bit this way and then the other top says he's going to cum so we quickly switch again so the other top can breed his hole. 
Seeing a guy get freshly bred is a huge turn on for me so I then quickly start to climax and tell him to turn around again and I fuck my load into him, feeling the warm load from the other guy lubing up at the hole. He cleans both of our dicks with his mouth and the other top quickly dresses and leaves. The bottom stays and we chat for a bit and exchange numbers to keep in touch. Unfortunately I didn't get to breed him again on that cruise and he lives on the other side of the country, but we stay in touch with the hopes that we will be able to fuck again some day when we are in the same place. 
That was a fun cruise.